What does she want / how to escalate.

[AngloAlias]

So I've had a strange but good week in which I've gone from having one prospect to several.

It may seem weird but I started hooking up with the best friend of the girl I was previously hooking up with.

The first time (Tuesday) we were both wasted and it was a little sketchy, I thought it was a one off, but the second (Thursday) and third time (Saturday) we were both pretty much sober.

Now I've know this girl for a week, she's blonde, tall with a good body and an excellent personality. She's super chilled and funny but often drinks too much and loses it.

On the Thursday and Saturday we spent the entire night together until 3pm the next day on both occasions having sex and talking... We get along really really well and it was pretty amazing/intense, sex.

Now it hadn't crossed my mind that this had the potential to be anything more than a friends with benefits situation. It transpires this girl knew who I was well in advance, had seen my pictures and had heard a lot of positive things about me... Then this morning when I was in bed with her at 6am (she was sleeping), her best friend was bbming me saying 'don't **** her over' 'y'all should start dating' and saying she would approve, that this girl deserves a nice guy etc... My response was that I think she's really cool, it's something I'd def consider but we've only known eachother a week and it's early days..

I can't imagine her just saying this randomly though, the fact she thought I could **** her over and that dating would be an option makes me think the blonde must have told her she likes me quite a lot... But how can I be sure of this and what steps should I take? This blonde girl is renowned for not being big into texting and talking, she never replies to her friends and I don't wanna come accross as overly keen/clingy. There are plenty of comical videos and inside joke things I could post on her wall on fb but then i'd worry about the same thing... I could ask the best friend I used to hook up with what the deal is, but she would probably tell her and it could be damaging...

Could really use some advice on this, I don't know if I'd even want to be anything more than friends with benefits but I do know I like this girl a lot already and I want to play it right.

 

[mikeyb]

You shouldn't be thinking like this yet. Her friend + the great sex have obviously succeeded in f*cking with your mind. You like the blonde and the sex is good. That's it. If she wants a relationship she'll have to work for it. You need to do the same thing you've been doing so far, nothing more, nothing less.

 

[AngloAlias]

You shouldn't be thinking like this yet. Her friend + the great sex have obviously succeeded in f*cking with your mind. You like the blonde and the sex is good. That's it. If she wants a relationship she'll have to work for it. You need to do the same thing you've been doing so far, nothing more, nothing less.

Yeah they've definitely gotten into my mind. I'm analysing everything now, maybe the lack of sleep has exacerbated matters.

Anyway I have no idea if she wants anything more and probably shouldn't listen to the friend who may have just been voicing her own opinion. Will see how matters progress over the coming days...

As a side note she did the walk of shame with me through the common room which contained a fair few guys from my halls who she didn't know... Plus my room mate has been irritated with having to go elsewhere all the time. Any ideas how I can allay her embarrassment/the awkwardness... Worried she'll now refuse to go back to halls with me. I do have my main house a little further away but that would involve evading the parents on her behalf and showing her where I live + much more of a journey (our halls are a 5 min walk apart)...