What happens to these party girls?

[Knight of Roses]

Just out of curiosity, have any of you followed any of these young 20-24 yo party girls over a course of decade or longer? What happens to them? Do they leave the bartending and bottle girl roles in late twenties and settle down with starter husbands and mediocre lives?

I vaguely remember in my early twenties, one of my friends was dating this club promoter girl. She was gorgeous. Fast forward 15 years, she’s in her mid thirties, gained 40 lbs and I wouldn’t even glance twice at her.
Made me feel a bit sad, wondered if you all had seen similar fates?

 

[Willie Naylor]

2009, when I was in college, I met this bottle girl named Brittany one night at the club.

She had been dating a guy named Brad for a few years, and had all her stuff together. Looks, money, etc.

I've kept in touch w/ her thru the years, and she's now married to Brad, has 2 kids, and works as a Property Manager for a big commercial real estate firm.

 

[The Duke]

The one I knew found a guy to help pay the bills, popped out a kid with him, and she got a regular job.

Another I actually dated when she was late 30's and no longer in the bar business struggled and lived off her daddy's money. She became a cosmetics girl at a department store. She finally found a guy to marry that looked a lot like me but older. Hb9. . In her 20's rich guys would fly her to Florida to hang out at the beach house. They'd give her a credit card and she could buy whatever she wanted. Later in life she realized she got used and it deeply hurt her. She Appeared to have it all but so broken on the inside. So sad.

 

[Grounded eagle]

Just out of curiosity, have any of you followed any of these young 20-24 yo party girls over a course of decade or longer? What happens to them? Do they leave the bartending and bottle girl roles in late twenties and settle down with starter husbands and mediocre lives?

I vaguely remember in my early twenties, one of my friends was dating this club promoter girl. She was gorgeous. Fast forward 15 years, she’s in her mid thirties, gained 40 lbs and I wouldn’t even glance twice at her.
Made me feel a bit sad, wondered if you all had seen similar fates?

And people say the wall isn’t real.Smh.

 

[biggoal]

The one I knew found a guy to help pay the bills, popped out a kid with him, and she got a regular job.

Another I actually dated when she was late 30's and no longer in the bar business struggled and lived off her daddy's money. She became a cosmetics girl at a department store. She finally found a guy to marry that looked a lot like me but older. Hb9. . In her 20's rich guys would fly her to Florida to hang out at the beach house. They'd give her a credit card and she could buy whatever she wanted. Later in life she realized she got used and it deeply hurt her. She Appeared to have it all but so broken on the inside. So sad.

That sounds like Simping Maximus right there. Were these like rich Arabs and that which you see in places like Miami? Rich, ethnic simps.

 

[Guy69JackBlue]

rich guys would fly her to Florida to hang out at the beach house. They'd give her a credit card and she could buy whatever she wanted.

This is both the most alpha and the most beta behavior imaginable. It's alpha cause they can afford it without affecting their lifestyle and the girl does whatever they want. It's beta because it's hardcore simping.

This paradox is not often discussed on this forum, but this is "the game" in it's most pure and extreme sense.

 

[biggoal]

This is both the most alpha and the most beta behavior imaginable. It's alpha cause they can afford it without affecting their lifestyle and the girl does whatever they want. It's beta because it's hardcore simping.

This paradox is not often discussed on this forum, but this is "the game" in it's most pure and extreme sense.

Except it screams rich ethnicel. Any uber wealthy white guy or black man for that matter would simply be hiring high end escorts for their services. Maybe a rich old man who needs companionship, but even Robert Kraft just goes to massage parlors to bust a nut.

Lets say you have 10 million dollars. Why the F would I let a woman go out and spend 7k on stupid sh*t when you can just hire a high end escort for a few hours and then she's on her way and you get back to making more money?

When you have this kind of money you don't need to simp and bribe women unless you're really obese and old, but even there here in FL I see these old guys with younger women. Unless you're socially inept or really obese, when you have money like this you shouldn't be having problems.

 

[Guy69JackBlue]

Except it screams rich ethnicel. Any uber wealthy white guy or black man for that matter would simply be hiring high end escorts for their services. Maybe a rich old man who needs companionship, but even Robert Kraft just goes to massage parlors to bust a nut.

Lets say you have 10 million dollars. Why the F would I let a woman go out and spend 7k on stupid sh*t when you can just hire a high end escort for a few hours and then she's on her way and you get back to making more money?

When you have this kind of money you don't need to simp and bribe women unless you're really obese and old, but even there here in FL I see these old guys with younger women. Unless you're socially inept or really obese, when you have money like this you shouldn't be having problems.

Because there's an appeal of paying girls that don't usually work as escorts. Like 20yo sugar babies, for example.

But it's really just the same thing.

 

[Mike32ct]

I know a former 20s bottle service girl. She’s now a 38 yo (and heavier) bar girl.

 

[Bingo-Player]

One i knew well whom was heavily into the IBIZA worker scene

I didn't think she was that hot , she was too short like 5ft but relatively pretty and quirky she fit very well into that scene of drink , drugs and sun

She hooked up with a moderately successful DJ from the UK , he fvcked her around and kept cheating that really messed her up

then covid put an end to the party scene and she found herself back in the uk with no job and no skills

Was constantly posting on Instagram about being depressed and mental health

Not sure what she is doing now but it wasn't looking promising

 

[SW15]

Just out of curiosity, have any of you followed any of these young 20-24 yo party girls over a course of decade or longer? What happens to them? Do they leave the bartending and bottle girl roles in late twenties and settle down with starter husbands and mediocre lives?

I vaguely remember in my early twenties, one of my friends was dating this club promoter girl. She was gorgeous. Fast forward 15 years, she’s in her mid thirties, gained 40 lbs and I wouldn’t even glance twice at her.
Made me feel a bit sad, wondered if you all had seen similar fates?

No, I haven't followed a party girl over a decade or longer. I didn't have any close relationships with any bartenders, promotional models, bottle service, or just general party girls 10-17 years ago.

I have been able to see some women from my high school or my college's top sororities age. These were not the biggest party girls but they were not hermits either. I was surprised some woman my age from college ended up with a man 9 years older. She was chased by a lot of men of the same class or 1 class ahead in college. Many of the top sorority girls who became mothers have experienced a drop off in looks.

I moved to my current city in 2011 and met the person who I call my closest friend soon after. In 2011, he had been in a one year long with a 23 year old. He's remained in that same relationship since our 2011 introduction, eventually marrying her. In 2021, a few years into a marriage, she is a 33 year old with a significant midsection pooch despite having carried a pregnancy to term.

I would guess that a lot of the bartenders, promo models, club promoters, or general party girls of ages 18-24 don't look that good at 35. The ones who take fitness seriously will retain some good looks and not having a kid will also help. A 35 year old former Hooters girl or bartender who is fit and childless will likely still look good, but not as good as she did at 23.

 

[rjc149]

The party lifestyle tends to age people, of either gender.

Booze, drugs, bar food, late-night junk meals, poor sleep, smoking, etc. The lack of discipline to break out of this lifestyle translates into the lack of discipline to exercise, eat a proper diet, advance professionally, etc.

I can think of several party girls who were hotties in their 20's, and now sport beer guts and sagging faces. I had a fling with a busty red-headed girl back in the 00's, she was hot enough to bust 3-4 times per night with her. She was a bartender whose social circle revolved around bars and pubs. She did Thirsty Thursday, Friday-Saturday, and Sunday Funday/NFL Sunday, every week, for a decade. Out drinking 4 nights per week. When you're tending bar in your 20's, making $60-70K per year and socializing non-stop, you tend to lose motivation to advance in life. You're making a living and having fun, so why bother with anything else? That's how a lot of middle-aged bartenders end up where they are. That's where this girl ended up.

I saw her recently tending bar at a pub I rarely go to. She was sporting some shoulder tats and her gut protruded past her D-cup tits. Oof.

I can think of many more men who followed this trajectory, but it's always more pronounced on women who used to be belles of the ball.

 

[zinc4]

Just out of curiosity, have any of you followed any of these young 20-24 yo party girls over a course of decade or longer? What happens to them? Do they leave the bartending and bottle girl roles in late twenties and settle down with starter husbands and mediocre lives?

I vaguely remember in my early twenties, one of my friends was dating this club promoter girl. She was gorgeous. Fast forward 15 years, she’s in her mid thirties, gained 40 lbs and I wouldn’t even glance twice at her.
Made me feel a bit sad, wondered if you all had seen similar fates?

Most end up as single mothers imo.

 

[2Rocky]

30 years later....

 

[BeExcellent]

Advice from the old lady:

The party life style will age people very quickly if they abuse their bodies and do not get sufficient rest. Consumption (of alcohol, tobacco, pot, drugs, whatever) is unhealthy if done regularly. Sun exposure is another major culprit to ageing. Avoid the sun, get enough sleep, go easy on consumption, eat healthy & exercise is a formula for keeping yourself attractive after your 20s.

Being in my 50s and still active in the nightlife scene I can tell you that few women my age have aged well. Why? It requires a combination of self discipline (to avoid excessive partying) and effort (to eat properly, rest enough and exercise).

I have very expensive clothes. When I was in my childbearing years I was very careful about weight gain during pregnancy, I was disciplined in my diet, and I breastfed each of my 3 children. No way was I going to gain weight and have to buy another wardrobe.

After each birth I lost the baby weight within a month and actually had to eat to keep weight on (a healthy baby will consume 600+ calories a day of milk…and the mother has to produce that milk.) Breastfeeding sheds weight for the mother very quickly because of the relative caloric deficit.

Its also good genetics but over time lifestyle choices have a significantly greater impact on outcomes.

The other thing is too few of these women in the industry cultivate a skillset beyond their looks. You won’t find medical students or pharmacy students in the party scene. They are busy training their brains to earn a living instead of using their bodies/looks.

My playboy friend had a female roommate he had dated & banged off & on for a while. She was a tall thin blonde working in retail as a swimsuit model/salesperson by day, going out most nights. In her late 40s early 50s her metabolism slowed, she gained weight, developed depression (from the wall & depending on her looks for so long) because her looks are fading, and she also developed a drinking problem. He had to kick her out of his house and she ended up moving away back to her mother’s house. She had never bothered finding a career to earn a robust living. She didn’t think she would need to.

I long ago developed a career and have always been able to take care of myself. But your typical party girl isn’t thinking that way, except she might attach herself at some point to the best financial prospect she can find.

So it can end badly.

 

[joesbigship]

I would love to agree with those claiming those involved in the 'party scene' age more poorly than average, but I seriously doubt that's the case.

The 'normal' working married folks I know (who are the overwhelming majority) don't age any better than party folk. The stresses of career, mortgage, raising kids, and of course having kids on women's bodies, all take a toll.

I'm not advocating for any type of a lifestyle in particular, but it's a fallacy to say that indulging in club and party life somehow ages you prematurely.

In this day and age, there's no way around stress. I sometimes don't even like to watch youtube vids even from young content creators since they've aged so badly over the past year and a half. Even their demeanors have changed, once bubbly, optimistic and full of life, they now look and act completely differently.

 

[Barrister]

Except it screams rich ethnicel. Any uber wealthy white guy or black man for that matter would simply be hiring high end escorts for their services. Maybe a rich old man who needs companionship, but even Robert Kraft just goes to massage parlors to bust a nut.

Lets say you have 10 million dollars. Why the F would I let a woman go out and spend 7k on stupid sh*t when you can just hire a high end escort for a few hours and then she's on her way and you get back to making more money?

When you have this kind of money you don't need to simp and bribe women unless you're really obese and old, but even there here in FL I see these old guys with younger women. Unless you're socially inept or really obese, when you have money like this you shouldn't be having problems.

It is called companionship. You don't get it by just "hiring escorts" like you and some other posters seem to think. It actually explains a lot about you that you don't understand this. These rich guys, regardless of any silly "ethnic" argument you are making, do this because it is the easiest way they know to get short term companionship in more ways than just sex. These types of women are motivated by money and being pampered so it becomes a certain symbiosis.

 

[Barrister]

I would love to agree wit those claiming those involved in the 'party scene' age more poorly than average, but I seriously doubt that's the case.

The 'normal' working married folks I know (who are the overwhelming majority) don't age any better than party folk. The stresses of career, mortgage, raising kids, and of course having kids on women's bodies, all take a toll.

I'm not advocating for any type of a lifestyle in particular, but it's a fallacy to say that indulging in club and party life somehow ages you prematurely.

In this day and age, there's no way around stress. I sometimes don't even like to watch youtube vids even from young content creators since they've aged so badly over the past year and a half. Even their demeanors have changed, once bubbly, optimistic and full of life, they now look and act completely differently.

A sh1tty American lifestyle that includes high fat foods, a lot of alcohol, little sleep, and no exercise ages most people regardless of sex. Regardless of whether they are a "party animal."

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I have very expensive clothes. When I was in my childbearing years I was very careful about weight gain during pregnancy, I was disciplined in my diet, and I breastfed each of my 3 children. No way was I going to gain weight and have to buy another wardrobe.

I generally like your posts but this is very clearly TMI. No one cares about breastfeeding and the wardrobe bit is a clear humblebrag. The bit about your playboy friend's roommate is relevant, but that's only 1/3 of the post and the rest is "look at me". Female solipsism, no avoiding it.


To address the post, they get old and bitter if they're not super-hot. At some point, they end up on Plenty of Fish.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Just out of curiosity, have any of you followed any of these young 20-24 yo party girls over a course of decade or longer? What happens to them? Do they leave the bartending and bottle girl roles in late twenties and settle down with starter husbands and mediocre lives?

I vaguely remember in my early twenties, one of my friends was dating this club promoter girl. She was gorgeous. Fast forward 15 years, she’s in her mid thirties, gained 40 lbs and I wouldn’t even glance twice at her.
Made me feel a bit sad, wondered if you all had seen similar fates?

I don't care to playboy. Too busy on my purpose.

Op you aren't doing it right. Get on your grind. Get the bag. Be on your purpose. Pickup hotter tighter younger girls. What you find is that women get trolled by life harder than you or I ever could.

No sweeter feel pulling a barely legal baddie and running into skanks from the past. Fat as ****kkk single mom, bastard children from different men, life is rubbish.

Enjoy the decline. Pillage what you can. I got my troll cannon charged up.