What do you think of girls who say what dates they want?

[Eternal_water]

I've been on a few dates with this girl and its all going well got a few kisses in etc. Positive responses to everything, loads of IOI's, IL seems high blah blah blah.

But she says what date she wants next and pushes for it. I'm not so keen on that part, feels like a great big red golddigging flag to me.

How would you play this one, do some dates she wants or control the frame and push through alternatives?

Or even put out some gold digger tests and drop her if she fails them.

 

[_sideways_]

She's trying to play you like a fiddle.

no doubt about it. If you give in now be prepared for more of it. Best believe that she won't stop.

some girls are like this. Try stopping this behavior now and watch the texts stop, calls stop, etc.

this is a new relationship. She's allowed to say what dates she wants when in LTR.

you wouldn't start a new job and start demanding which days you want off, calling in sick, etc.

now, if she says she wants a particular date and she plans and pays that's another story. You're inviting her out and she starts to get demanding...it burns my goat too. Listen to your gut instinct

 

[Spence]

But she says what date she wants next and pushes for it. I'm not so keen on that part, feels like a great big red golddigging flag to me.

How would you play this one, do some dates she wants or control the frame and push through alternatives?

Or even put out some gold digger tests and drop her if she fails them.

Does she know you are wealthy? If so you need to test that. If she is demanding like a little girl you need to check it.

On the other hand, with some women if you let them have a little of their way it can be very rewarding. Otherwise how would bossy hotties get laid?

I know it's not canon on this site, but some girls like it when they can have their way sometimes, just make sure you keep it in check if she tries it again, laugh, sigh and say somethine like "ok...(pause..smile)....ok I'll go along with that", this means you are still in control just letting her having the reins a little.

Just make sure you keep it in check if you allow this.

If she is being bossy and demanding and doesn't stop you need to check this straight away or drop it.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

You can usually spot a digga a mile away:

-Lots of bling and (visible) labels all over her clothing.
-Lots (too much) make-up
-Expensive tastes (food, drink, venues)
-Superficial conversation (about all the above, vacations, popular culture - for lack of imagination)
-Most of the things she says refer in some way to herself (me, myself, I)
-She doesn't make you laugh heartily
-She fishes for compliments and draws attention to her appearance

I never approach these any more. As I say, you can spot them a mile away.

And one bird scorned when I offered her champagne in the park on a sunny day for a first date, saying she had a bar in mind instead. I stopped texting her shortly after that. If a bird tells me she wants a particular date, I say be good and you might get what you want, one day.

 

[SmooveMooves]

You laugh in her face and still go through with what YOU want to do or had planned.

Your the one taking her out not her, if she "has something in mind" or "suggestions" you simply reverse frame.

YOU: Yeah I think I might be interested in going to get a drink, you're coming right?

B1tch: Oh really? I have this really neat place in mind!

You: Holy ****, you want to take me out and get me drinks at that awesome place? Easy tiger you're not getting in my pants that easy

B1tch: Wai-.... that's not what I..... no....

You: Alright come on the (insert place of your choice) won't be open all night.

You ain't Burger king bruh

This aint SelectADateathon.

DISCLAIMER : don't act like this unless she's coming off as bossy, controlling, or gold digging like. If she really has an innocent honest suggestion, at least consider it.

She's lucky you're taking her out.

 

[Eternal_water]

You can usually spot a digga a mile away:

-Lots of bling and (visible) labels all over her clothing.
-Lots (too much) make-up
-Expensive tastes (food, drink, venues)
-Superficial conversation (about all the above, vacations, popular culture - for lack of imagination)
-Most of the things she says refer in some way to herself (me, myself, I)
-She doesn't make you laugh heartily
-She fishes for compliments and draws attention to her appearance

I never approach these any more. As I say, you can spot them a mile away.

And one bird scorned when I offered her champagne in the park on a sunny day for a first date, saying she had a bar in mind instead. I stopped texting her shortly after that. If a bird tells me she wants a particular date, I say be good and you might get what you want, one day.

Well the good news is that none of those apply to her.

Thanks for the advice guys.

 

[Zarky]

the only "date" she should be suggesting is you coming over to f*ck her silly.

Otherwise, I like women who offer date ideas but only if they're paying for 'em. If you offer a date and she suggests something similar but more expensive, then yeah she's a control freak and is used to being treated like a princess. For me that's an instant dump.

 

[nismo-4]

That is called a control freak and she needs to be deleted.

She is playing the "Alpha fux, beta bux" game with you as the beta. The minute you don't bend to her whims and stay in control, this will happen:

90% of the time she stops talking to you, she didn't think you were attractive anyway.

10% of the time she gets wet and wants you sexually.

That will show her real interest. IOI's are useless.

 

[Mike32ct]

I briefly dated a chick perhaps even worse. We'd go to one place that I suggested. Then she would suggest another place and another and another. Sometimes, we would venue change three times in one night. I ended up spending lots of money and only got one makeout out of it. Five dates later, I cut my losses and dumped her. Of course, she was a bartender chick, so playing dudes for money was her profession lol. I was so naive at the time that it's scary.

Pick a place that YOU want to go (and nothing expensive). See how she reacts to that. Any decent girl will not mind you picking the place. At most, she would offer a suggestion. Reasonable suggestions, not demands are ok. But if she keeps pushing all these places that SHE wants to go to and you're dumping too much cash for nothing more than a kiss, then move on.

I don't disagree with Nismo. I have real concerns about her being a control freak too. She's already NOT gf material. If you don't have her shirt off soon, I would definitely pull the plug.

But I am glad to hear that you're putting yourself out there though OP. Don't get discouraged if it doesn't work out with this one. Replace and move on.

 

[Eternal_water]

Thanks for the advice MIKE32CT, I've sent you a PM.

 

[JohnnyStorm]

Surely it depends. I mean let's say she suggests going to a cool place that you've never been and you do fancy trying out. Do you have to "Control the frame" or any of that crap by doing your date idea?

Of course not.

Sometimes girls are just insecure and worry about silly things.

I asked a girl to a rock gig last week and all of a sudden I was fielding inane questions about what she'd have to wear and whether she'd be "found out" as some outsider.
So she flaked due to her own insecurity. It was her loss and I had a cool night anyway.

 

[El Payaso]

Just say "Interesting. I've always wanted to try or do __________. We'll do that instead". Simple.