What do you do for work?

[Rainman4707]

Had a LOT of women online ask me recently what I do for work very early in the interaction
Do you think it's rude for them to ask that so early?

Is'nt it similar to me asking how big are your nipples? Or do you have a fat pu**y.

 

[Zimbabwe]

It's a common question in social situations when you are trying to get to know someone. Stop overthinking it.

 

[dogsta]

Online women?! I assume you're talking about on-online dating.

As common as a social question it is, it is also a probing question - from a woman's perspective it may give them a feel for your financial level, if that's their interest in asking.

As for an answer, if you don't want to be specific - then don't. Just give the industry. E.g. for me, I could say I'm in green energy. It's a vague answer but may spark conversation as is often the point of asking questions, no?

So, no, it's not rude to ask. Asking about nips and puzzy could be deemed so, though!

 

[corsica]

She wants to know how much money you make. Most janitors will say they work with Waste Management. There's a list of fancy names that mean crap and women know how to spot a faker trying to impress them.

For online dating I guess women have so many men to filter that they go straight to the point. For a heart surgeon, that would be great. They'll get wet instantly.

 

[Rainman4707]

Yeah I know...that's what I thought...they are asking how much money do you make. It got me thinking.....women want a guy who makes good money....so they are being direct asking about that.

Guys want to fuc* the women....so why should it be any different...me saying "send me nudes" just the same I think.

 

[corsica]

Guys want to fuc* the women....so why should it be any different...me saying "send me nudes" just the same I think.

You can instantly see if a women is worth having sex with (relationship apart). They can fake it with better angles, makeup and filters.

I guess a better analogy would be to asking her for more pictures so you can better measure her body and face features.

 

[Rainman4707]

You can instantly see if a women is worth having sex with (relationship apart). They can fake it with better angles, makeup and filters.

I guess a better analogy would be to asking her for more pictures so you can better measure her body and face features.

Obviously I'm not going to act on the hypothetical approach I wrote in OP. Very likely the snakes will just block me.

 

[RangerMIke]

A women's attraction is based on how you look, your perceived wealth, and perceived status in society. This sort of thing is a normal question chicks ask you if you are on a first date and she doesn't know you. Get used to it because you can't control it. You can either answer honestly about this, or avoid the question and change the subject. Not a good idea to lie because women can sniff out dishonestly fairly easy.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Pull a David DeAngelo and just say you are a butt double for HollyWood Actors. Is she keeps pushing just say something along the lines of "My job is _______ but work is the last thing I wanna talk right now" and then lead the convo in a different direction. It worked for me.

 

[Rainman4707]

I've been answering their question about work since 2012. I must have answered it thousands of times...so don't need advice on how to answer. I just tell them the truth...that I will tell them when I get to know them better

 

[Rainman4707]

Not remotely the same. Back to your cave….

How?

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I’ve rarely been asked this. I never put my work/education in my Tinder bio. and I don’t bring up my job. the only time I get asked is when I tell someone I’m there (as I travel a bit for work) for work. then it’s ‘Oh. what do you do?’.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Do you not ever go out in real life? One of the most common questions you'll get asked in ANY social situation.

 

[Macadellic]

I’m proud of what I do
so I tell them when they ask

Some roll their eyes, cool no big deal,
I turn my back and walk away from them.
Other women put their hand on my shoulder “omg”

Welcome to the game, player.

 

[Epicwinguy]

She wants to know how much money you make. Most janitors will say they work with Waste Management. There's a list of fancy names that mean crap and women know how to spot a faker trying to impress them.

For online dating I guess women have so many men to filter that they go straight to the point. For a heart surgeon, that would be great. They'll get wet instantly.

I'm a janitor and tell people I work maintenance

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

No and if your job is in something that dries panties, tell a white lie. If you are unemployed then why are you dating?

 

[Cerwin Vega]

I usually ask them to guess.

FYI, your profession has 0 impact on whether a girl will sleep with you. A friend tried to "wing" me once by introducing me as a doctor to every set we've tried to open. If anything, it made the girls less interested...maybe it was the wrong crowd (hippie girls)

 

[corsica]

made the girls less interested...maybe it was the wrong crowd (hippie girls)

- Meet my friend Vega, he's a astrologist.






The problem with answering what you do for a living is how you reply. If you have a good frame and doesn't sound like you're trying to impress her or asking for validation... It'll all depend of the girl. Like Vega mentioned above, if it's a different target/crowd you might be "next'd".