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Master Don Juan
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Why? To figure this out, you have to get the female perspective.
Most guys aren't able to see the female perspective. When they go out to "tha clubb", they set a goal for themselves to pursue women. They go out with the "hunter" mentality.
Even the guys who stand in the corner and don't talk to women, they're still in the "hunter" mentality...they just lack either the skill or the balls to be good "hunters".
To get the female perspective, you have to set the hunter mentality aside. You have to let go of the desire to chase after women and the hinging of your night's "success" on whether or not you pull digits or hook up. You have to go out with the mentality of just enjoying the experience, the moment of being at "tha clubb" and you have to be willing to let the women chase YOU.
Then you cease to become the "hunter" and become the "hunted".
Even if you do this, most men won't get the full effect, because to be the "hunted", you have to be attractive, one way or another. I'm an attractive guy, so I can pull this off.
Here's the deal...as the prey, you learn one thing very quickly...the best "hunters" are, in fact, RARELY the ones you want to be hunted by.
Both women and men have in their heads an idea of what members of the opposite sex they want to hook up with.
For men, it's usually a matter of looks. Especially for a one-night stand, the way a woman looks, or the way she carries herself, or even small quirky "fetish"-type things that one guy likes over another is what divides women on men's classic one-to-ten scale.
Women are a little more fickle. They have been taught from birth that they deserve a "Prince Charming", so they're looking for the whole package...looks, wealth, power, social influence, fun, caring, etc, etc...
The thing is, if you're an attractive person, the best "hunters" of the opposite gender aren't necessarily the Prince or Princess you're looking to score with that night. I know from my experience as "prey" that it's the average-looking chicks, MILFs/cougars, etc who are the best "man-hunters". They have to be. Because they aren't as attractive as other women, they have to play the game well. Just like in poker, anyone can be a good player with good cards. It's when you get rags that you have to REALLY be good.
Same thing with women...only on another order of magnitude. Attractive women, as soon as they hit the bar, have guys circling them like flies on a horse's arse. Now all of these guys may have SOMETHING endearing about them. For example, one may be strong and muscular. Another may have a very interesting style. Still another may seem like he'd be fun to hang out with.
But ESPECIALLY when she's with her friends, she MUST impress with the caliber of man she pulls. These guys just don't measure up to the "Prince Charming" standard that she was taught that she "deserved" a long time ago.
You ever start chatting up an average-looking girl, then start worrying that her being so close to you starts ruining your value to the hotter women around? That they'd think that because you're with THAT girl that they shouldn't waste their time with you?
With women, again, another order of magnitude. MOST guys will NOT approach a woman who already has a man up-ons. She doesn't want to be hunted by the good hunters, the average guys...she wants to be hunted by the Prince Charmings.
BUT...
And this BUT is the thing that separates the Don Juans from the non-Juans. This is the thing that AFCs don't know that guys with "natural game" seem to have an innate subconscious understanding of. It's nothing new, but once you accept this reality, your game improves astronomically.
Here it is:
What a woman wants in a man is completely a mechanic of her BRAIN. It has nothing to do with what's going on in her P*SSY. Her P*SSY wants to be F*CKED.
Furthermore...unless you are ugly, annoying, repulsive, or show indications of being a poor lover, her P*SSY wants to be F*CKED by YOU.
If there's one thing that you pick up on from being the prey instead of the hunter, it's that there's a constant battle between your brain and your loins for control over who you f*ck. That average-looking girl, if she's a good "hunter", she has two things: sexuality and persistence.
That means she know what turns a man on. She's VERY kinesthetic and has no problem with moving from subtle to more and more overt touching. She isn't put off when you look at other, better-looking girls dancing out there on the dance floor. She isn't put off by your polite shying away from her.
I can sit there and be thinking to myself, "This girl will not leave me ALONE! Dammit, I'm trying to cold-shoulder her, but look at how she rubs up against me, trying to make it look all innocent and silly. She's kino-ing me...and I know that pack of blondes over there won't come near me with her all up on me like this." But there's also another thought in my head that's scaring the hell out of me and at the same time really turning me on. "This girl is actually turning me ON...and if she doesn't leave me alone, I'm probably going to END UP F*CKING HER...and ENJOYING IT."
See, I also have something in common with the typical woman right now...I'm drastically undersexed at this point in time. Desirable women are TYPICALLY undersexed, largely due to the whole "slvt" stigma and their protective ego mechanisms. But the truth is that women have an equivalent sex-drive to men. They WANT to be F*CKED, and their p*ssy does not particularly care WHO does it, as long as the guy knocks it out and the guy isn't hideous or an utter tard.
So again, it's another order of magnitude with an attractive woman. It's an all-out war between her conscious mind (I don't want to be a slvt, I want to impress my friends with the caliber of man I hook up with, I want to find Prince Charming and not waste time with average guys, he has to be good looking, rich, no play till the third date, etc, etc) and her p*ssy (god, I want to be f*cked! I just want a good c*ck because I know it's gonna feel so good! I wanna c*m at the hands of a man soooo bad!!)
And the more drinks she gets into her system, and the more TIME she spends in proximity with a man who knows how to push a woman's sexual buttons, the more that her p*ssy starts overwhelming her conscious mind.
And that's just what these "good hunters", these average guys, do. They push her sexual buttons as long as she will allow them to...until she eventually breaks down and hooks up with him. Then she'll make him into Mr. Right IN HER HEAD, AFTER THE FACT, often setting herself up for a long, bitter romance that ends in heartbreak.
So a woman NEEDS a way to stop these guys from pushing her sexual buttons. Because if she can stop that, she can then use her BRAIN to filter out men. She can play her little head-games, run her sh!t-tests, whatever it is women do.
A woman has a couple of strategies she can use to keep a man communicating with her BRAIN and not bypassing that and talking directly to her P*SSY (which is almost CERTAIN to end in sex).
One such strategy is to travel to the "meat markets" in large packs. She becomes part of a cluster of women. When a "hunter" singles out one girl, the others start to "run interference". They'll interrupt the guy and swing her onto another girl, who will pass you on to another one, not allowing you to get your hooks into any one girl. Or they'll interrupt you with silly requests..."Take our picture! Buy us a drink! Take a shot out of my friend's belly button!" Or they'll just pull away whatever girl you're talking to to go dance, or go to the bathroom, or whatever.
But secretly, most of these women are ALSO undersexed and ALSO trying to get laid, so they're not the most reliable resource in the world. If the FRIENDS are attracted to the guy, that can seriously compromise the defensive power of the chick-cluster because they'll often let their friend go ahead and hook up with you.
So they need something else. Enter the "B!tch Shield".
Let me tell you, rolling solo, I've found myself thinking at some points after being relentlessly attacked by some of these women..."Damn, subtle hints don't work, obvious hints don't work...I cannot stop this woman from turning me on without being a TOTAL @SSHOLE to her!" When I came to that realization, the b!tch shield, for the first time, made PERFECT sense.
The "b!tch-shield", simply put, is a cognitive tactic employed by a woman's brain to keep a man from communicating directly with her p*ssy. Because her p*ssy wants to F*CK, and her ego KNOWS that if this guy can communicate with her p*ssy, given enough time, she WILL F*CK him. And that just CAN'T be allowed to happen.
If you understand the struggle between a woman's conscious mind and her p*ssy, then you have in your hands the building blocks of the perfect strategy for seducing women. Take the next step.
Most guys aren't able to see the female perspective. When they go out to "tha clubb", they set a goal for themselves to pursue women. They go out with the "hunter" mentality.
Even the guys who stand in the corner and don't talk to women, they're still in the "hunter" mentality...they just lack either the skill or the balls to be good "hunters".
To get the female perspective, you have to set the hunter mentality aside. You have to let go of the desire to chase after women and the hinging of your night's "success" on whether or not you pull digits or hook up. You have to go out with the mentality of just enjoying the experience, the moment of being at "tha clubb" and you have to be willing to let the women chase YOU.
Then you cease to become the "hunter" and become the "hunted".
Even if you do this, most men won't get the full effect, because to be the "hunted", you have to be attractive, one way or another. I'm an attractive guy, so I can pull this off.
Here's the deal...as the prey, you learn one thing very quickly...the best "hunters" are, in fact, RARELY the ones you want to be hunted by.
Both women and men have in their heads an idea of what members of the opposite sex they want to hook up with.
For men, it's usually a matter of looks. Especially for a one-night stand, the way a woman looks, or the way she carries herself, or even small quirky "fetish"-type things that one guy likes over another is what divides women on men's classic one-to-ten scale.
Women are a little more fickle. They have been taught from birth that they deserve a "Prince Charming", so they're looking for the whole package...looks, wealth, power, social influence, fun, caring, etc, etc...
The thing is, if you're an attractive person, the best "hunters" of the opposite gender aren't necessarily the Prince or Princess you're looking to score with that night. I know from my experience as "prey" that it's the average-looking chicks, MILFs/cougars, etc who are the best "man-hunters". They have to be. Because they aren't as attractive as other women, they have to play the game well. Just like in poker, anyone can be a good player with good cards. It's when you get rags that you have to REALLY be good.
Same thing with women...only on another order of magnitude. Attractive women, as soon as they hit the bar, have guys circling them like flies on a horse's arse. Now all of these guys may have SOMETHING endearing about them. For example, one may be strong and muscular. Another may have a very interesting style. Still another may seem like he'd be fun to hang out with.
But ESPECIALLY when she's with her friends, she MUST impress with the caliber of man she pulls. These guys just don't measure up to the "Prince Charming" standard that she was taught that she "deserved" a long time ago.
You ever start chatting up an average-looking girl, then start worrying that her being so close to you starts ruining your value to the hotter women around? That they'd think that because you're with THAT girl that they shouldn't waste their time with you?
With women, again, another order of magnitude. MOST guys will NOT approach a woman who already has a man up-ons. She doesn't want to be hunted by the good hunters, the average guys...she wants to be hunted by the Prince Charmings.
BUT...
And this BUT is the thing that separates the Don Juans from the non-Juans. This is the thing that AFCs don't know that guys with "natural game" seem to have an innate subconscious understanding of. It's nothing new, but once you accept this reality, your game improves astronomically.
Here it is:
What a woman wants in a man is completely a mechanic of her BRAIN. It has nothing to do with what's going on in her P*SSY. Her P*SSY wants to be F*CKED.
Furthermore...unless you are ugly, annoying, repulsive, or show indications of being a poor lover, her P*SSY wants to be F*CKED by YOU.
If there's one thing that you pick up on from being the prey instead of the hunter, it's that there's a constant battle between your brain and your loins for control over who you f*ck. That average-looking girl, if she's a good "hunter", she has two things: sexuality and persistence.
That means she know what turns a man on. She's VERY kinesthetic and has no problem with moving from subtle to more and more overt touching. She isn't put off when you look at other, better-looking girls dancing out there on the dance floor. She isn't put off by your polite shying away from her.
I can sit there and be thinking to myself, "This girl will not leave me ALONE! Dammit, I'm trying to cold-shoulder her, but look at how she rubs up against me, trying to make it look all innocent and silly. She's kino-ing me...and I know that pack of blondes over there won't come near me with her all up on me like this." But there's also another thought in my head that's scaring the hell out of me and at the same time really turning me on. "This girl is actually turning me ON...and if she doesn't leave me alone, I'm probably going to END UP F*CKING HER...and ENJOYING IT."
See, I also have something in common with the typical woman right now...I'm drastically undersexed at this point in time. Desirable women are TYPICALLY undersexed, largely due to the whole "slvt" stigma and their protective ego mechanisms. But the truth is that women have an equivalent sex-drive to men. They WANT to be F*CKED, and their p*ssy does not particularly care WHO does it, as long as the guy knocks it out and the guy isn't hideous or an utter tard.
So again, it's another order of magnitude with an attractive woman. It's an all-out war between her conscious mind (I don't want to be a slvt, I want to impress my friends with the caliber of man I hook up with, I want to find Prince Charming and not waste time with average guys, he has to be good looking, rich, no play till the third date, etc, etc) and her p*ssy (god, I want to be f*cked! I just want a good c*ck because I know it's gonna feel so good! I wanna c*m at the hands of a man soooo bad!!)
And the more drinks she gets into her system, and the more TIME she spends in proximity with a man who knows how to push a woman's sexual buttons, the more that her p*ssy starts overwhelming her conscious mind.
And that's just what these "good hunters", these average guys, do. They push her sexual buttons as long as she will allow them to...until she eventually breaks down and hooks up with him. Then she'll make him into Mr. Right IN HER HEAD, AFTER THE FACT, often setting herself up for a long, bitter romance that ends in heartbreak.
So a woman NEEDS a way to stop these guys from pushing her sexual buttons. Because if she can stop that, she can then use her BRAIN to filter out men. She can play her little head-games, run her sh!t-tests, whatever it is women do.
A woman has a couple of strategies she can use to keep a man communicating with her BRAIN and not bypassing that and talking directly to her P*SSY (which is almost CERTAIN to end in sex).
One such strategy is to travel to the "meat markets" in large packs. She becomes part of a cluster of women. When a "hunter" singles out one girl, the others start to "run interference". They'll interrupt the guy and swing her onto another girl, who will pass you on to another one, not allowing you to get your hooks into any one girl. Or they'll interrupt you with silly requests..."Take our picture! Buy us a drink! Take a shot out of my friend's belly button!" Or they'll just pull away whatever girl you're talking to to go dance, or go to the bathroom, or whatever.
But secretly, most of these women are ALSO undersexed and ALSO trying to get laid, so they're not the most reliable resource in the world. If the FRIENDS are attracted to the guy, that can seriously compromise the defensive power of the chick-cluster because they'll often let their friend go ahead and hook up with you.
So they need something else. Enter the "B!tch Shield".
Let me tell you, rolling solo, I've found myself thinking at some points after being relentlessly attacked by some of these women..."Damn, subtle hints don't work, obvious hints don't work...I cannot stop this woman from turning me on without being a TOTAL @SSHOLE to her!" When I came to that realization, the b!tch shield, for the first time, made PERFECT sense.
The "b!tch-shield", simply put, is a cognitive tactic employed by a woman's brain to keep a man from communicating directly with her p*ssy. Because her p*ssy wants to F*CK, and her ego KNOWS that if this guy can communicate with her p*ssy, given enough time, she WILL F*CK him. And that just CAN'T be allowed to happen.
If you understand the struggle between a woman's conscious mind and her p*ssy, then you have in your hands the building blocks of the perfect strategy for seducing women. Take the next step.
