What do you do when you go to bars alone?

[Kevin Feng]

Okay, even before I got into pick up, I never really went out alone, not because I feared it, but people just don't do that, it's weird. It feels weird because it IS weird.

One of the major lessons in revelation is learning to build an entourage, or rather just a cool group of friends. If you can't simply make friends when you go out, you sure as hell are not going to get a girl of decent value. Learn to walk before you run, just go out and focus on meeting some cool guys/girls that you can just hang out with to begin with.

I'd actually make an argument that it's an absolute prerequisite to running pick up, if you can't build the social group, that's indicative of a deeper rooted problem. Read this article too, I'm sure you'll find it of use.

http://theasianplayboy.blogspot.com/2006/01/befriending-people-in-low-places.html

 

[backbreaker]

1. i you are going to like a bar with pool tables and stuff, go early or dont' waste your time. where I would go, it would be jam packed by 11pm to the point where you could not get a table or pool table or a seat then you are just that crazy guy walking around looking stupid. versus getting there at 9pm, getting you good pool table, getting some games in, having a couple of drinks and having a good time. That would make all the difference in the world to me. the security of knowing you have your "spot". nothing worse than walking around a jam packed bar by yourself.

2. never fails. if you areplaying pool by yourslf, and yo uare half decent looking, SOMEONE, will come up to you eventually and want to play with you. sually a woman. usually a woman who thinks you are cute.

the pool table is like a conversation starting without even saing anything. it gives her a reason to come over to you and talk to you, witht he cover of actually wanting to play pool. ***** knows she can't play pool, she's probably plastered as it is.


3. I prefer to go solo, in fact I hate taking guys out with me. Say there are 3 of you. there are 4 girls in a "pack". the girls can do the math. I've seen situtations where, I 've been in situtatoins wehre the girls would try to stand off becuase it was ovbious someone would be left out. or what if one of your friends just sucks and would not have a partner?

alot easier to just spot one and pick out one than to try to find a confirming "pack" that would meet your "Packs" needs.

then when you go out and you meet 1 woman, and you are sitting with 8 guys, you aren't so much alkikng to her as much as you are putting on a show and she's the entertainment. alot more comfortable, alot mre herself, alot more receptive if you are alone.

 

[daygameguy]

1. i you are going to like a bar with pool tables and stuff, go early or dont' waste your time. where I would go, it would be jam packed by 11pm to the point where you could not get a table or pool table or a seat then you are just that crazy guy walking around looking stupid. versus getting there at 9pm, getting you good pool table, getting some games in, having a couple of drinks and having a good time. That would make all the difference in the world to me. the security of knowing you have your "spot". nothing worse than walking around a jam packed bar by yourself.

That is spot on. Prolly the best advice in the thread.

 

[goodfoot]

I prefer going out alone as well. Even when I go out with friends I usually ditch them as soon as I get there. The whole night I'm meeting new people and every half hour or so I go back to my friends just to see what they are doing. I don't understand how people go to a bar and just hang out with their own group all night. If I wanted to do that, I could have just bought 2 cases of Bud Light and hung out at the house.

 

[donjuanapprentice01]

Been going out alone as well. I've been going to places with live music playing, I find it alot less intimidating as you aren't walking around like a lost soul as you would in a club. You go and listen to the band. Now what I do is sit at the bar, there is always traffic at the bar. I've been able to strike up plenty of convos with people who come up to order drinks.

 

[bardamu]

Sarging alone can be a rough one. It is probably one of the most difficult capers to pull. It takes some pretty killer confidence but it can be done. The key besides not looking like a totally out of it desperate loser is first, already be slightly inebriated, second, be friendly w/ the bar staff, mind you if you are good looking guy (like yours truly) it makes it easier. However, it can be awkward at first. My strategy, if sarging alone, is that I go to several clubs early w/ no cover charge and get my admission band, then I lay back, maybe grab some coffee, go to a cigar joint, a place w/ no pressure, then I go in to the club, slam a few drinks, at this point it is still empty in there so there is no one there to see you as possibly an AFC, then you go back to your safe zones until the line develops and the place starts jumping, then you go in, by now it is crowded and physical contact is a given, then you can get some eye contact leads, make your way over, do your thing. The key to this, is to be PATIENT, if you aren't you'll bug out and go home frustrated and be left w/ your hand, as usual. Trust me, it has happened to me. The key is patience. Good luck, kids.

 

[IKO69]

If your friends hurt your chances then you are better off going alone. It can be an advantage if you force yourself to talk to strangers if that's not your strong suit and get better. Then when you see a woman you like it will be easier =)

 

[Captain Harlock]

I don't like going in alone. It's just less fun without any friends. I'd only go out alone in a different city or country. Tried it in the same one, just made me really uncomfortable so I left early.

Me being around friends is enough for women to approach me or at least give huge IoIs.