Here's a few different things to try:
- Take a towel, twist it up, then hold it at both ends and twist it as hard as you f*cking can, for as long as you can. Imagine you're strangling/crushing/killing whatever or whoever you're pissed off about
- Go running, or run on a treadmill, and with each step stamp really hard, imagining you're stamping on the offending person's head
(in both of these, you should never imagine yourself as the offending person. Even if you're p*ssed off with yourself, you should imagine the situation or the other person, not you)
- Scream into a pillow as loud as you can
Usually, when you get angry, it's to mask another feeling...something that you don't like about yourself, someone else, or a situation, a problem that you know you should face, but you've convinced yourself it's out of your hands. Now when I get angry I always check myself to see if it's a result of a bad attitude toward myself or someone/something else.
Sometimes, though, it's legit. That's when it's best to do something physical to dissipate the energy.
True, but the anger is also legit regardless of what it's masking. It's legitimate purpose is to defend you against the feeling that's underneath it, and until you're ready to face that feeling the anger wil protect you from it. It's never wrong to feel anger, it's how you behave when you're angry that needs working out.
bp1974