What if all you’ve ever met are low to medium interest women?

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I’ve been thinking back over my entire dating history and history with women in general and in my entire life I can’t think of a single girl who ever had high interest in me right off the bat. Most of my experience is they’re either low interest or medium interest but they both eventually turn into no interest. I’m talking about girls I want to date, I’ve had women I wasn’t interested in be highly interested in me. I’ve just never had the game to turn low interest into medium interest and medium interest into high interest. Anyone else experience this? I can honestly say I’ve never had a girl be in love with me that I know of.
I feel this. Back before I got into pick up I did have women approaching me and pursuing me but never knew how or what to do so I stayed a virgin.

After learning about pick up, I was able to get some interest but it seems that as I’ve learned more and more about red pill, women have gone off me more and more. It’s quite the phenomenon especially since I’m in a much better place emotionally, financially, physically, and experience-wise than I was as a virgin who didn’t know pick up.

I’ve only had 2 girls tell me they loved me and only one who was in love with me for more than a month.

So yeah it sucks and I don’t know the solution but I just wanted to share and say I feel you here
 

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That’s not always true though. One girl I dated a couple years ago got super wet every time we fvcked but one time she couldn’t get wet and I was ready to go, and then I lost my boner because she killed my mood and then she dumps me the next day lol
Yeah but did the dating relationship run its course?
 

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I feel this. Back before I got into pick up I did have women approaching me and pursuing me but never knew how or what to do so I stayed a virgin.

After learning about pick up, I was able to get some interest but it seems that as I’ve learned more and more about red pill, women have gone off me more and more. It’s quite the phenomenon especially since I’m in a much better place emotionally, financially, physically, and experience-wise than I was as a virgin who didn’t know pick up.

I’ve only had 2 girls tell me they loved me and only one who was in love with me for more than a month.

So yeah it sucks and I don’t know the solution but I just wanted to share and say I feel you here
Women can sense when you're red pill. Since they live in fantasyland now more than ever, it's a threat.
 

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No you’re right in everything you said. She even said “I feel like this turned into us being good friends” and after her wall of text I just replied back with “I’m not interested in being your friend” and that’s all I said. I didn’t say “yes this has been fun, I enjoyed dating you, blah blah blah” or anything like that. I always knew not to do favors for women you aren’t dating or not sleeping with but I didn’t realize to hold off on them for women you’d being seeing and sleeping with.
Well, regarding your last sentence, this is something you can learn through both experience ,by reading and consuming the right content AND by actually grasping it at some point...

I used to do carpentry, and depending on what type of doors it were , this might've saved her a HUGE sum of money. Especially if you even picked the doors up etc. Thats a job that could be worth 500 bucks easily.

Sosuave is full of principles and laws that describe the do's and don'ts when you date a woman. But you must understand it. Being nice leads to being used. Sounds like this woman "dated " you untill she gut what she wanted; free installment of two doors. Let that wake you up about being too nice too soon.
 

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I got told I was too short by one girl (I’m 5’10”)
I have experienced rejections due to height as well as a 5'10" guy.

I’ve been thinking back over my entire dating history and history with women in general and in my entire life I can’t think of a single girl who ever had high interest in me right off the bat.
I would say that my experiences have been similar a guy whose photos were rated in the high 6s/low 7s.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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I’ve always been a LTR guy but when I hit my mid 30’s it’s like I can’t hardly find one. I mean I’ve had some lays that were just that but they were never with girls I’d want to date seriously.
You shouldn’t be looking for a LTR, that’s up to the woman. You should make the girl have fun with you, and then when she falls in love and says let’s be in a LTR, THEN you can decide what to do. Not the other around.

My last girl I dated for a month she told me “we are so alike but yet so different, you’re a kind thoughtful man but I need more out of a partner”.
You: ”I admit I have feelings for you but this is not going work.”

And that was a day after I’d installed two doors in her house. She’s even tried to contact me since then but I ignored it.
Installed 2 doors after 1 month of dating? Man, you better have got laid or paid for that.
 

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Women can sense when you're red pill. Since they live in fantasyland now more than ever, it's a threat.
I’ve realized that. It really sucks because I went down this path to get better with women but that fact alone has derailed that goal
 

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I’ve realized that. It really sucks because I went down this path to get better with women but that fact alone has derailed that goal
Phuck 'em. Being polarizing is what you want. Be extra nonchalant with the ones who don't like your vibe and do your thing with the ones who do.
 

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I’ve been thinking back over my entire dating history and history with women in general and in my entire life I can’t think of a single girl who ever had high interest in me right off the bat. Most of my experience is they’re either low interest or medium interest but they both eventually turn into no interest. I’m talking about girls I want to date, I’ve had women I wasn’t interested in be highly interested in me. I’ve just never had the game to turn low interest into medium interest and medium interest into high interest. Anyone else experience this? I can honestly say I’ve never had a girl be in love with me that I know of.
I'm in the same boat, but I've had chicks that were strongly into me from the beginning, but they were all mental cases. :eek:
 

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Women can sense when you're red pill. Since they live in fantasyland now more than ever, it's a threat.
Yeah I'm finding much more pushback since I've started aligning my outlook more aggressively into the redpil philosophy. Its like they can sense it and want you to come back to the bluepill fray. I had a situation recently where I did a cold approach to a table with two girls and a guy who looks blue pill as F, gave them the height of my arrogance and they were complaining about how I was this and that. After I got bored of there **** I said yeah but who would you take home and screw, me or this guy. The look on there faces said it all :)
 

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What if you're short? :mad:
I know plenty of short guys in my peer group that do good with women. One of them especially not only has a gf, but he makes out and goes on dates with other girls freely. He has a very cool vibe about him and dresses well so he is not someone you wouldn't want to be with. Height only hurts when you're really very short, but I've seen short mafioso guys before who owned the room when they walked in, and women still swoon over him.
 

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I know plenty of short guys in my peer group that do good with women. One of them especially not only has a gf, but he makes out and goes on dates with other girls freely. He has a very cool vibe about him and dresses well so he is not someone you wouldn't want to be with. Height only hurts when you're really very short, but I've seen short mafioso guys before who owned the room when they walked in, and women still swoon over him.
But Mafia men are bad boys. :rolleyes:
 

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I once met a girl in my social circle. After about a year I tried to get with her. She pretty much shut me down at door of her apartment one night after some drinking and dancing. Sehx at that point would have been very acceptable. A few months later she asks me why she never heard from me after that. I told her because her interest level wasn't high enough. Another year went by and we got to know each other better. End up together drinking and dancing again. This time she tells me she wants me to go back to her apartment and I could stay. I asked her why the change of heart and she said because she didn't realize I was such a great guy. It took her getting to know me better that raised her interest level. I reminded her she had a chance and lost it and politely declined.

The problem with these situations is they are always a struggle and end up being frustrating. Its a lot of push-pull/hot-cold behavior. Too much work for your investment and there will many bumps in the road.

Dating can be a lot of fun with high interest girls. Low/Mid interest will burn a guy out.
I never stick with a low-interest gal. If I detect low interest, I usually just ghost and let her call me back (if I detect shyness but what seems like interest underneath, I'll stick it out longer). If I have a so-so 1st date, I'll give her one more chance, but if she gives some lame excuse like "I have to wash my dog" (yes, I got that one time :mad:), I definitely ghost.
 

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I’ve been thinking back over my entire dating history and history with women in general and in my entire life I can’t think of a single girl who ever had high interest in me right off the bat. Most of my experience is they’re either low interest or medium interest but they both eventually turn into no interest. I’m talking about girls I want to date, I’ve had women I wasn’t interested in be highly interested in me. I’ve just never had the game to turn low interest into medium interest and medium interest into high interest. Anyone else experience this? I can honestly say I’ve never had a girl be in love with me that I know of.
I have high interest woman, she is submissive, cooks, cleans, wants sex every night, follows me around like a lost dog, constantly tells me she loves me, always texting me, she is so needy for me and i love it.
 

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I’ve been thinking back over my entire dating history and history with women in general and in my entire life I can’t think of a single girl who ever had high interest in me right off the bat. Most of my experience is they’re either low interest or medium interest but they both eventually turn into no interest. I’m talking about girls I want to date, I’ve had women I wasn’t interested in be highly interested in me. I’ve just never had the game to turn low interest into medium interest and medium interest into high interest. Anyone else experience this? I can honestly say I’ve never had a girl be in love with me that I know of.
Question; on your average day of encountering women, how many do you have "high" interest in?

Give a percentage.
 

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Question; on your average day of encountering women, how many do you have "high" interest in?

Give a percentage.
You mean talking to our just out and about that I see? If it’s just out and about I’d say 20% on any given day. That’s high interest like “damn I could stare at her all day”. But medium interest I’d say 30% or so.
 

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I have high interest woman, she is submissive, cooks, cleans, wants sex every night, follows me around like a lost dog, constantly tells me she loves me, always texting me, she is so needy for me and i love it.
Never experienced that personally.
 

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I never experienced high interest in women that I wanted until I worked on myself. Too many lazy men with a disney mindset praying for choosing signals and high interest women to coddle them.
 

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