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What Do You Do If Your Into Several?

LoneSilver

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I do my food shopping at this one store and without a shadow of a doubt I know two babes there who like me and I could easely ask out. One is in the bakery and the other a cashier in another section of the store.

Now I like both and one is younger than the other and I want both to ask out so how do I go about doing this without hurting the others feeling or do I let the two know about the other so its not a major issue down the road?

Give me some ideas but in simple terms how do you date several women at the same time?

LoneSilver
 

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LoneSilver said:
Give me some ideas but in simple terms how do you date several women at the same time?

LoneSilver
Don't let them find out about each other. Ask each one out when the other isn't around. You're not committed to either one, so it's not like you're "cheating" on one with the other. And if they get snippy, just drop one and tell the other that the one you dropped "was just a one-time thing and you didn't connect" or some other BS.
 

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I'll have to try that seems fair enough.

Thanks squirrels

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squirrels said:
Don't let them find out about each other. Ask each one out when the other isn't around. You're not committed to either one, so it's not like you're "cheating" on one with the other. And if they get snippy, just drop one and tell the other that the one you dropped "was just a one-time thing and you didn't connect" or some other BS.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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squirrels said:
Don't let them find out about each other. Ask each one out when the other isn't around. You're not committed to either one, so it's not like you're "cheating" on one with the other. And if they get snippy, just drop one and tell the other that the one you dropped "was just a one-time thing and you didn't connect" or some other BS.
Hopefully they aren't good friends, it would be a bit like seeing two women from work.
 

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Who's hotter? Sarge that one first, then work the other one, just be above board non-exclusive with both of them and don't get wrapped up with either. Then sarge that other cute one in produce and the pharmacy.

Ask for the moon and you'll be surprised how often you get it. Too many guys sell themselves short in their own self-consciousness. Audacity will get you into dating both these girls, timidity wont get you either one.
 

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There is a concern these two know each other and work the same hours most of the time.

One is around 24 no kids the other around 38 divorced two son's from what I have heard.

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What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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The practical reality is it’s very unlikely you will hurt their feelings going for both. I’ve been guilty of overestimating my “amazing” affect on women much to my surprise. LOL

They know the game. A little competition is not bad either.

If you are worried about their feelings now, before you pull the trigger, then this will bug you the whole time. You will not be free of it.

I say just pick one, the hottest one. Go prospect somewhere else for a second one. Go back to the second one there if and when the first fizzles.

But, I think if you go for both you are also asking a timing question on these two, and, in general how to juggle two or more. That’s a hell of a lot more complicated.

The gurus will tell you don’t see them that much, once a week, don’t call more than 2x a week. That seems just too pat and formulaic to me. I wonder sometimes if those gurus really do the things they say because I have not been able to keep any relationship on a “formula” like this. Maybe these are ideals or goals but they sure aint real most of the time.

The goal with the infrequency is to not allow yourself to be sucked into their reality and focus on any one too much.
 

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I would just go for the best out of the two for now...

If these two know each other, there is a chance you could end up with none of them if your playing both together. It could blow up bigtime.

At Least this way, if it does not work out with one of them, you can always wait until the dust settles and try with the other.

if she likes you enough then she will give you a chance..

If your sure they both like you then you cant lose..

Mindtrust
 

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Ooh,..the single mommy is out. Sarge the 24 y.o. only.
 

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yeah go for the young one. If it doesn't work, I'd try to fukk the single mommy, but with a condom. And pull out.
 

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speed dawg said:
yeah go for the young one. If it doesn't work, I'd try to fukk the single mommy, but with a condom. And pull out.
Wear a condom regardless of who you choose; either one could be infected or become pregnant.
 

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Yeah, but I'd put the condom on 2nd.
:crackup:

I was thinking the exact same thing! Like, dude standing there with his wang hanging out, "How you doing today? Great, let's go use this thing."

Talk about "sexual state".
 

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Ask them both out realizing that at some point you are going to have to choose if it starts getting serious.
 
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