what ever happend to "THAT" chick

[sexy_kuta]

to whom who that dont get it when i mean by "that" chick..

the chick who gave you the the motivation to change,

the girl who fuked with you soo bad that u would change urself for the better


i cut off mine competely.. how about you guys

 

[Desdinova]

I cut her out of my life for a whole year. Then (using what I learned here) I attracted her back to me and rejected her.

She's now a SM and the father of her child fvcked off on her.

 

[ethnomethodologist]

I cut mine off completely.

I do get mysterious messages from friends telling me how they miss me.

 

[backbreaker]

Mine, I keep in contact with off and on. I can honestly say I don't like her anymore, but I figure she might come in handy for one reason or another, I don't like to burn bridges, I just make sure to keep a physical and emotional distance from here

 

[sexy_kuta]

Mine, I keep in contact with off and on. I can honestly say I don't like her anymore, but I figure she might come in handy for one reason or another, I don't like to burn bridges, I just make sure to keep a physical and emotional distance from here

u got some balls

 

[The_Lifter]

See her sometimes at work, I avoid her. I never speak to her but I always have a strange smile on my face when I pass her. She sees that I am so much better. With her behaviour, she has denied herself the opportunity to be with me. Sucks to be her.

 

[backbreaker]

u got some balls

actually I went to go see a srhink about my intermeidate family. They are all women on my mom's side and they all resent me for one reason or another. I told him how I was never going to take to them again and I'll be damned if I didn't mean it.. I have no reason to, they don't do **** for me.

however he explained his theory of keeping your distance from people who don't bring down value to your life, and I just apply it to flaky women as well.

I call my mom about one time every 3 months, just to let her know I am alive. She can' say I cut her off, and she is my mom. REgardless of what happens, you only have one. Plus I have a little sister as well.

With this chick, I don't go out of my way to call her, but I send her a BDAY card, what not, an Xmas card, shoot an email from time to time... enough to know what's going on and to see what she is up to, but not enough to be physically or emotionally hurt by her... because in all honestly, she is the only girl I know or have known, even my ex fiancee couldn't, that could honeslty get to me, and she knows it

 

[confused007]

mine got married, had a kid, got divorced, told me she realized she made a huge mistake and if we could give it another go.....i told her there were no hard feelings but even if pigs flew other than being friends never again

 

[Juan_Man]

I'm several thousand miles away from "THAT" chick. Good thing too since she hates my guts. Good riddance!

 

[backbreaker]

As AFCish as it might sound, I could in all honeslty see a situtation where my old oneitis and I eventually ended up together.

As I get older, I understand her motivies more and more, and I don't take what she did as personal as I did back then... I don't think she was an ******* for not dating me to date a guy she just met who has rich parents in other words.

I know that the only reason she wouldn't date me at first was because well.. she perfers guys with money, and I have a little now. She even admitted it and I respect her for that.

And granted, I have never been poor, but that point in my life he offered more


Not saying I am looking forward to it, not at all but I am saying it wouldn't suprise me... how she makes sure she doesn't loose contact with me.

That's what I mean by it's not as cut and dry as alot of people here make everything out to be. I was told everything from her being crazy to her being insecure, but in all reality she was just keeping her options open for later in life.

That doesn't change the fact that I still don't want to date her however.
however, for that to even come close to happening, I would have to be in my early/mid 30ies and have had my fun and I am ready to settle down.. I'm so against marriage now I don't even wear jewerly

 

[backbreaker]

i also can't be to mad at her becuase, she isn't THE sole reason, but if she would have dated me back then, I more than likely wouldn't have developed the drive i have today to succeed in life.

not that she was the only reason I whipped myself into shape, but I know how I was back then... i wo uld ahve put her first, and not myself and never would have changed, no reason to because I "have the girl"

so things happen for a reason

 

[RedPill]

i also can't be to mad at her becuase, she isn't THE sole reason, but if she would have dated me back then, I more than likely wouldn't have developed the drive i have today to succeed in life.

not that she was the only reason I whipped myself into shape, but I know how I was back then... i wo uld ahve put her first, and not myself and never would have changed, no reason to because I "have the girl"

so things happen for a reason

Yes they do. If "that chick," the oneitis, had for some reason decided to be with me, there's no doubt in my mind I wouldn't have manned up and would be stuck in the vicious cycle that is the AFC's life. I'm very grateful that I was stung by her and given the opportunity to evolve.

As for the original question, I see her once or twice a year, and she is steadily gaining weight. She's also progressively getting unhappier as she hates her job, has low self-esteem, and now can only attract losers. It's hard to believe that I ever thought she was worth anything.

 

[Chillisauce]

Mine is doing great, i cut her off for my own sake but word got around to me that she's acing university and has every guy in her course chasing her. Thankgod thats no-longer me!

 

[cactus3178]

'That' girl for me is still around.

But I've got the upper hand. She's a hell of a alot more concerned with what I'm doing than I am with her, asking mutual friends about me and such.

I tried to be 'friends' with her at the beginning when we first split, but I soon figured out that was her way of trying to let me down easy at the time. She's concerned about me dating other girls from what I hear.

She hasn't moved on. It's been a year now...

 

[Duke]

I saw her again last year for the first time in about 3 or 4 years, and when I walked in I actually didn't notice her, and she got a little flustered that I didn't tell her hello. She was like "Hey, well don't even tell me hello!!"

And I was like "Haha, I didn't see you, how are you?" blah blah.

Not concerned with getting her back because to tell the truth, she was nice but we DIDN'T really have any emotional connection. It was all in my head.

Was interesting to see a circle of orbiter males around her. She isn't even that hot either.

I plan to PU her friends later on.

 

[NHY]

Mine used to be in my class in Secondary school, I thought I was being sent to hell as punishment for being the innocent victim of myself and the *******s around me. She wasn't the sole reason for making me change ( Add family alcoholism, *******s and poor grades to the equation ) but after it happened, I was presented with 2 choices, either do nothing and probably end up committing suicide or change.

Thankfully, I choose the later well, lets just say if I to meet the old me now, I'd give him such a punch!

As for the girl, she lives elsewhere far away from me now, studying some sports based course in college. The last time I saw / spoke to her was like last Novemeber and then, I couldn't help but notice, she was a little bit more chubby than when I last saw her!

She wasn't even that good looking, the trouble was she was too nice to me for her own good but in 2nd year, poor me thought she liked me and I started liking her, I got obsessed and things got blown out of proportion! However, I still think of her every now and again, somehow, I when I do, I think that we might end up together some day down the line, though with the knowledge I'm gaining here, I doubt it!

 

[organizedconfusion]

LOL!
the 'ICE QUEEN'..naw, i gave up on her.I used to try to prove to her how different i was now and no longer on her jock whenever she visited and came back into town..i learned all of my maniplative tricks from her so i guess i have that to be thankfull for. other then that i am done with her..

 

[backbreaker]

i'll say this and leave it at this.. To this day, my old oneitis is the hottest girl/woman I have ever seen in person.. which is why it made it soooo damn hard. Guys say "oh, you will find a better looking women out there"

Me: Umm.. naw man.. It's been 3 years and she is still pretty freakin hot

and that's with me saying that i have no intentions to date her and if the opprotuntiy presented itself right now I wouldn't.. that's how far I have come in the years.

One day I was at my house with this girl I just met, who was flaking off and on on me for about 2 months. My old oneitis has a bad habit of just popping up whenever she is in the neighboorhood, and i don't mind, but nevertheless.. So she pops up, and I wish you could see the look on the girls face. So she stays, has a drink and leaves. I give her a hug and a kiss on the cheek and the second she leaves, I have never had a problem out of that girl tot his day.. So she asks "who was that" and I tell her "that's my buddy" and it is. it was like I said "see *****, this is the level of women I deal with, so you need to get with the program"

 

[Juan_Man]

With my old one-itis, I was so determined to prove that I was over her, I tried to hook up with several other chicks in the hopes that she would find out about at least one of them. Of course, she never did find out about those few drunken moments of "success" so I remained unhappy. I think it's pathetic to try to overcompensate for the fact that you got burned by acting ultra-pimp around your one-itis. You should just act as if your life was unaffected by her and move on. Easier said than done, I know.

 

[backbreaker]

no, you shoudln't be effected, and if you are, you should learn WHY you were effected and fix it.

In my case, I was soo attached to this one chick because I had nothing in my own life to look foward to.. I put being successful as in getting HER. I had to have HER to be successful.

It took me 2 years to realize that. Once I finally grasped that, I know I will never be that hung up on a woman again in my life, because I have other things that keep me going. I have so much crap going on in a daily basis, that I can easily go 2 months without having a date and use every last second producitivly... dates are what I do to reward myself for working hard.. if I slack off, which I do every once in a while, I won't go out.