It’s not what, or how, its why.
Many of the so called Don Juans here complain about the silly questions newbies ask. They feel they are too good to give advice, and/or too good to give their advice on those silly, dumb, monotonous questions. They have a point though. So, to save some of these so called DJs from such ¨nuisance¨, ill help you, newbie, with something you must have in mind when in doubt (you must ultimately have NO doubt about what you do). We’ve all heard these newbie questions:
Do I give her a Valentine’s Day gift?
Do I invite her to a fancy restaurant to impress her?
Should I introduce my parents?
Is it too soon to ask her to be my girlfriend?
When at the car, should I open her door? How about in every door in general?
If I touch her elbow, will she have an orgasm? Will she like me then?
Should I go and tell her she is a very rude person?
Let’s answer some of these questions, how about the first one? Do I give her a Valentine’s Day gift? Depends. How long have you two been together? What kind of relationship do you two have? Does she know your parents? Do you know her parents? Do you do drugs? Is she the kind of girl that likes “cute” things, like puffy dogs, yellow cats, babies with glitter? Or does she like more goth things? And many, many more questions should be asked before giving advice. That is why sometimes newbies complain about not getting the advice they wanted, or they put in a pedestal someone who by chance knew what on heavens they meant. Because we cannot give advice without properly knowing about the situation. And, blindly, arrogant “DJs” nag newbies about not knowing the true way of “DonJuanism” and to, once again read the bible. What do these “DJs” do? They nag newbies. How? By telling them, arrogantly, that they are nothing, and should go read the bible. Why? Because they have nothing better to do than to show off their ¨successes¨ (which we cant know if true). Because they have emphasized insecurities. Now we’re talking.
Another question, When at the car, should I open her door? How about in every door in general? Ok, suppose, newbie, that you open her door, in every situation possible. What would you do? Open her door, exactly, not rocket science is it? Ok now, How would you open it? Ok, here people will have problems answering, because we don’t know if you’ll do it ****y+funnily, elegantly, arrogantly, cool, sensually, with your tongue out, scratching your crotch, fancily, etc. Now, to a question like this, they will surely tell you, newbie, to do it like if it was no big deal (which would be my advice), to do it arrogantly, or maybe they’d even tell you to do it with your eyes closed because it will create a semi-hypnotic state
confused: ???). As I said before, we can’t quite answer because we don’t know anything about you, but we try, as a community to help (some of us, some, as I said, just show off their supposed knowledge). Now, next question, Why would you do it? Because you want her to like you? Because you think she will see how educated you are? Because you saw it in a movie and you think it’s cool? Because you saw your grandpa doing it, but you aren’t sure because he never got many women that you know of, etc. THIS is the question you should ask yourself. If you think, because of some lunatic reason, that this will somehow make her love you sooooo much, you are so wrong. She won’t love you, or fall in love with you just because you obsess over her, she won’t. What will happen is the exact opposite, she wont want to be with you, she will avoid you, and you should know this, because you surely read the bible (you should really really read the DJ bible). The proper answer to this would be that you are a fu$%&”! gentleman, and don’t care what she, or anyone thinks, if you do it, you just want to be proper. Or maybe, you won’t do it because she can do it herself, besides; she isn’t your girlfriend is she? Once she becomes your girlfriend, then she may complain, but for the moment, she can do it by herself.
Ok, lets use the what, how, why method in another question. What is this that you ask? Should I go and tell her she is a very rude person? How would you go and to this? Maybe extra upset, and angry, feeling like breaking something, or, maybe keeping your cool, etc. Now, as I said, Why is the important question, Why would you do it? Because she didn’t call you back as she said? She didn’t show up at your date? Do you really think this will make a difference? She will go back to you and ask for forgiveness and hold you till break of dawn? No, she won’t. In other words, you must think, Why am I doing this? Because I don’t have things more important to do than to think this girl? Because I am frustrated? You must also ask yourself: Why am I doing this?, Because this would be DJish? Let your decision be on something that is truly worth it, which means, it would be a DJish decision, because its worth it.
Another one, Should I introduce my parents? This already answers the question What , you are going to introduce your parents. How? This is not so important, it will come up naturally once you know Why you will do it. Why would you introduce your parents? Because lately she has been sad, and you think that will cheer her up? Because it’s your first date and you don’t want to come up as a stalker? (???). Answer these questions yourself, and any other question, WHY will you do this? Is this the best you can do? What would your role model (its in bold because I will edit soon to make it a link to a mini-tip I will post) do in this case?
The proper answer to this would be that you are a fu$%&”! gentleman, and don’t care what she, or anyone thinks, if you do it, you just want to be proper. Or maybe, you won’t do it because she can do it herself, besides, she isn’t your girlfriend is she? Once she becomes your girlfriend, then she may complain, but for the moment, she can do it by herself. You must also ask yourself: Why am I doing this? Because this would be DJish? Let your decision be on something that is truly worth it, which means, it would be a DJish decision, because its worth it.
Why will you approach a woman in the first place? Why will you ask her out, kiss her, have sex with her? Because you are a MAN. Do it because you are listening to yourself, it is YOU who is talking, not me, SamePendo, not Pook, not Anti-Dump, not SexPDX, not blitz, Vassago, not MOTU, it is YOU who is living your life and making your own decisions.
Many of the so called Don Juans here complain about the silly questions newbies ask. They feel they are too good to give advice, and/or too good to give their advice on those silly, dumb, monotonous questions. They have a point though. So, to save some of these so called DJs from such ¨nuisance¨, ill help you, newbie, with something you must have in mind when in doubt (you must ultimately have NO doubt about what you do). We’ve all heard these newbie questions:
Do I give her a Valentine’s Day gift?
Do I invite her to a fancy restaurant to impress her?
Should I introduce my parents?
Is it too soon to ask her to be my girlfriend?
When at the car, should I open her door? How about in every door in general?
If I touch her elbow, will she have an orgasm? Will she like me then?
Should I go and tell her she is a very rude person?
Let’s answer some of these questions, how about the first one? Do I give her a Valentine’s Day gift? Depends. How long have you two been together? What kind of relationship do you two have? Does she know your parents? Do you know her parents? Do you do drugs? Is she the kind of girl that likes “cute” things, like puffy dogs, yellow cats, babies with glitter? Or does she like more goth things? And many, many more questions should be asked before giving advice. That is why sometimes newbies complain about not getting the advice they wanted, or they put in a pedestal someone who by chance knew what on heavens they meant. Because we cannot give advice without properly knowing about the situation. And, blindly, arrogant “DJs” nag newbies about not knowing the true way of “DonJuanism” and to, once again read the bible. What do these “DJs” do? They nag newbies. How? By telling them, arrogantly, that they are nothing, and should go read the bible. Why? Because they have nothing better to do than to show off their ¨successes¨ (which we cant know if true). Because they have emphasized insecurities. Now we’re talking.
Another question, When at the car, should I open her door? How about in every door in general? Ok, suppose, newbie, that you open her door, in every situation possible. What would you do? Open her door, exactly, not rocket science is it? Ok now, How would you open it? Ok, here people will have problems answering, because we don’t know if you’ll do it ****y+funnily, elegantly, arrogantly, cool, sensually, with your tongue out, scratching your crotch, fancily, etc. Now, to a question like this, they will surely tell you, newbie, to do it like if it was no big deal (which would be my advice), to do it arrogantly, or maybe they’d even tell you to do it with your eyes closed because it will create a semi-hypnotic state
confused: ???). As I said before, we can’t quite answer because we don’t know anything about you, but we try, as a community to help (some of us, some, as I said, just show off their supposed knowledge). Now, next question, Why would you do it? Because you want her to like you? Because you think she will see how educated you are? Because you saw it in a movie and you think it’s cool? Because you saw your grandpa doing it, but you aren’t sure because he never got many women that you know of, etc. THIS is the question you should ask yourself. If you think, because of some lunatic reason, that this will somehow make her love you sooooo much, you are so wrong. She won’t love you, or fall in love with you just because you obsess over her, she won’t. What will happen is the exact opposite, she wont want to be with you, she will avoid you, and you should know this, because you surely read the bible (you should really really read the DJ bible). The proper answer to this would be that you are a fu$%&”! gentleman, and don’t care what she, or anyone thinks, if you do it, you just want to be proper. Or maybe, you won’t do it because she can do it herself, besides; she isn’t your girlfriend is she? Once she becomes your girlfriend, then she may complain, but for the moment, she can do it by herself.Ok, lets use the what, how, why method in another question. What is this that you ask? Should I go and tell her she is a very rude person? How would you go and to this? Maybe extra upset, and angry, feeling like breaking something, or, maybe keeping your cool, etc. Now, as I said, Why is the important question, Why would you do it? Because she didn’t call you back as she said? She didn’t show up at your date? Do you really think this will make a difference? She will go back to you and ask for forgiveness and hold you till break of dawn? No, she won’t. In other words, you must think, Why am I doing this? Because I don’t have things more important to do than to think this girl? Because I am frustrated? You must also ask yourself: Why am I doing this?, Because this would be DJish? Let your decision be on something that is truly worth it, which means, it would be a DJish decision, because its worth it.
Another one, Should I introduce my parents? This already answers the question What , you are going to introduce your parents. How? This is not so important, it will come up naturally once you know Why you will do it. Why would you introduce your parents? Because lately she has been sad, and you think that will cheer her up? Because it’s your first date and you don’t want to come up as a stalker? (???). Answer these questions yourself, and any other question, WHY will you do this? Is this the best you can do? What would your role model (its in bold because I will edit soon to make it a link to a mini-tip I will post) do in this case?
The proper answer to this would be that you are a fu$%&”! gentleman, and don’t care what she, or anyone thinks, if you do it, you just want to be proper. Or maybe, you won’t do it because she can do it herself, besides, she isn’t your girlfriend is she? Once she becomes your girlfriend, then she may complain, but for the moment, she can do it by herself. You must also ask yourself: Why am I doing this? Because this would be DJish? Let your decision be on something that is truly worth it, which means, it would be a DJish decision, because its worth it.
Why will you approach a woman in the first place? Why will you ask her out, kiss her, have sex with her? Because you are a MAN. Do it because you are listening to yourself, it is YOU who is talking, not me, SamePendo, not Pook, not Anti-Dump, not SexPDX, not blitz, Vassago, not MOTU, it is YOU who is living your life and making your own decisions.
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