What do you think to be a friend to a LJBF girl????

mystic03

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A while ago I posted a thread about a girl that told me to LJBF, and all of you told me to forget about her. Well I kind of did it but the thing is that we really have become firends and I was really sad to stop talking to her, besides to stop seeing her I would have to find new friends and stop hanging out with my best friends. Anyway I am trying to put my feelings aside and really be her friend. Am i wrong???
 

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just be friends w/ her if u want, but if u still have lingering feelings for her, its gonna hurt you, and i know u dont wanna relive that from the past. maybe wat u need is some new friends, and it isn't hard.
 

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If I was u and well actually u could say Ive "been you" before...or well I was in a similar situation Id just stop talkin to her cutting contact and everything and after a while when u dont have a crush on her anymore u can try to be friends again. Ull see if it works or if it doesnt. Its most likely to work if u got a crush on somebody else or hopefully a g/f tho...
 

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It really depends as to whether you can see her as a friend and whether you can spend time with her without the old feelings hurting so much. It's totally up to you. If you can be yourself around her, and don't feel like you are 'below' her as such, then you have no problem.
 

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Thank you all

Jasmine, what do you mean when you say 'below her'?
 

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You should have listened to the advice!

Don't kid yourself, you can't be her friend, you haven't moved on.

Pretending to act like just a friend around a girl you still have feeling for is just going to hurt you. In all honestly you can never become true platonic friends now, even if you find a new g/f.

At the moment, how will you feel if you see her with another guy? Like hell I'd imagine. Why would you put yourself through that?

Find out the deal, and if it's not happening then cut yourself loose and move on, sometimes she'll realise what she's missing, sometimes she won't, whatever the outcome you're better off than hanging around, you can always meet new friends and new girls, who you won't have to go through all this **** with.
 
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