What do you do if date reschedules?

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What do y’all do if a date reschedules on you?

i had a date setup for thursday, and today she tells me she thinks she is going out on Thursday, so we should do Wedensday when i asked her out first time she said she doesn’t have anything planned.

what should i do? Should i reschedule to Wedensday? Or just tell her it won’t work for me on Wednesday and we reschedule for sometime later?
 

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Suggest Wednesday if you like. See what her response is.

Have you been on a date with her before?

Tbh I would be talking to other girls and trying to arrange with them instead. Often when they do things like this then they're not particularly interested. Although if she does this again then you will know for certain, particularly if she doesn't suggest alternative dates instead..
 

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Whatever she's got going on Thursday is more important to her than you are.

Did she offer to do it another time or was that you?
 

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Whatever she's got going on Thursday is more important to her than you are.

Did she offer to do it another time or was that you?
She offered to go on Wedensday and asked if i was fine with it
 

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Suggest Wednesday if you like. See what her response is.

Have you been on a date with her before?

Tbh I would be talking to other girls and trying to arrange with them instead. Often when they do things like this then they're not particularly interested. Although if she does this again then you will know for certain, particularly if she doesn't suggest alternative dates instead..
I think there’s a vibe, she offered to reschedule haven’t replied yet, but if she flakes again then it’s a no-go
 

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Whatever she's got going on Thursday is more important to her than you are.

Did she offer to do it another time or was that you?
And the thursday part is 100% probably another dude on the picture, i’m thinking about telling her nah can’t on Wedensday let’s do some other day
 

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What do y’all do if a date reschedules on you?

i had a date setup for thursday, and today she tells me she thinks she is going out on Thursday, so we should do Wedensday when i asked her out first time she said she doesn’t have anything planned.

what should i do? Should i reschedule to Wedensday? Or just tell her it won’t work for me on Wednesday and we reschedule for sometime later?
Sigh. You guys think too hard on this stuff.

If she offers a reschedule for Wednesday, you accept and go out with her. Simple.
 

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What do y’all do if a date reschedules on you?

i had a date setup for thursday, and today she tells me she thinks she is going out on Thursday, so we should do Wedensday when i asked her out first time she said she doesn’t have anything planned.

what should i do? Should i reschedule to Wedensday? Or just tell her it won’t work for me on Wednesday and we reschedule for sometime later?
It means her interest in you is low or medium at best. You are there for when she has nothing better to do, she isn't actually excited about meeting you. A woman who is interested and excited about meeting a guy would cancel something she has that day to make it, not schedule something else.
 

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I think there’s a vibe, she offered to reschedule haven’t replied yet, but if she flakes again then it’s a no-go
Try one more time.

My first instinct is that she isn't that interested, although there is no harm in trying.
 

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It means her interest in you is low or medium at best. You are there for when she has nothing better to do, she isn't actually excited about meeting you. A woman who is interested and excited about meeting a guy would cancel something she has that day to make it, not schedule something else.
Should i pursue and go for wedensday or drop it?
 

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Should i pursue and go for wedensday or drop it?
Depends on you. If you already have plans I wouldn't rearrange them. If you don't then it's your call. Personally, any woman who tells me she has "something better to do" than see me straight up like that is telling me she isnt worth any effort on my part. If you have nothing going on then go for it.
 

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If she offers a reschedule for Wednesday, you accept and go out with her. Simple.
If the man is available on Wednesday, then he can go out with her on Wednesday.

Being offered a re-schedule is better than not being offered one. It is always a curiosity why she's choosing to re-schedule existing plans.

I also think it is relevant if this is a 1st date or another early stage, pre-sex date like a 2nd, 3rd, or possibly 4th date.
 

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Problem is if man says “yes” to Wed, the girl knows he has nothing going on Wed or Thurs.

”She thinks she is going out Thursday?” That wouldn't cut it for me. If it was a work or family thing, ok, with apologies. But otherwise, no.
 

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Problem is if man says “yes” to Wed, the girl knows he has nothing going on Wed or Thurs.

”She thinks she is going out Thursday?” That wouldn't cut it for me. If it was a work or family thing, ok, with apologies. But otherwise, no.
That’s how i felt tbh about the whole situation
I would go on Weds.

I think it’s ok to cut somebody some slack the first time.
Kinda that’s a perspective to be put into place
 

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It means her interest in you is low or medium at best. You are there for when she has nothing better to do, she isn't actually excited about meeting you. A woman who is interested and excited about meeting a guy would cancel something she has that day to make it, not schedule something else.
Thank you for the nuggets of knowledge
It’s not that serious. The most important thing is getting the girl in person.
Depends on you. If you already have plans I wouldn't rearrange them. If you don't then it's your call. Personally, any woman who tells me she has "something better to do" than see me straight up like that is telling me she isnt worth any effort on my part. If you have nothing going on then go for it.
i feel that the date reschedule is a test-trap to see how you’d react, plus to vet out if you have any options from her side
 

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