"what do you look for in a woman?"

[Hendon]

Originally posted by BobbDobbs
Oh man, that's horrible. It makes you seem like a whiner. It signals that you've only attracted damaged goods in the past.

Don't go there.

Your image is a DJ -- you've only attracted the cream of the cream in the past, etc -- but you want more.

I like to show them that i'm the selector, whiner? no way. I'm selective.

Think about this for a while, do you choose not to "whine" because you're afraid it will piss her off? you're thinking too much of how to please her.

 

[Hendon]

Originally posted by Mr. Latte
I heard this on the radio...it's a quote from some movie or somthing that the local alternative station plays a lot...

"I'm looking for a woman who used to be morbidly obese, but lost a lot of weight, and is now covered in stretch marks"
Tell her that, and the look you get will be priceless.

Lol how is that? I wonder the reaction? Only fat people have stretch marks, skinny people who were once fat have excess skin.

 

[wheelin&dealin]

Her: "What do you look for in a woman?"

Me: "Take all your characteristics for example... I want exactly the opposite."

 

[Mr. Latte]

"Someone like your older sister...think you could introduce me?"

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Originally posted by 00Kevin
your solution sounds like something a girl would do. A man doesn't list off complaints about women he has dated.

You are not complaining. You are answering a question by stating the things you won't put up with. If that helps you screen out women, then so be it. Believe me, if she has some legitimate interest, it won't hurt your cause to communicate you are selective.



I've tried exactly what you said and what ends up happening is she thinks you are too judgemental. The last thing a girl wants is a guy that judges her.

Who cares what she thinks. She sure won't care if you think she's too judgemental, specially if she knows you are dying for her approval. Are you afraid of scaring her off? Would you rather put up with BS once you're involved with her, or make it clear that you have standards? If she really likes you she'll agree with you and even tell you stuff like "I know, I don't like people like that either" or "I'm not like that." or "I have a friend who's like that." Who has control now?



Most women feel guilty about things they have done in the past and when you start to complain about other women you are going to make them think you would do that to them.

Again, you are not complaining, you are just stating your preferences. That should be better reason for them to not act like other women. You are not there to put up with their second class behaviour. If you let som things slide in the beginning, because of fear of ofending her, you will pay for it later.

like I said just tell her you want a woman that showes high interest and likes to flirt. You can go wrong with that at all. And you don't have to put on some false ****y funny act to do it.

unless you are naturally a ****y funny kind of person don't try it. You will just end up looking like a fool when you open your mouth. It takes natural instinct to pull off a ****y funny line.

We both know that if she has some interest, and you're are not totally inept with women, you can say almost anything, and it won't hurt your chances. You are not there to cater to her and tell her what she wants to hear, because most other men already do that, in hopes to bed her. Unless she doesn't like you, that won't turn her off. And unless she has very high interest, telling her to show IL and flirt won't work. Kinda like you can say anything if she really likes you, and it doesn't matter what you say if she has no interest.

By telling her you like them to show high interest and flirt, you are giving them amunition to start their game playing, which they are much better at than most men. Guess what? She will stop 'showing high interest' and start playing games. They like the game, the challenge. Your one line will not prevent their natural instinct to want a challenge. Yes, I know it doesn't sound logical, but women are not logical.

Remember, what seems to be isn't when it comes to communicating with women. We can't live in the shoulds, can't we?

Believe me, she won't feel 'guilty' about flaking on you, using you,,etc. She didn't feel guilty when she pulled out her BS to avoid going out with the guy she wanted to get rid of. She'll feel guilty when the next guy she really like busts her on it; and she'll still be interested in him, and he now has the power.

I do agree with you, you must be pretty good at being ****y/funny to pull it off. Whatever you guys do, DO NOT START TRYIN' TO SAY ALL THE RIGHT THINGS TO EARN HER APPROVAL. How you say it is the key. You can be nice, calm, and sincere when you state some of the behaviours/things that you want a woman not to do. No whinny tone, or complaining bad attitude. Just selective.

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by Gangster Of Love
We both know that if she has some interest, and you're are not totally inept with women, you can say almost anything, and it won't hurt your chances.

This is true. With a woman, the bottom line is always weather or not she is attracted to you.

By telling her you like them to show high interest and flirt, you are giving them amunition to start their game playing, which they are much better at than most men. Guess what? She will stop 'showing high interest' and start playing games. They like the game, the challenge.

GOOD! if she starts her games and she wants a challenge then it's only a matter of time and you are IN! the more you refuse to play her games the more of a challenge you will become to her. she won't understand you and that will make her want you more.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by sandinista
Aggghhh! i hate it when girls / people ask this question. Seriously, i've been asked this question like 8 times in the last 2 weeks.

I'm running out of witty things to say. I used to use the corniest line in the book.. you know..

Her : "what do you look for in a woman?"
Me : "me"

But then they usually make that annoying sign & say, "no, really, what do you look for in a woman?"

So, what can i say? What would YOU say..

"Women are difficult to categorize since every woman is unique. So tell me, what do you have to offer?"

Turn the tables on them and see if they are quick on their toes

 

[Tripod]

****y/funny option:

Q: What do you look for in a Woman?

A: I want a woman who's waist high, with a flat head I can rest my drink on.

 

[00Kevin]

too bad we couldn't just be truthfull and answer this question the way we wan't to.

my answer would be somethign like, "yes, I want a woman that loves sucking and enjoys the taste of cuum even when it's salty."

 

[Krassus]

Originally posted by Walden
pat her on the ass and say "Don't worry , you're pretty close".

Mwahah not bad

 

[B9]

Here's my priority list anyway:

1. Looks

No point in kidding ourselves. the chik may be disqualified due to lack in other criterias, but we are always gonna be looking for those who qualify for this basic criteria first, before going further down the list.

2. Emotional stability

If she is fickle, she is out. No matter how charming creatures they are, there is no way I am gonna spend more than one night with a woman who can't handle her own problems or who always has to make a drama of everything. Likewise, the "I am an independent woman!" attitude will get the thumbs down soon enough.

3. Intelligence

Don't have it, and they just become boring in the long run.

4. Personality

Curiously, this would probably rank 2nd after looks in the 'initial attraction' department, but in the long run, is not terribly important compared the abovementioned qualitites.

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by B9
Here's my priority list anyway:

1. Looks

No point in kidding ourselves. the chik may be disqualified due to lack in other criterias, but we are always gonna be looking for those who qualify for this basic criteria first, before going further down the list.

2. Emotional stability

If she is fickle, she is out. No matter how charming creatures they are, there is no way I am gonna spend more than one night with a woman who can't handle her own problems or who always has to make a drama of everything. Likewise, the "I am an independent woman!" attitude will get the thumbs down soon enough.

3. Intelligence

Don't have it, and they just become boring in the long run.

4. Personality

Curiously, this would probably rank 2nd after looks in the 'initial attraction' department, but in the long run, is not terribly important compared the abovementioned qualitites.

you missed perhaps the most important thing. What the girl believes in. That is the real question.

I once told a girl that was very smart that i didn't really care how smart she was, I cared about what she believed in.
I ended up nexting her for some of the stupid ideals she had about life.

 

[B9]

That would qualify under emotional stability for me. I don't mind if a girl believes different things than I do (most people do anyway), as long as it's not conduicive to harm. People with wacked up beliefs are usually not too solidly grounded in real life.

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

Originally posted by 00Kevin
too bad we couldn't just be truthfull and answer this question the way we wan't to.

my answer would be somethign like, "yes, I want a woman that loves sucking and enjoys the taste of cuum even when it's salty."

ha ha ha!!! GREAT ANSWER!!!