Guys need advise, so there is this cute girl WHO has a two year old and lives with the boyfriend, we have been having sex . She drive two hours to come for sleep over now most weekends. She says they are just like friends with the boyfriend … the son is James and boyfriend is Albert.
Today she wrote me this text saying she is confused. She want to come over this Friday for goodbye sex what should i do. Her message is attached below, its abit long.
Terrible situation to be in. Shows you have zero integrity. Its really really bad when such a woman is the one "breaking up " instead of the other way around.
Lets translate this message step by step shall we?
Hi, ive had a rough week to be honest. I am having bad dreams, bad sleep.. Finding a space to speak my mind at home, lacking the energy..
I am a bad, narcissistic and untrustworthy person and you are doing nothing to make me feel better anymore. Reality is catching up with me. And given the fact that YOU don't mind I have to take God damn responsibility
Ive thought about it a lot. Like i said i owe it to james to give and invest in the relationship home. Even though doing that is not an easy task and i don't see now how to do it.
Again, reality brotha. I am laying in bed with James (husband) everyday. Denying him sex while he grinds to provide me and my kid a better life. My FRIENDS told me to dump you and be honest with James. Not an ewsy task ,to clean up this mess.
But i feel a lot of pressure aswell, since ive met you and more happened . Because i feel more and more emotions gets invested feelingwise and I dont want to hurt you or keep you hanging in limbo as they say. I believe you genuinely care for me. You are attentive, caring, intresting,.. You know how a relationship should work. But it gives me pressure because i am not in that place to give you what you properly deserve.i really feel bad for that. It does blur my mind and i think at some level i am also not opening up to Albert because I vent my frustration to you and i feel a bit lighter but I should say it to him. And i dont want to compare you to him because he just has a different charachter. But unconsciously i do think i compare. And i do feel guilt towards james doing what we do.
I am a nasty *****. But yet you treat me like a queen. Are you THAT stupid , naive and desperate for a woman? How can you respect me when I cant even respect myself any more??
If you would decide how things go , you'd probably tell me to leave hubbie and be with you. But mind you, that means YOU'LL become hubbie and I'll have to find another dude to feck on the side. You are just as beta as my bf. I need am alpha to compensate for his lack of Alphaness not two betas..
I am Jezebel, and you are a good guy Greg. Why you good guys never get the damn message and make me take responsibility?
I dont expect you to wait for me. I do want you to be in my life as a friend. But I understand if its easier to just have distance from me. I just feel like i just want to take James and disappear from everybody to just clear my head. But that's not how it works. So i have to take it step by step and i need to take away the static noise around me and do what i can, so i can never blame myself or my efforts. It will maybe work or maybe not. Time will tell. But i need to know if it doesnt work because it just doesnt, there is no effort on 2 sides, and not because off another party is involved. I couldnt start a new relationship and caring guilt with me. If and when i would start a new relationship i needs to be with a clear conscience and without caring guilt because that wouldnt work either.
I dont WANT you to wait for me. I expect you to leave me the F alone and be discrete about this. You went from a (guilty) pleasure to another annoying burder I gotta deal with.
I'd rather run away bjt having a kid and a caring husband means i cant just call it quits like that. Unfortunately you never had the balls to call me out on this. No, you rather wait untill my current relationship implodes and live happily ever after with me.
I hope you can understand that. And understand that it has nothing to do with who you are or what you do. You are a wonderfull person with a good heart. But i understand if you can't do just friends. I wont look at you differently for that. I am. Writing this down because i dont want to forgot anything. If you want we can videocall later. But have to wait till James is in bed.
I hope you DON'T wanna be friends. This is over if you didn't get the message yet. You are a good person, I'm a extremely bad person though. I will play you and have even less respect for you than I had for husband.
I've lost all respect for you as well. A videocall is inconvenient but oke, I'll deal with taking at least some responsibility by letting you down easy. Perhaps I even owe you a good bey- pity feck. Better to make rhis a clean cut, but hey, I am a ***** anyway so I might as well wohre around with you once more...
