what do YOU say when a girl asks you, "How many women have you been with?"

[Divorced w 3]

The only potential issue here is that many women will put you in the player bucket with that type response and it might scare some girls (the type silly enough to ask such a question in the first place) or get the woman to really be hypervigilant in qualifying you (shjt tests & non compliance) so I'd recommend to err on the side of 'Less is More' and be mysterious.

I also dated (and married) the playboy/player archetype so I never asked this kind of question and I always assumed that until exclusivity was agreed he is seeing other women and I am free to accept dates from other men & I always took a "May the Best Girl Win" attitude because most women are terribly insecure & eventually blow themselves out with demands, entitlement, insecure or bratty behavior.

So I never cared.

The good ones don’t care but they’re still watching. For instance, we never really got into this conversation until about a year into our relationship when I started coming at her with some questions about privacy settings on the phone and some other stuff that I really should have hit a lot sooner but hey, chalk that up to being married 14 years and a little rusty. Anyway so we work through all that but it kind of segues into this conversation not about numbers per se but we do start opening up about our history. I learn a little about her and she learns about me, truthfully doesn’t bother me, you can’t date a 33 year old woman and not expect her to have a prior life and i have sex with this woman multiple times a day l, she squirted for the first time in her life the first time I smashed her and I truly have no insecurity in that realm so whatever. But we get to the part about how this former girlfriend of mine a Miss America contestant that my ex wife didn’t even know about is following me. And she’s like oh that’s who that blue checkmark is on your account. They always know. So anyway the old ‘honestly baby I can’t even remember at this point’ comes out and she’s like wow that many huh? It is the absolutely perfect answer

 

[BMX]

The only woman that asked was a virgin. It's an antiquated question. Experience and confidence will give you great evasive answers on the fly

 

[member162951]

How about when she asks, play dumb, look at her like she has two heads and change the subject, lol.

Not all questions need to be answered especially silly ones, such as 'notch count.'

JMO.

 

[Dr.Suave]

How about when she asks, play dumb, look at her like she has two heads and change the subject, lol.

Im assuming that´s what you would do to someone asking your notch count. This person could vet you out/screen you out based on this reaction and vice-versa. It saves both of you time imho.

Not all questions need to be answered especially silly ones, and this is one.

Oh, you wanna talk about "silly"? I remember you talking about a female friend that you considered "High Quality" but she had a promiscous past riding the Carousel. I remember you saying "High Quality Girls" can have ONS and casual sex outside of exclusive relationships. Those are a few examples that sound "silly" to me but whatever, its just different opinions.

 

[member162951]

I'm assuming that´s what you would do to someone asking your notch count.

Firstly, my post was tongue-n-cheek and secondly, as a woman I have never been asked that ridiculous question (I'm 100% serious) nor have I ever asked, and if a man I were dating asked me, it speaks volumes as to his mentality and mindset and I would seriously reconsider dating him.

Not that I'm ashamed, in truth it's relatively low, it's just a silly question IMO.

By the way guys, for disclosure purposes as a mod advised me in DM he's about to "out" me, I'm the former @catsmeow and this will be my last post.

Ciao and take care, be happy.

 

[Divorced w 3]

The only woman that asked was a virgin. It's an antiquated question. Experience and confidence will give you great evasive answers on the fly

She asks and you smile and just say “I’m glad that went well for you “

 

[member162951]

She asks and you smile and just say “I’m glad that went well for you “

Lol, exactly, ask a silly question, get a silly answer!

 

[Dr.Suave]

I wasnt about to out her (not sure how she reached that conclusion). It was actually the other way around.

I sent her a PM " Im trying my best to not reveal your identity in my posts " which I meant literally. I made a bunch of changes to my reply before posting it, thinking precisely about this matter. Looks like the changes were not enough, and for that, Im sorry.

Looks like she thinks Im some Machiavellian guy who wanted to out her for some reason. What my motive would be is beyond me.

 

[member162951]

I wasnt about to out her (not sure how she reached that conclusion), it was actually the other way around.

I sent her a PM " Im trying my best to not reveal your identity in my posts " which I meant literally. I made a bunch of changes to my reply before posting, thinking precisely about this matter. Looks like the changes were not enough.

Apologies @Dr.Suave it's fine, it was me, I didn't like hiding who I was, that's all.

It doesn't matter, no one cares.

However, just to know, everything I posted as @JoyDivision1990 was genuine and true to who I am as a person and a woman.

Just thought I'd clarify that before leaving.

Ciao.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Apologies @Dr.Suave it's fine, it was me, I didn't like hiding who I was, that's all.

Thank you. I really appreciate this reply

Just thought I'd clarify that before leaving.

Oh come on. Please dont leave. I love "fighting" with you. Same with @BeExcellent

I would miss you

 

[member162951]

Thank you. I really appreciate this reply

Oh come on. Please dont leave. I love "fighting" with you. Same with @BeExcellent

I would miss you

Aww come on you're making me blush!
Anyway, thanks, I will send you a PM.

 

[Mertz09]

Thank you. I really appreciate this reply



Oh come on. Please dont leave. I love "fighting" with you. Same with @BeExcellent

I would miss you

LOL!! Back to the subject of "notch count" that I see here often. My opinion is that it is really none of a chick's business how many women that I have slept with. She should be concerned about herself and our possible relationship.
And as far as Her "notch count"; I really don't care...... Good screening and paying attention to how she acts and behaves should come into play.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Good screening and paying attention to how she acts and behaves should come into play.

I agree with this part. Thank you for your reply

 

[BMX]

She asks and you smile and just say “I’m glad that went well for you “

She asks and I smile and just say "That's classified" or just stare at her motherfcckerly because it's 2024 and I haven't been asked that in nearly two decades. "Poon" (another antiquity) guaranteed either way because she's clearly in it to win it too.

 

[pipeman84]

By the way guys, for disclosure purposes as a mod advised me in DM he's about to "out" me, I'm the former @catsmeow and this will be my last post.

I strongly suspected that, after reading your posts in the thread https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threa...yone-ever-try-this.226737/page-4#post-3100804
I don't understand this behavior ... start an account, rack up hundreds of posts, then delete the account AND the posts, start another account - IIRC there was a catsmeow2 - and repeat the process.

 

[Dr.Suave]

I don't understand this behavior ... start an account, rack up hundreds of posts, then delete the account AND the posts, start another account - IIRC there was a catsmeow2 - and repeat the process.

That´s totally fair. From the outside looking in, I would agree with you brother. She had her reasons.

Now, now: Lets try our best to not create more drama or derail the thread.

 

[RickTheToad]

When? This week? month? year? Please be specific.

 

[member162951]

When? This week? month? year? Please be specific.

Lol, that's really the best answer! If me and I were to ever ask a man that question (which I wouldn't but anyway...), a response like that would have me laughing and forgetting about what the question ever was!

Laughter is the absolutely best "medicine" or answer to most dilemmas.

 

[Mertz09]

Lol, that's really the best answer! If me and I were to ever ask a man that question (which I wouldn't but anyway...), a response like that would have me laughing and forgetting about what the question ever was!

Laughter is the absolutely best "medicine."

Yes it is!!

 

[RickTheToad]

Lol, that's really the best answer! If me and I were to ever ask a man that question (which I wouldn't but anyway...), a response like that would have me laughing and forgetting about what the question ever was!

Laughter is the absolutely best "medicine" or answer to most dilemmas.

If you keep it light and cheeky, they love it. Never be too serious and females live by and in the moment.