What do i do?

[anour]

Find someone that is good with social cues that you can shadow. Also Go to any bar that is conducive to conversation... sit back and observe how men and women interact and who is successful.

There is this guy, ain’t really good looking, chubby a bit but he got game going in and he doing the same study, but i feel there is tension between us and not really the go to, should i initiate interaction or just drop that and find somebody else?

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Go see an escort OP. You're in your head too much and too needy. Then get back to gaming with a better sense of detachment.

 

[ManFromTartarus]

Today i saw her again when i saw her i asked how it’d go with her meeting then i told her i tried messaging you but it was a different person,

These are the mistakes you need to look at.

-Asking about her meeting, as if you're interested in the business of a woman that dissed you, and you remembered it.
-Telling her you were trying to reach her after she clowned you, as if your meeting her was that important.

You need to have some respect for yourself.

 

[Stanley]

Yeah it’s the fact i gauge the interest level of girls, if its low i never speak to them again. Is this wrong to do, is attraction built over time? Or i am right in not wasting time on low-interest hoes.

Depends on what you want.

If your primary motive is sex and you want low investment of effort on your end then this is fine. But you will have more girls outright reject you in the process. You will fail more than you succeed. (See mode 1)

Attraction and interest start at a baseline and can be cultivated and grown with time and effort. The question is are you willing to put in the work and investment? Oftentimes if you just want to cut to the chase best to only deal with girls that are at least moderately interested in you from the start. Remember, you cannot negotiate desire

Or i am right in not wasting time on low-interest hoes.

If these hoes had 'high interest would' they still be hoes to you? Drop this mindset, it comes across as butthurt. Just because someone isn't interested in you doesn't mean they are of low value. They simply aren't interested, you cannot take it personally. You just need to try again and find someone who is.

Most girls need some rapport with you to know if they really dig you unless they are upfront about it and down from the getgo. They will work with you and give you the keys if they are interested enough.

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

Depends on what you want.

If your primary motive is sex and you want low investment of effort on your end then this is fine. But you will have more girls outright reject you in the process. You will fail more than you succeed. (See mode 1)

Attraction and interest start at a baseline and can be cultivated and grown with time and effort. The question is are you willing to put in the work and investment? Oftentimes if you just want to cut to the chase best to only deal with girls that are at least moderately interested in you from the start. Remember, you cannot negotiate desire



If these hoes had 'high interest would' they still be hoes to you? Drop this mindset, it comes across as butthurt. Just because someone isn't interested in you doesn't mean they are of low value. They simply aren't interested, you cannot take it personally. You just need to try again and find someone who is.

Most girls need some rapport with you to know if they really dig you unless they are upfront about it and down from the getgo. They will work with you and give you the keys if they are interested enough.

You are right not all of em are ratchets
Treat them all accordingly to their class and behavior
her comment was snarky as fvck.
That lip service only comes out of a no good female.
It was unprovoked and disrespectful.
She gotta get kicked to the curb
OP will only grow thicker skin

 

[EyeBRollin]

But then do you actually get women with cold approaching?

A tip I learned from Doc Love -

Ask her: “Hi, what is your name?”

Then wait. Do NOT tell her your name until she asks. See if she engages and asks. If she responds:

“Hi! I am Becky! What is your name?”

You might have a chance.

If she instead says:

“Rebecca.”

Just keep walking..

 

[bat soup]

I approached a girl last week, interaction was light and overall good i got her (supposed) number after all, she was from the same hometown as me, she had to leave because of some meeting for uni. I tried messaging the number she gave me it was fake. Today i saw her again when i saw her i asked how it’d go with her meeting then i told her i tried messaging you but it was a different person, to which she replied “maybe you’re meant to be with her” i played it off by saying “yeah maybe she is worth it” and then i ended the conversation.

my question is how can i improve my response in case i have other similar interactions? I wanted to say maybe you gave me the wrong number because you’re nervous that’d have been better.
Don juans what do y’all think?

If a girl deliberately gives you a wrong number, then she's a timewaster and there's no point discussing anything at all with her. What you did right was ending the conversation and walking away.

 

[anour]

Go see an escort OP. You're in your head too much and too needy. Then get back to gaming with a better sense of detachment.

I already have a sense of detachment sometimes too much that i cut girls off from the getgo and that’s ****ed because relationship wise i ain’t satisfied

 

[RangerMIke]

my question is how can i improve my response in case i have other similar interactions?

Nope. She wasn't attracted to you, nothing you can do will change this. You got a fake number... this happens to ALL of us. I've lost count of how many times this has happened to me. All you can do is move on.

You likely misread her and thought she was actually attracted to you. Again, nothing you can do about this accept get practice... keep asking women for their numbers... eventually it will sink in with experience.... it will happen less as you get better at reading body language but it will still happen.

The OP did nothing wrong accept calling her out on the bad number. Women who are attracted to you will not give you a bad number, they do not make this mistake... if they like you they are not going to screw that up. Take the hint, forget about her, and move on.

 

[SW15]

I approached a girl last week, interaction was light and overall good i got her (supposed) number after all, she was from the same hometown as me, she had to leave because of some meeting for uni. I tried messaging the number she gave me it was fake. Today i saw her again when i saw her i asked how it’d go with her meeting then i told her i tried messaging you but it was a different person, to which she replied “maybe you’re meant to be with her” i played it off by saying “yeah maybe she is worth it” and then i ended the conversation.

my question is how can i improve my response in case i have other similar interactions? I wanted to say maybe you gave me the wrong number because you’re nervous that’d have been better.
Don juans what do y’all think?

This interaction is dead. Move on and forget it ever happened.

Find someone that is good with social cues that you can shadow. Also Go to any bar that is conducive to conversation... sit back and observe how men and women interact and who is successful.

Great advice!

 

[anour]

This interaction is dead. Move on and forget it ever happened.



Great advice!

Do you know any youtube channels with such stuff?

 

[anour]

Nope. She wasn't attracted to you, nothing you can do will change this. You got a fake number... this happens to ALL of us. I've lost count of how many times this has happened to me. All you can do is move on.

You likely misread her and thought she was actually attracted to you. Again, nothing you can do about this accept get practice... keep asking women for their numbers... eventually it will sink in with experience.... it will happen less as you get better at reading body language but it will still happen.

The OP did nothing wrong accept calling her out on the bad number. Women who are attracted to you will not give you a bad number, they do not make this mistake... if they like you they are not going to screw that up. Take the hint, forget about her, and move on.

Revelations 101 thank you man for your opinion, i really appreciate it