What does a DJ do when dissed by his GF's kid?

[Kailex]

You are asking the wrong question.

There is no right answer to how you respond to the kid, because if you are stand-offish, she will jump in and defend HIM, NOT YOU.

The correct question is: Should I dump her?


Analyze the situation. Look at what he said to you and gauge her reaction. She didn't say anything to the kid.

My mother would have not even let a second go by without letting me know that I was being an ungrateful little ****e. Your "girl" didn't even do that. That's a HUGE red flag. You should be less concerned about the kid, and more concerned about her... and by concerned, I mean you should NEXT her.

You're in too deep, buddy.

 

[AW1983]

The correct question is: Should I dump her?


Analyze the situation. Look at what he said to you and gauge her reaction. She didn't say anything to the kid.

My mother would have not even let a second go by without letting me know that I was being an ungrateful little ****e. Your "girl" didn't even do that. That's a HUGE red flag. You should be less concerned about the kid, and more concerned about her... and by concerned, I mean you should NEXT her.

I have to agree on all counts. If I had pulled that with any of my parent's friends I would have gotten a swift smack to the back of the head and an immediate apology would've been required of me. But then...I wasn't raised by a (crappy) single mom.

 

[Married Buried]

You are asking the wrong question.

There is no right answer to how you respond to the kid, because if you are stand-offish, she will jump in and defend HIM, NOT YOU.

The correct question is: Should I dump her?


Analyze the situation. Look at what he said to you and gauge her reaction. She didn't say anything to the kid.

My mother would have not even let a second go by without letting me know that I was being an ungrateful little ****e. Your "girl" didn't even do that. That's a HUGE red flag. You should be less concerned about the kid, and more concerned about her... and by concerned, I mean you should NEXT her.

You're in too deep, buddy.

It's because the mother was worried about the same thing as the kid. The mother wanted the 100 to buy her next crack rock.

 

[Slickster]

Give him a little Robert Downey

RDJ - Due Date

 

[Married Buried]

Give him a little Robert Downey

RDJ - Due Date

Should have knocked the little bastard out. I remember this single mother I used to date, her kid kept putting their dirty sock in my face. I took the sock and threw it out of the window into the snow. The kid had a fit, I told them both to f/ck off.

 

[WoodB]

Hey gents, I'm the op. As it turned out, the relationship ended two months after this incident for additional reasons. As I sit here in the peaceful confines of my study and contemplate on the situation, I can think of a lot of things I should have said on the spot. But when the kid blurted that out and the mother laughed, I froze, never having experienced such a thing. A few few days later, both of her kids pulled similar shenanigans at her ex husband's parents' place on Christmas morning. Of course, the woman stood up for her kids. This alone should have ended the relationship.

She was pushing me to get on the marriage express train as well, within just months of dating. Gentlemen, she is dating another fellow as I write this, and she is no longer my problem. She had me by the wanker, and this was the first and last time a woman do this to me. (My weakness since age 6 is that I tend to give good looking women too many breaks. Perhaps we are all like that to some extent, even the super alphas?)

If anything like this ever happens again in my travels, your advices are well taken; I will quietly reprimand the kid in a gentlemanly fashion and walk out the door with the gift in my pocket as the woman's laughter disappears behind the slamming of the door.

 

[WoodB]

That right there alone would of made me dump her. The amount of shıt parenting you witness everywhere is mind blowing. It all starts with lazy minded people with no desire to improve society. Brats just push me over the sane edge, I can't deal with it. Five year olds can now call 911 and have Mom arrested for smacking them in the head. WTF.

The fact that you stood there in silence is admirable. A lot of guys would of lost their shıt big time.

Oh, and uh, oh yeah...don't date women with kids.

Thanks for the compliment. At the time, silence was all I could offer.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

What should DJ say at a moment like this?

Been nice knowin ya, honey.

 

[MatureDJ]

In my mind, the terms "DJ" and "GF's kid" are mutually exclusive.

And trying to play up the part of the provisioner for a single mommy? That kid's genes are laughing all the way to the bank.

 

[MatureDJ]

I wish I were your age, but I'm in my late 40s. So many women in my pool have kids. Bloody hell!

Men our age have to make a decision whether to continue to pursue childless women or to jump a generation and pursue women whose children are already adults.

 

[MatureDJ]

Guess I'm a beta then. I know ill never be a true dj but oh well, I'm always aspiring to get better at dealing with females. That's why I frequent the board.

Here's my deal with you Burroughs. I respect some of the stuff you say...its a bit extreme at times but at the other end of that spectrum you have full out afc doormat mangina behavior....your advice helps me find a happy medium....hell, sometimes I agree with even the really extreme ****t you say. Here's the rub, you're a disrespectful little cuunt. You're lips are very loose for a grown man who should know better. I'm not the toughest guy in the room but you would have serious problems if you ever talked like that to my face. Dollars to doughnuts you don't speak to men like this in everyday life....even the ones you regards as faaagots. So stop your shiit. Keep up your message, because its valuable but grow the fuuck up and be accountable with your words at some point.

disgusitpated, you are a classic sufferer of stepdad angst. You know deep down that you really would prefer to have a childless woman, but because you are not able to secure such a woman (with her other qualities being acceptable), you have made the choice to consider single mommies - and since there are a lot of folks like myself & Burroughs that consider virtually any single mommy as undateable (I'm sure we could consider an exception like a single mommy Playboy Playmate, etc.), there are much fewer available men for such single mommies, and so they consider a less desirable man than they would were they like their childless sister of otherwise their same situation. So when other men tell you that you shouldn't be considering these single mommies, you take the comment as put down, and lash out angrily (like you just did.)

And dollars to doughnuts, yes, I would not say this to someone who I don't know to be rational and non-violent, as a hothead like you might want to be violent as a coping mechanism to deal with his inner shame.

 

[MatureDJ]

A man who dates single moms is not a DJ by definition. Now f*ck buddies, pump 'n dump, etc. is a different story. But in the latter case, there is no reason for you to see or interact with her kids.

Yes, so long as a DJ keeps his relationship with her on the fvck buddy level, it's not a problem. Of course, there are a lot of women who will not put up with this for too long, and try to escalate the relationship. And even if the relationship is not escalated, there will be the inevitable colliding of worlds in which the man will meet the kid.

If I were ever to pursue such a situation, I think that I would just tell the woman that I did not think it would be appropriate to ever meet the kid, and that we would only be able to meet when she has a baby sitter (or the baby-daddy) watch the kid.

A DJ must have the strength to say that he would not be able to continue the relationship with such escalation even if it meant she would leave. Especially with single mommies, a DJ should always be able to pick up another plate in short order.

 

[Married Buried]

Don't end up like this guy:

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He's the new daddy to my ex BPDs 2 little bastards.