What if your annoying

[Rint]

The title speaks for itself. What do you do if people consider you annoying and lame?

Thanx

 

[Delta]

believe them first of all.

but then realize that you're a step ahead of every other annoying lame person - you are self aware.

that is more than most.

THEN, IDENTIFY what it is about your personality that gives others that perception. this is a TASK. this is HOMEWORK. do you talk too much? do you interrupt people constantly? do you talk about things no one else is interested in?

the issue with being extroverted is that the material that you put out there must be finely honed. but you're ahead of the game in the sense that you're not afraid to be OUT THERE. good. keep that. now figure out what works and what doesn't.

life is all about FEEDBACK and PAYING ATTENTION. you can't just charge ahead no matter what you're getting back.

-put stuff out
-see what the response is
-modify if necessary
-put stuff out again

pay attention.

delta

 

[KarmaSutra]

believe them first of all.

but then realize that you're a step ahead of every other annoying lame person - you are self aware.

that is more than most.

THEN, IDENTIFY what it is about your personality that gives others that perception. this is a TASK. this is HOMEWORK. do you talk too much? do you interrupt people constantly? do you talk about things no one else is interested in?

the issue with being extroverted is that the material that you put out there must be finely honed. but you're ahead of the game in the sense that you're not afraid to be OUT THERE. good. keep that. now figure out what works and what doesn't.

life is all about FEEDBACK and PAYING ATTENTION. you can't just charge ahead no matter what you're getting back.

-put stuff out
-see what the response is
-modify if necessary
-put stuff out again

pay attention.

delta

Now this is a good retort. Thoughtfull, positive and it has merit. Kudos brother.

 

[Ace of Flames]

Or,

Ask them. Just sit someone down and ask them seriously why they think that you're annoying. Tell them that you're trying to change for the better, and you need to know what you need to improve on. They'll probably be all for it. One less annoying person around, and maybe you'd even be a kool friend, if you really worked on it.

 

[reallyfreakinlost]

Maybe whoever told you you are annoying is wrong, and they're only saying that because they're jealous of one of your positive traits. Perhaps they feel threatened by that.