what do you do with girls that use guys to boost their confidence

[jigga23]

Right now im dealing with a girl that does such. Im most likely the best looking dude she deals with by far. Not to be ****y but i just know it. i know she flirts with a lot of dudes but they all look like chumps. shes cool but it seems like she has low self esteem and needs guys to boost her confidence. Shell talk to me answer my calls and return my texts but nothing happnens. i know she brags to people about it and probably uses me in a public to show off she can get a good looking guy. I dont want to be a d1ck to her but fvck that sh!t gets old and it aint cool. how can i counter that?

 

[Remulak]

Sounds like you're dealing with an AW, play the hot/cold game, be more of a challenge

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

By being a man.

 

[jigga23]

im not like a puppy dog to her. I call her once usually well talk hang out or whatever then shell pull some flakey sh!t whatever it may be. So ill stop talking to her. then shell call me like 1-2 weeks later. If im a d1ck which i use to be one theyll obviously get back at me eventually. ive told her one time that wha tshe did wasnt cool with me.

 

[Remulak]

so let's see...flakey and attention seeking you've got a winner on your hands. Give her another chance for the hell of it, flakes again buh bye!

 

[pooparu]

I have a question for guys nowadays.

You say you are DJ, pimpin, playa whatever (and I'm not challenging this), so why do you put up with bull**** like this? There are billions of other women, why put up with one who yanks you around and plays bull**** games? Really man, not saying that she's a dirty ***** or anything, but why waste your time on the games? Just friend zone her, use her as a pivot as she's using you, and enjoy each others company, you don't need to lay every girl you start gaming, if she's gonna be a pain in the ass, why put up with it, there are probably thousands of quality women who won't do this **** within a 50 mile radius of you.

Again, just my opinion.

 

[jigga23]

poop - thanks for that i needed that. i get hung up atleast within the last couple months cuase i just got out of a ltr and wanted someone else. but i just gotta be patient.

 

[Delta]

it sucks doesn't it?

BUT

i think that this is the UGLY TRUTH about how one is supposed to use the other sex... both men and women.... USING AND GETTING USED is how it's supposed to be perhaps. law of the jungle... and also respecting that as we 'play', so do they. haha... hate the game not the player...

when we're not good at the game, we use the 'pawns' to elevate our self-esteem and gain experience and then use them to elevate our game and then to "SLINGSHOT" ourselves to better destinations. for guys, this is the beergoggle fat chicks. sometimes, an easy lay is an easy lay and i don't want anything to fing to do with her after i'm done with her.

I HAVE NEVER DONE THIS. and i think that is part of my problem.

i have a tremendous problem with it because it does not conform to my previously idealistic take of relationships. but again, i think this is part of my problem. i probably should.

yes, it sucks. but then i guess the burden becomes to use others more than you get used. or.... if you're getting used, make sure YOU GET YOURS. you take it out on her hide... literally. if you get used, make sure you're enjoying it and getting something out of it yourself. if not, you're a chump. you should exit the situation. but if you get used in the right way, she gets what she wants out of you and you do too.

delta

 

[blinkwatt]

I call them out on it,"Im not a fool,Im not gonna let you abuse me like your other guys,you attention *****". Their jaws drop they realize "Holy carp,this wont work on him",but this only works if you dont give them the time that they want and look for.

 

[MattS]

yea it pisses me off tonight i had the chance to tell such a girl about her stupid sh!t. I drove by this bar tonight that my friends were going to go too. Then i saw the stupid girl out in front i was like fvck dude im going to get her back tonight. We went somewhere before and then when we went there the line was out of control so we didnt get in. It wouldve been perfect i wouldve went in there she wouldve saw me then i wouldve completely ignored her. she wouldve then came up and somehting to me then i wouldve said your wasting my time and walked away she wouldve been all pissed and hurt and jocking my nuts. oh well theyll most likely be another time.

 

[DonJuanByNature]

Nice!!!!!! Except!!!!!!

I have a question for guys nowadays.

You say you are DJ, pimpin, playa whatever (and I'm not challenging this), so why do you put up with bull**** like this? Just friend zone her, use her as a pivot as she's using you, and enjoy each others company,

you don't need to lay every girl you start gaming,

I loved your reply ...UNTIL you said "you dont need to lay her"

Dude.. you sounded so good until you said that.. let me just edit by saying LAY HER, and THEN FRIEND ZONE HER,..... play on playa hahahah

 

[The Truth]

Dude.. you sounded so good until you said that.. let me just edit by saying LAY HER, and THEN FRIEND ZONE HER,..... play on playa hahahah

That sounds great in THEORY. If only real life was like that little fantasy world you live in.

The point is the original poster wants to lay her but she's using guys to boost her self esteem so he wants to know HOW. Or how to deal with her.

Pooparu was right - you dont have to (and often you cant) lay every girl so your best course of action is to friendzone her and hang out with her, let her chase you and use her to boost YOUR self esteem.

Attention wh*res are like leeches on yoru confidence. One moment she'll be cold and the other she'll be red hot for you but either way you will end up worse off for pursuing her.

 

[Vince]

Right now im dealing with a girl that does such. Im most likely the best looking dude she deals with by far. Not to be ****y but i just know it. i know she flirts with a lot of dudes but they all look like chumps. shes cool but it seems like she has low self esteem and needs guys to boost her confidence. Shell talk to me answer my calls and return my texts but nothing happnens. i know she brags to people about it and probably uses me in a public to show off she can get a good looking guy. I dont want to be a d1ck to her but fvck that sh!t gets old and it aint cool. how can i counter that?

I think the only reason you are upset is because you like the girl. When I think back to a girl that tried to use me to boost her confidence, I did not care. I didn't care because I was interested in another or /other women at the time. If you do or don't like the girl, I don't see a point in forcing yourself to be a challenge, especially if it takes up a lot of your time.

It seems as if a lot of guys on here get upset at a woman or confused by one and then goes to great lengths to be a challenge. If you are spending more time trying to be a challenge, then it might not be worth it.

If you like her and can't take it, then take a step back...and continue with your life....

If you don't care, just think of yourself as a movie star. Personally, I think the odds are in your favor. Whenever you are out with a woman, other women pay more attention to you--your value goes up. And you shouldn't feel bad about getting another woman's number in your friend's presence because she is only a friend. haha!

 

[Krassus]

Nothing. You do NOTHING with them. Let them come to you and PROVE that they genuinely desire you. If they fail to do so, WALK.

 

[jigga23]

Is ok to show a lil interest. Like if i call them to hang out ONE time only then if they flake or whatever i dont contact them again until they contact me again.