What game is she playing with me?

[alx]

We went to a sports stadium for a work party and she joked it would make her day if I streaked across the pitch. She seems to look at me a lot at work, but she’s difficult to talk to and complains that I ask too many questions.

She’s aloof and unwilling to make time for me, I know what I need to do is to be even more aloof than her. So probably nothing will come of this situation, should I just be flattered that she likes looking at me? What’s the deal with that?

Last time I spoke to her about relationships she made it clear she was in a LTR and I can only assume that’s still the case. If she liked me and she's broken up, then it would be on her to make sure I find out right?

 

[alx]

Girls still pursue men while in LTRs. One of my plates and I had a similar situation like this. She was in a LTR and we went out a couple of times and the second time the tension was too much and it boiled over.

What happened man?

 

[:-)]

She's told you she's in an LTR, is aloof and unwilling to make time for you and complains you ask too many questions. What makes you think she's playing games? That she looks at you? I look at plenty of people at my workplace. It doesn't mean I'm attracted to them. Often I'll just focus on one person and look at them out of contempt.

 

[WanderingMan]

She's told you she's in an LTR, is aloof and unwilling to make time for you and complains you ask too many questions. What makes you think she's playing games? That she looks at you? I look at plenty of people at my workplace. It doesn't mean I'm attracted to them. Often I'll just focus on one person and look at them out of contempt.

And that last part made me laugh - :crackup:

Even if she likes looking at you, that she's possibly physically attracted to you, it sounds like she's giving you **** test after **** test, and a shot in the dark says that you're failing them. There's really nothing you can do to get her to like you.....other than simply not putting up with her ****.

Why do you guys even give these women the time of day? They treat you like clowns and you're surprised they're not jumping on your ding a ling.

 

[Tictac]

She's not playing a game. You are.

You are playing the 'I wish she was interested in me' game and seeing 'signs' that aren't there.

 

[alx]

I don't see how I'm in the wrong for talking to a girl who can't take her eyes off me. It's not really my fault for noticing that and acting on it. Women complain that guys ogle them, but they get away with the exact same thing. If she holds me in contempt as you say then she is a bully and I'm not in the wrong.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Just because I like looking at a Picasso painting doesn't mean I'm going to buy it. Just because a guy watches porn doesn't mean he actually wants to get with said porn actresses. And just because a woman is looking at you constantly doesn't mean she wants to be with you. ACTIONS, my friend - if her actions aren't saying "I want to be with you," it's because she doesn't want to be with you.

 

[Mr_Maximus]

We went to a sports stadium for a work party and she joked it would make her day if I streaked across the pitch. She seems to look at me a lot at work, but she’s difficult to talk to and complains that I ask too many questions.

She’s aloof and unwilling to make time for me, I know what I need to do is to be even more aloof than her. So probably nothing will come of this situation, should I just be flattered that she likes looking at me? What’s the deal with that?

Last time I spoke to her about relationships she made it clear she was in a LTR and I can only assume that’s still the case. If she liked me and she's broken up, then it would be on her to make sure I find out right?

If she is playing games you should walk away. You sound confused, like her actions are confusing to you, which means you should walk away. In my opinion, her behavior is not confusing.

Reply to yourself giving yourself advice.

 

[:-)]

I don't see how I'm in the wrong for talking to a girl who can't take her eyes off me. It's not really my fault for noticing that and acting on it. Women complain that guys ogle them, but they get away with the exact same thing. If she holds me in contempt as you say then she is a bully and I'm not in the wrong.

It's not that you are wrong. It's that you are acting on and taking action with a girl who's told you she is an LTR, aloof, not willing to make time for you and complaining that you ask too many questions. You're just setting yourself up for failure.

You're assuming that her looking at you means she is attracted to you when in reality it could mean anything or nothing at all. That you know she's looking at you means you must be looking at her. How do you know she isn't looking at you to see if you are still looking at her. For all you know you might be creeping her out.

 

[alx]

I obviously had to take some action in the first place or how could I have found out those things about her?

So what do you want me to do? Just sit there and smile like a chump while she mentally undresses me? I guess I have no choice!

 

[GS750]

We went to a sports stadium for a work party and she joked it would make her day if I streaked across the pitch. She seems to look at me a lot at work, but she’s difficult to talk to and complains that I ask too many questions.

She’s aloof and unwilling to make time for me, I know what I need to do is to be even more aloof than her. So probably nothing will come of this situation, should I just be flattered that she likes looking at me? What’s the deal with that?

Last time I spoke to her about relationships she made it clear she was in a LTR and I can only assume that’s still the case. If she liked me and she's broken up, then it would be on her to make sure I find out right?

You should just play it cool, you have no other choice really. She won't make time for you and she acts distant. So you back off and do your thing and pursue others girls.

 

[Tictac]

So what do you want me to do? Just sit there and smile like a chump while she mentally undresses me? Ugh.

__________

One of the funniest things I have read on SoSuave EVER!

 

[alx]

Yeah, that would be a nice turnout. Looks like I would be a moron to think that's going to happen.


Why is it so hard to find someone smart sane and available :box:

 

[Mr_Maximus]

Yeah, that would be a nice turnout. Looks like I would be a moron to think that's going to happen.


Why is it so hard to find someone smart sane and available :box:

Because you think and believe it is.

 

[alx]

Would it be too much to ask for a genuinely single girl to allow me to catch her checking me out once in a while? Apparently so.

 

[WanderingMan]

I obviously had to take some action in the first place or how could I have found out those things about her?

So what do you want me to do? Just sit there and smile like a chump while she mentally undresses me? I guess I have no choice!

Who said anything about smiling like a chump? Why do you care either way if a chick's checking you out?

 

[Mr_Maximus]

Would it be too much to ask for a genuinely single girl to allow me to catch her checking me out once in a while? Apparently so.

No, it is not too much to ask for but to catch her checking you out is not important. This one;

Does not have time for you.
Is difficult to talk to and complains when you ask her questions.
Is unavailable.

She is not what you are asking for or what you want. She is disqualified. So look elsewhere until you find want you want.