"What do you think about me?"

[DrSassyPants]

Hey all, I've lurked for a couple months now and have tried to absorb as much DJism as I can. Well it's working pretty good, I've made a lot of improvement, but still a long ways to go.
Anyways, I've been dating this girl for a couple weeks now. The last week or two i have stayed overnight at her dorm room about every other day. (Partly because my roommate came out of the closet, which is very disturbing and an entirely different story) So i've been sleeping in her bed and we've fooled around some (when her roommate is gone). but when we're going to sleep, she always has these questions for me, like "what do you think about me?" or "tell me what you like about me". I dig this girl but i don't want to straight up tell her that, and I don't like being grilled like that. I just try to play it off by saying stuff like "i think.....that you ask too many questions" or "i'm spending the night here...that should tell you something". vague stuff like that. i'm trying to be a challenge. is this what i should do? any suggestions or good lines to use?

 

[KiInCollege]

Are you having sex with her yet? If not, do you want to?

Is she hot and do you want to keep her, or eventually date others?

Is this girl ho'ish, or is she expecting a relationship out of you (based on her questions, sounds like the latter)?

We can't really give you any tailored advice because you haven't told us what you want from her.

 

[DrSassyPants]

My fault. I do want a relationship out of this. She's still a virgin, so I likely won't get any for a long time, but I'm cool with that. I'm pretty sure she wants a relationship too, she's not ho'ish. I just don't want to spew my feelings out and scare her away, which is practically what she's asking me to do with these questions.

 

[JohnJones]

"I think you are a wicked temptress, luring me into your bed this way, what kind of a guy do you think I am."

 

[KiInCollege]

Aight aight we got somethin here. Good girl virgin? Check. Hot girl? Check.

The real question isn't how you respond to her question. What you are concerned with is how to get in those pajama pants! Progress will be slow if you just focus on small talk.

Re-reading your answers, I'd say you responded fine. Her type of questions hint at insecurity on her part, though. You could have given more sexual replies, such as, "I like holding your warm body. You feel warmer down here though (move hand over her crotch). Hey, I'm warm here, too (move her hand over your crotch)." Etc.

Try to step up the heat. You're sleeping in this girl's bed regularly man! If she moves your hand away from her poon, you haven't kissed her enough. Let her know it's okay to touch your peeny. How does she feel about you giving her oral? Now there's a question you should find the answer to!

 

[DankNuggs]

When she asks you those stupid self appeasing questions: Look her in the eyes and then kiss her...She's just scared and hasn't been in a serious relationship before...Don't worry, your doing fine....

 

[Spike_Tha_Cowboy]

The best thing to do is to start buying her lots of expensive gifts.