What does one do...disrespected

[Lion]

Im feeling pretty agressive cos Ive been working hard all day at college and its my housemates birthday tonight, so i come home late and txt him saying ill meet him and the crowd later on. So i get dinner and shower and go out.

On my way to the club bday boy is supposed to be at I txt him asking if he's at "name of the club", he txts back "yeah whatever" so i take it as a yes (he does that to a lot of txts- effing rudeness) :trouble:

So i get to the club pay to get in and get a drink, no sign of mates so i ring them and the drunk skunk says hes at "name of another bar which is 20 mins walk away".

Im like what? why are you still there and my other mate comes on the phone saying ah "bday boy is a prick and so on, we'll ring u when we leave for the club that I am at".

In the mean time I ring and txt two other ppl that are with him, asking when they are coming down. Cos Im thinking to myself Im going home, got sleep and work to catch up on.
So i wait for about 45 mins, I see a mate from college and chat for a few mins before going looking for my crowd.
I wanted to chat to the ladies but found it hard to smile, being angry with my mates, NONE of them txt or ring back to say they are coming and i leave after waiting for too long.

Total waste of time and money, plus i didnt get more than just eye contact with girls (one pretty girl across the bar), then on my way home the b day timewaster **** txts me to say everyones gone to "name of another club".

So I go home, thinking of the next few days at college, got tests and work to hand in etc...calming myself down

How do i behave around my housemates tomorrow and so on? :trouble:

We've had sh*t go down before but being guys we forget and move on. But I don't want to move on by letting them get away with treating me with no respect.

What do I say to them? :nono:

Ive got mates from college that id rather hang out with but can't always tag along with them.


thanks dudes, (godsgifttowomen I would put it in your post but this post is a bit chunky)

 

[Socialreject]

The question you need to ask yourself is...

What do YOU want to do about it?

Do you just want to let it go? Never mention it, act like nothing happened? Won't it nagg at you if you do?

I don't know, answer this for yourself!

What i would do is just talk to him, just let him know firmly that next time he should tell me where they are before i waste money on entry fee etc. Just make it clear to him that i don't like it, it's not a huge deal but next time please warn me or it might just turn in to a huge deal.

It all depends on how close a friend it is... there may have been some factors you don't know about, something happened, who knows right? But if it's a guy you hardly know i would be much less subtle and just give him a piece of my mind.

 

[Lion]

Thanks SocialReject, sounds like good advice you've given me.

Well I planned to pound his drunken face with my angry fist as soon as I saw him but I dont normally like violence and I know it won't get me anywhere.

I've known him for a few years now so its difficult, he's normally a "good" man, humours people etc... so I dont know how to deal with it. Thing is Im not liking my other housemates right now and the situations going to be in my face. At least ive got plenty of work to get done!

Just wish I made more of the opportunity to sarge it, i was feeling gd, so many fine ladies, no HQ to return to.

Any other suggestions?

 

[DonJuanForever]

haha, yeah, I had my "boys" do this to me very often but at the end of the day, it was MY FAULT.

For one, you lead your own group, don't be apart of someone else's. It basically would go like this, my boy and "his crew" were going out and called me to come along. They would say, "me us here or there." I would get there and not find them. Call them, and they would say, "Hold on, we're coming," or there would be a lot of noise and shyt going on in the background. Basically I got the point, they changed their minds!

For one, I should not have been "following" them anyway. I should have my "own group" and I direct and influence most times where we go, or we are really "close and tight" that we ride out together all the time. Make sense? I had to learn this bitterly......learn from my mistakes, get your own group.

 

[DonJuanForever]

And Lion, change your quote,

Being a don juan should get easier each day, not harder. Change that, the programming of your subsconscious mind makes you or breaks you. That's rule number one!

 

[Lion]

Thanks man, thats some good advice about getting your own crowd, I'm fortunate enough to have this option and will learn to lead it more often.
The bday guy apologised profusely but my other house mates passed it off like nothing, it was nothing to me, just some small amount of money and time.


Oh and the quotes saying, it gets harder- harder for every AFC to get to where I am because Im already on the path...to Don Juan status....... a challenge which I live.

However my quote is probably not the best way of conveying this so I'll think of something.

And Lion, change your quote,

Being a don juan should get easier each day, not harder. Change that, the programming of your subsconscious mind makes you or breaks you. That's rule number one!

What can one do to programme the mind? :crazy:

 

[DonJuanForever]

Lion, most guys on here won't tell you this...but you are how you think. You even being here right now, is a result of your subsconcious. It programs you and gets you to where you want to be but you have to program it. After you respond to this, I will find some links for you. You can literally be and get what you want.

 

[TesuqueRed]

i'm w/djf on this -- he's saying you take lead of your own time, in effect

they'd lead you around with the txt msging the same way a woman would - note that

which is why you LIMIT your use of it. too much access makes you too easy to women, to your guys, to everyone.

i get the sense you were dependent on them and their plans, and to some degree they know it and they know they can jerk you around.

getting angry won't fix them, and it won't stop you remaining dependent. use the anger to get yourself involved in 2 other social circles without them

something else -- always have a backup plan if something doesn't go the way you planned it. you set a coffee date with a woman and she shows up 5 mins late -- and she'll find you talking to others, reading something, finishing your coffee or even just leaving. and if she's 30 mins late --- YOU'RE GONE 15 mins ago because you had something else to do.

same thing holds true with your housemates

if the plans fall thru it doesn't throw you -- they were a minor part of your night's plans anyway, and if you couldn't get together, it's up to them to chase you down elsewhere.

 

[Lion]

Fire away DonJuanForever, Im filling my mind with academic studies, so why not balance it out some

 

[mrRuckus]

What the hell it's not HIS fault. They screwed HIM over. He's not some one man island that bares all responsibility for what goes on. They should shoulder the blame.

Now if he continually lets them do it to him, it's his fault. BUT it's STILL theirs too.

If everyone leads every group nothing would ever get done and there'd be nothing but one man groups.

 

[Tomatoes]

And Lion, change your quote,

Being a don juan should get easier each day, not harder. Change that, the programming of your subsconscious mind makes you or breaks you. That's rule number one!

Agreed

 

[NewMan]

here is an idea - call before you go into the club and stop using fvcking text messages.

Quit b#tching about it and pick up the phone.