What does a DJ do differently than noobs?

[moneyisking]

I still consider myself a noob even though I have been here for a while b/c I am not where I expect myself to be.

But this is the question that lingers within me all the time. What does a bad boy/DJ/Player/womanizer/seducer/charmer/etc do that is different than me? What is it with him that when he calls women, they pick up with joy while some of us can't even get numbers. These things really really mesmerize me and strike up my curiosity. It's as if they are not even nervous a bit when talking to hotties (although that's how it's supposed to be done). It is not something visible, but it's there; a power or aura of a man who gets the girls he wants. I know some of these guys, and it just feels different around these men; they are confident, bad-a$$, not too nice, and just cool cats. Their facebook is hauled and mauled by females catching up on them and everything they say through cellphone, txt messages or by their own mouth just make the women's hearts pound with excitement and joy.

My question is... how is this... call it a trait, power, vibe, personality, or whatever formed? I can't remember how many books I read to hone my speech, personality, positivism, but this guys seem like they got it for free... without forgetting to mention that they are some good looking motherfvckers. Maybe it's time for me to stop dragging my days and moping about why I am not being better. What are your thoughts on this?

 

[Scars]

Study these successful "bad boys", and if you can try and get in with them somehow. This site can teach you a great deal of things, but most of the best things I learned was just from observing "naturals". You get a front row seat of how it should be done. You might read something on this site, and want to try it in the field but you're slightly afraid, then you go and see some guy do it effortlessly and succeeds and it opens your eyes a bit. You're right, the most successful men do put out an "aura" of confidence, but they weren't always like that. Yes, they were once AFC's and had no clue what they were doing. They probably got burned by a bunch of woman until they turned somewhat cold/calloused or did the same advice I'm giving you, and that's observe the men who are successful. Take notes if you have to, even if they're mental. Pay attention to the things they say, their body language, the way they carry themselves, and how the woman react to them. Surely, they get rejected every once in awhile, you can't have EVERY woman, but you would never know with these guys because they simply brush it off like nothing and keep truckin'. That's some of the things you need to observe the most. These guys are probably fearless approachers, but don't think for a second that they can get ANY girl that they want. It's all a numbers game man, and A LOT of trial and error. They learned what works by putting different theories to the test and seeing personally what works and what doesn't. As should you. A DJ takes his knowledge and applies it to the field and learns from his mistakes. A "n00b" takes his knowledge and NEVER applies it, or he does and fails, and then spends the rest of his time sitting around wondering why he didn't succeed.

-Scars

 

[r0cky]

The player feels more comfortable around women than an afc.