What do you guys think about this situation?

[improvingdonjuan]

there is a 21 year old girl where i work and i have always negged her and teased her and made fun of her and all that stuff, she would always neg me back, teased me and we had a fun time "arguing" with each other all the time.

( and yes i know, i seem to have a thing about females at my work place. as you can remeber there was another girl at my workplace i was djing wich i nexted)

reacently though i was being myslef (well the way i have developed my personality after this dj site, so everything i do when im just being me is confident,****y,funny and let's say im a dj. im just not very good at cold aproaches.)
we started working together i started kinoing her,flirting teasing, and playing with her. at first she would teasing back and giving me a hard and fun time like i was giving her. But slowly she began to act differently around me she is more confortable with me touching her (before i would touch her waist and she would jokingly back away) no i can put my arms around her, touch her leg, touch her arms, i even touched her butt (she is still not so confortable with me doing that judging her body language)

she has a boyfriend though 1 year relationship i believe. i knew this a long time ago when i first met her, so i was just having fun but i never intended to take it to a romatic level though.
no im starting to have interest in her and i know she is interested in me because she wants to be around me, she touches me too, she is way nicer to me, she touches my hands alot, she always maintains eye contact, she laughs at all my jokes, and she asks me questions about my personal life and sexual life.

yesterday she seemed even more interested in me she even sometimes copied my ****y style and she said " you wish i was your girl friend" and i answered "no, i wish you were my sister"
with that sister comment i would hug her and touch her even more. i was talking to my friend and i mentioned another girl and she wanted to know who the girl was she said " who is that? you have to ask for my permission since im a very jelous sister" and she did seemed jelous.
i jokingly put my arms around her and i said sis, (in a sarcastic tone) are you gonna let me go out with her ?

i asked her to do my paper work for me and she willingly said yes, so i siad "thanks you desrve a ........(and i kissed her on the cheek) she seemed to get all light up and she was willing to help me even more after my reward.

Ok DJs i gave as much detail as posible for you to judger her IL which i think is high. now im begining to get interested in her and i want to know what would you guys suggest i do next?
i don't know if ik should get her number and ask her on a date (keep in mind that she has a one year relationship with her boyfriend)
or if i should just keep being my self and having fun and let things happen (by that i mean make things happen, next time kiss her on her lips, keep the kino going, and all that fun stuff)

 

[improvingdonjuan]

no suggestions huh?

 

[biker_gixxer]

Originally posted by improvingdonjuan
keep being my self and having fun and let things happen

She's got a serious boyfriend so you may be her 'excitement' at work, but nothing more. Taking it to the next step may kill it for her #1 and #2, you don't want to get in the middle of a 'situuation' with her and her man. Girls, especially her age love the drama. If she wants to give 'it' to you, she'll let you know.

 

[improvingdonjuan]

well the way i see it is
she is my little exictment at work too but im not there to give her a fun time, I am better that her dude so she might want to land me before she dumps her probably AFC boyfriend.
she is giving me lots of green lights,and acting like an woman with high IL and if she didnt have a boyfriend i would have already taken her out, kissed her and ...............who knows....

But Going through all that drama and trouble for a girl ..........you know her boyfriend getting pissed and me getting pissed and both of us getting to a fight at my workplace.....i dont know
i think she is interested but i dont know if i should just have fun with her and see what develops or get into a romantic situation with her (she is pretty fun and but she is an average looking girl with a nice butt and nice body, if she dresses nicely she CAN be considered pretty. she is fun as hell too, she is hispanic like me so she (claims) to have hispanic values and morality (which i dont have lol)

so in a nutshell should i just use her to help me and have fun with her so my time at work will be fun or should i explore and date her and have MORE fun with her as a dating partner?

i like her personality and her looks, but i havent gone for it because i dont want to go through all that trouble for her since she is in a serious relationship but she is not married (and according to her all her boyfriends have been 1 year or more or a little less)

i need more points of view

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Dood, if a girl has a bf and she wants you, she'll let you know, trust me! But you CANNOT pursue her, you must attract her to you and then if she wants you that bad, it will happen. I think your trying too hard to have a girl because you feel like if you don't then there's something wrong with you. I'd seriously suggest not messing around with people you work with unless its just a hookup and nothing else. You need to go out more, meet girls and have fun. You never seem to have more than one prospect and until you know a girl likes you, that's a quick trip to one-itis land.


A lot of guys will tell you that she's just getting attention from you and that's it. Well that's the generic answer bullshyt. I think she has shown you some interest, but just kind lay back and see what happens. Don't think so much on being a DJ, if she's interested you'll have a chance.

Does she talk about her bf a lot? If so then your definitely just an emotional tampon, but I'd say if your getting the signs, ask her to hang out and see what happens.



PIMP

 

[PRMoon]

From what it sounds like to me she's being a typical 21 year old girl. She flirts with a younger guy at work but has a crutch in her boyfriend. I wouldn't try to move things along too quickly with her because girls her age love to shoot down ****y gentlemen like yourself, just for fun, like it's one of their hobbies. Get you all riled up and thinking you're on point with your game, then down you go to the JF zone.

If it were me in your situation at your age I'd say find another girl and let this one see you with her. She'll have a strong sense of loss and wanting to get back the turf that she thought she had locked up. Letting her know you're a playboy and won't be around for ever will push her buttons like no other. When she asks you about her just be like "she's a nice girl and I'm just being young, i mean we only live once" or something of that nature. I'd imagine the best way to get with her from there would be of course drinking. At 21 she's got to be into it and you could go to her house just to hang out, have a few vodka redbulls and let nature take its course. After you hook up with her don't blow things out of proportion, you should remain casual around her and keep with your little touching games but you shouldn't do anything drastic like start trying to make out with her in public and all. I'd reccommend you keep things private till she figures out what she wants to do to gain some more of her respect and confidence that you're not a bad guy and even though you're younger then she, you're very mature and fun.

 

[snakeeyes]

I agree with PRMOOn, 21 year old girls just like to flirt but I agree that she does seem to have some type of interest in you. I had a girl at work who told me that she broke up with her bf of 5 years and ask me if I wanted to be her bf. she would call me at work and one time she even gave me a kiss. Well shes married to that same guy now, so she was just flirtin all along. I didnt care too much because I wanted her younger sister. I dont like going after girls that work with me, but it is a very good place to flirt and get to know someone. Probably because I had a bad experience. Its just hard to face someone at work when things have gone bad in the relationship. well I did end up getting with the girls younger sister, she also worked with me. This girl was also hispanic but Im asian and she does have hispanic values and morality. Me and this girl eventually broked up because she didnt know what she wanted just like all immature 19 year olds. my suggestion is to keep flirting with her, kino, and being ****y and funny. Dont ask for her number or try to schedule a date because she does have a bf. You are still not sure if she is just being flirty. Keep this girl as an option and not as priority. If she wants you, she will let you know and eventually break up with her bf just to be with you. If not then just keep having fun with her and dont take it too seriously.

 

[improvingdonjuan]

i flirt with everyone at work, and she also knows about the other girl ( the one i nexted) and she asks questions about her and if i dated her or not (i usually change topics or just say she wasnt worth my time) i mean im not trying too hard cause i act the way i am i basically some times tell her to stop bugging me and talk to some other dude cause im busy doing my paper work and she responds with " but i like talking to YOU" i say something like "well here is a seat cause youre gonna have to wait a while"
yeah....i sound like i overanalize but truth is i when i ask for points of views or opinions i like to give as much detail as possible. and by the way she never mentions her boyfriend.
and she lets me touch hair in fact after i made the smart ass coment that she looks pretty with her hair down but when she puts it but the prettiness goes out the window, she seems to put her hair down more and even gives me "clues" for me to touch it and smell the "shampoo" she wares.

but you guys ARE right i need to stop getting the girls that naturaly fall for my personality in my confort zone and start Getting out there and cold aproach MORE girls and so i dont have to think about one more than she deserves.

Like i said before since im not really good at cold aproaches i want to practice those and do what a really brave dj here did

see a hot chick and aske "can i ask you a quick questions,"
HB "yeah"
IDJ "are you single?"
HB "answer"
IDJ "take it from there until i device my own strategy and learn from the field"

I will go for the Just have fun and wait for HER to make a move while i just keep it up being me

 

[improvingdonjuan]

guess what dj's no wonder this chick is giving me all the go's
she told me she doesnt have boyfriend anymore. now i get what happened a couple of days ago,she showed me a purse with a pic a dude and her

her " do you have pictures in your wallet?"
me " no, i dont need them"
her" do you want to see my ex?"
me "not necesarily but what the hey, why not?"
her showed me a pic of her ex
me (i thought it to be a little strange having a 1year relationship and still carry a pic of your ex)
me "you got bad taste.......but then again you aint no model either"
her "shut up (smiled)"

today she called me to work out a prob, we have at our work.
i gave an idea of what to do (we settled it)
she started being C+F
this is what happened
she called me we kinda worked it out i told her i was busy and i would call her later
(then again i though this is no time to be a challenge we got a damm problem in our hands and i have to figure it out)
10 min later i called her

me"hello"
her "hello"
me "{chicks name}?"
her " i know who you are, i can recognize your ugly voice" (teasing tone)
me"yours isnt any better"
her " so what are we gonna do?"
me"{told her to meet some place and discuss it}
her "all you want to do is see me isnt it?" (i was smiling she was coping my style)
me " yeah i do actually" (sarcastic tone)
her " i knew it"
we tried to find time to meet but since i go to work tomorrow we couldnt so i gave her a solution on the phone
me "dont cry"
her "what? why?"
me " cause you wont see me"
her " yeah right? you are so young "
me " yeah but more experienced than you little girl"
me " anyway you are so anoying, you are always trying to flirt with me and be around me, whats your boyfriend gonna thing huh?"
her " i dont have one anymore, remember i told you?"
me " no wonder youre all over me"
her " you wish,"
me " i got to go im kinda busy"
her (she kept talking)
my "bye.........bye.......(in a teasing tone)
her "ok

anyway after all that interesting ditail what im saying
chick's got no Boyfriend anymore, she gives me all the green lights + me having some interest = potential relationship

so now i can date her like a normal chick
or what do you guys think?

 

[maranathaman]

Ask her out and see what happens.

 

[improvingdonjuan]

i called her yesterday and this is what went on

i called no answer, i did not leave message
5 min later she calls

her "hi, did you call me?"
me "yeah, its me Improvingdonjuan"
her "hi, what's up?"
me " they havent told me anything (about our little problem at work) the supervisor is checking up on me though"
her "they havent told me anything either"
me " that's not why i called though"
her " no?"
me "i wanted to ask you something"
her "what is it?"
me "do you want to go out with me?"
her" what took you so long?.............im mean huh? (laughs)
me " i want it to see if you were worth it"
her " yeah, when?"
me "wendnesday"
her " i cant i got practices on wed, and thusrday , and mon and tues. i just go to school. we could do it on tuesday"
me " i dont know i got to check my schedule"
her "check it and call me back at night ok"
me " alright, bye"
her "bye and take care"

well i was too lazy to call her yesterday night so i might do it today or tomorrow.
we always flirt and joke around and have fun time so i'm planning to taking her to
denny's (a good way to talk and get to know her better)
but i dont know

where do you guys suggest we go? the more ideas you give me the better.

 

[taqueso]

If you like the idea of Denny's, you should find a place like Denny's but cooler. Denny's is pretty lame, and there are lots of restaraunts that let you sit and chat and only order coffee and stay as long as you want. Also, the food there sucks.

 

[DJ_Dork]

Originally posted by taqueso
If you like the idea of Denny's, you should find a place like Denny's but cooler. Denny's is pretty lame, and there are lots of restaraunts that let you sit and chat and only order coffee and stay as long as you want. Also, the food there sucks.

I agree, wtf Denny's? Try to avoid the chains and show some class at least even mom and pop coffee joints. Remember, to go for something chocolatey.

 

[Spike Shinizzle]

Originally posted by taqueso
If you like the idea of Denny's, you should find a place like Denny's but cooler.

AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH :bowdown:

Why not an action date? Mini Golf.