What does this mean? (help!)

[revivedjcy]

Hi,

I am new at this site and I have been reading a few of the articles and put a few of the advice to practice. However, I do have a question about the response of this one girl. Anyway, here is the situation:

I am currently in school, and there is this cute girl at my school and who also happens to be working at the same place I work at too. (but we work different shifts) She's pretty cute, and all the guys at my school are drooling over her and pretty much kissing her ass as much as possible. (no pun intended) I am not super interested but I just play it cool and I don't pay particular attention to her when I see her. (say hi and chat for a few mins, but nothing like groveling like a dog to catch her attention) For some reason, we bump into each other a lot on campus, and I would tease her by telling her (w/a smile of course) to stop stalking me because I am such a great guy and etc or she would be hearing from the police soon... She always would just bust out laughing. Anyway, last week, I was in the library studying, and I saw her come in. I know she saw me first, but she didn't say anything. So, I decided to apply what I learned and I just pretended that I didn't see her and carried on my business. After a while, she came by and said hi, and I was like, "oh, I didn't see you here and etc". We chatted about work and school, cracked a few jokes about our boss and bemoaned the fact that it will just be me and her at work after finals while everyone else is cozy. Then she proceeded to leave. But as I said goodbye, out of the blue, she came up behind me (I was sitting down) and rubbed my back and said she'll see me at work and emphasized that me and her alone can "easily handle" the work at the clinic. (she said that with a big smile on her face) I guess that somehow caught my attention.

I don't know what to make of it. I mean it is probably nothing special, but my vibes tell me that the rub and the last comment were a bit extra friendly. Am I wrong? (my vibes often give me the wrong impression) Opinion anyone?

 

[oda]

i know you shouldn't mix work and relations... but if i were you i would probably act on that.

 

[revivedjcy]

Do you think she is interested? I know that when a girl makes physical contact first, that is a good sign. But I just want to make sure that it was not just a friendly thing. ( i don't really mind mixing work and relationships at this point, because I am thinking about quitting my present work anyway)

 

[Desdinova]

Don't think too hard about what she said. It doesn't make any sense to me either. Pay attention to her actions, she came and rubbed your back. Respond to her body language. Don't be afraid to use kino (non-sexual touch). She's basically saying "I want to get comfortable touching you". Now respond when you see her again.

Do a search on here for articles on Kino (look in the DJ bible) if you haven't already, and you should get it no problem.

 

[whistler]

the back rub was intentional

Odds are it meant something. To know how significant it was, though, you have to consider if it was her first time really touching you and whether she often touches other non-relationship people like that.

If the back rub was out of the blue and you've never her seen her give one before, that's a good sign. It wouldn't be anything golden, but I'd wager that, at that moment at least, she liked you.

When you're working with her alone, try to be funny and flirtatious. But don't come on too strong if she isn't going right along with you.

 

[revivedjcy]

As far as I know, she isn't the type that likes to touch people for the heck of it. I never saw her touch my co-workers or the guys that approach her. I guess it is a good thing then. I will keep my eyes open.

Any suggestions on the next move?

 

[DeathDealer]

Originally posted by revivedjcy
Do you think she is interested? I know that when a girl makes physical contact first, that is a good sign. But I just want to make sure that it was not just a friendly thing. ( i don't really mind mixing work and relationships at this point, because I am thinking about quitting my present work anyway)

I don't believe in this in most cases. Sometimes girls will touch you just to reassure you that she wants you to "calm down." I've been a cuddle ***** with a girl I wasn't into (for many reasons regarding compatibility), she would come up to me and put her arms around my arm or give me tight hugs. My friends tell me she seems to be totally into me and why I won't return the favor. I told them this: It is never a good thing when women make it obvious that she is physically interested or do all the asking out. Think of it as them making you into a teddy bear.

 

[revivedjcy]

What do you mean by "calming me down"? I don't think I was acting that excited around her...

Why is it a bad thing that a woman acts a bit obvious about wanting you? I thought that was the end goal of DJ-ing???

I admit I am quite confused

 

[Desdinova]

Any suggestions on the next move?

Again, read up on Kino and respond to her touching you. Click on the link

http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/index.php?action=kino#12

 

[revivedjcy]

Thanx Desdinova. I am reading up on kino right now.

But I am just a bit confused by the comments by Deathdealer. Seems like he doesn't like kino for some reasons...