What does this mean?

[Oni]

when a girl who you talk with everyday, just stopped talking to you for a day or two. and she tries to avoid eye contact, she looks at me when im not looking when i look at her she turns away. and she usually says bye and stuff but on these days she doesnt. then after 2-3 days of this everything goes back to normal. this is not the first time, for all of u dj's out there, what does this mean?

 

[xomel]

I suggest reading The Don Juan Kiss of Death.

http://www.sosuave.com/articles/kiss.htm

 

[Oni]

thanks man u rock, this totally brighten my day. any other great articles out there like this? there are so many i dont know which 1 to read.

 

[iMat]

So, even if she acts like a friend to you (or at least it seems that way), and she slips in the subtle "I'm going home with my boyfriend etc."), you just dismiss it as a test, and keep going at it until you're bored, or it become absoultely apparant she has no interest?

--iMat

 

[idiot_boyfriend]

Originally posted by iMat
So, even if she acts like a friend to you (or at least it seems that way), and she slips in the subtle "I'm going home with my boyfriend etc."), you just dismiss it as a test, and keep going at it until you're bored, or it become absoultely apparant she has no interest?

--iMat

Well if she says "blah blah blah boyfriend blah blah blah", I think it's pretty obvious that she has no interest in you....it's in someone else!

But to continue and purse, I dunno. I always felt that I shouldn't go after a girl that has a boyfriend.

 

[Oni]

o u she didnt say that, that was an example given lol

 

[iMat]

Well, she didn't really emphasize it too much. But I can believe she has one. I have yet to make it apparent I'm interested (at least not directly stating so).

She's been very nice, but inside my head, there's my DJ screaming that she's:

A) Playing around
B) Looking for another box of emotional tampons

But there's always that DJ part that just tells me to never give up.

So should I just keep going at it, subtly, until I either:

A) Get the chance to strike
B) Have a logical reason to bail out (eg. rejected, apparant she's happy where she's at, starts dumping girl stuff on me).

What do you think? Bail now or see what happens?

--iMat

 

[Oni]

well things isnt really improving, now she still doesn't talk to me. i read the kiss of death article, dont think negative..dont think negative but uggggggh this is hard

 

[CapiCrimini]

emotional tampons

take out the emotional and that could easily be the problem.

your first problem is you care. Learn to have fun. Don't over-analyze. she is either

shyt-testing you if she does show signs of IL.

Or baisically your boring and she has her intrests set elsewhere.

Be more descript.

How to fix this. Don't worry talk to other people. and play her game. If she trys to talk to you spark up a convo and be intresting [yes thats one of those things thats simple to say but hard to do.] if she ignores you, then don't fret and just talk to other people. Sometimes when she want's to talk be polite, but hold convos' with other people. Don't do a rude ignore of her.

If your looking for more articles Read teh Bible. Upper right hand corner of the site.

Infact the simple way is to set your intrests on other women, lots of other women, all other women who you find attractive. once you do this, she will mean a lot less to you.

 

[Oni]

Originally posted by CapiCrimini
take out the emotional and that could easily be the problem.

your first problem is you care. Learn to have fun. Don't over-analyze. she is either

shyt-testing you if she does show signs of IL.

Or baisically your boring and she has her intrests set elsewhere.

Be more descript.

How to fix this. Don't worry talk to other people. and play her game. If she trys to talk to you spark up a convo and be intresting [yes thats one of those things thats simple to say but hard to do.] if she ignores you, then don't fret and just talk to other people. Sometimes when she want's to talk be polite, but hold convos' with other people. Don't do a rude ignore of her.

If your looking for more articles Read teh Bible. Upper right hand corner of the site.

Infact the simple way is to set your intrests on other women, lots of other women, all other women who you find attractive. once you do this, she will mean a lot less to you.

now she's ignoring me, when i try to talk to her online she doesnt reply..ugggh im trying to set my interest in other girls. what are your opinions on relationship with a girl from anotehr school.

 

[CapiCrimini]

relationship

there is your word of the day. RELATIONSHIP. see now this implies many things really. But in the context you use it, it makes it a singularity. See right...lets see...oh here...

a girl

sencond fault. Well now, before you come swinging that you can't have a girlfriend without dedicating yourself to one girl. Your right. Almost every chick in the school thats now a ***** will normally require you to "FEEL" like her boyfriend...WAIT!... I said feel, not be.

Questions you should answer tonight.

Why?

thats it. I don't care if you post the answer or not. But think about it really. Don't just give a half-arsed answer. i did that for a long time. Really why? do you want a GF, why do you want a girl, what is the purpose? What would happen if you didn't have one? ect. ect.

Thats your assignment for tonight.

Think about it. Can you really come up with some answers that mean something. I couldn't. Maybe your better then me, maybe your not. None the less this should be your top priority tonight[1:09am here] to TRY to answer these questions. Don't talk yourself into it.

and when you come up with that answer question that with a why? and when you answer that question it with a why?

Question every belife you hold dear, and even those you don't. A DJ must know how to think. A DJ must understand why he does something, why he needs something.

A DJ is not a blind fool, and more over is not led by the blind.

~Capi...

Why did you read this?

 

[Oni]

i read this because im desperate and confuse =[

 

[CapiCrimini]

i read this because im desperate and confuse =[

and why are you desperate and confused?

I toldy you THINK, thats the first step to be able to understand why you asked why and why you answered why, and why you...

It's endless, but if your able to think and understand your emotions and actions your on your first step to DJism. For everyone it's slightly different. But after you learn why, then you learn what they mean, and this gives you a certian 'control' over them.

Read the Bible, and look into other posts here. They will help you more then you could imagine.

 

[Oni]

I did read the bible captain.

I understand now, i'm gonna stop my pursue for her and just concentrate on life.I have wasted a lot of time and tried to be what i am not to get her. It has also affected my grades.

From now on, no more. I give up. I don't care anymore. I'm just gonna concentrate on my education and sport and try to get a good future. I have never felt so free before but now i do.

Thanks for all your help, it has not been a waste. I have learn a valuable lesson in life. If i come across another girl again i know what NOt to do. I'm just going to enjoy the rest of my high school years and offf to college.

Sorry, i guess im not meant to be a DJ