What do i do when she says....

[Plec07]

Keep it to the point, don't keep on trying to convince her. State your side and then be unaffected by her decision of who to listen to.

 

[nicenomore]

Keep it to the point, don't keep on trying to convince her. State your side and then be unaffected by her decision of who to listen to.

plec rightly put about going overboard. Simply state it once , repeating cetain points for a mere emphasis at max. Dont be affected by the outcome.

Better still , in School , you can tell it between the class if you meet , you can always state your point and walk away with the excuse of going back to class. But even if you meet her later , dont ask "whats your decision?" and stuff like that. Her actions of being with you or ignoring you are answers enough.

Over board is generally like going too far in explaning . Stating your points 10 times , begging for a response etc. That shows you are a pu$$y whipped.

Its a hard concept to explain in words, but pretty easy to understand practically.

 

[SIDEBOARD]

"Alright I'm gonna explain my side of the story, it's your choice to believe it or not, all I'm asking you is, are you willing to listen?"

"Monday morning when I entered school, I had a smile like the greatest thing happened to me, of course my buds were interested and asked so I told them the about the concert, I was happy cause you came with me,and I counted that as the score, now our common friend knew all about what happened with me holding your bag from your bro, so he joked about that and I even asked if holding your bag and buying you Iced tea was right, also I told them about the times I dragged you to the front rows of the pit. I don't know who you got the story that I was counting the bag thing as a score, I don't know who told you that me leading you deeper into the pit was me trying to molest you, and frankly I don't care. Now thats my side of the story so once again, it's your choice to believe it or not"

*walks away*

So My monologue would probably be something like this, and I would state it once and only once with some emphasis?

 

[Kiko-]

I'm suprised that no one mentioned the obvious. If she really did show IOI's like you mentioned including coming alone with you, then this must have been a **** test. She's trying to see your reaction and to see if you'll go all AFC and be defensive etc.

 

[nicenomore]

sorry kiko-
thats not a $h!t test. Read all the posts in the thread carefully, you'll understand why. $hit tests are more in the nature of refusing an act , such a giving of a phone number, more in the nature of push -pull.

Ok , not gettng personal here, but whats your suggestion for him to do? Ignore the girl or accept the rumors being spread?

 

[GaryUranga]

IMO, distance yourself a bit for now, stop being pushy

 

[Kiko-]

First of all, my bad, I misread the original post.
Ill take this make and tell you from scratch what I would have done. You know sometimes when you heard a girl was interested in you, you started being interested or at least thinking about her? Well, considering how you had IOI's there you could have gotten even more by simply saying "Im gonna ask you out one of these days, just not now, Im not in the mood". This will basically get you on her mind and everything.
The fact that you bought her Ice Tea and held her bag was a sign of your former AFC self returning. - nice guys finish last, let her pay for the pizza.
After this, something took place which totally screws you over and what I hate about delaying and basically high school. That is, rumours spread. Now, if I was in your position, I'd keep my mouth shut except for the "Ill ask you out..." line and other things towards her as far as my 'feelings' and 'intentions' go. The rest comes out through body language and kino.

Now, before I continue, you mentioned meeting her etc. Basically, I'd move on. Tell her "I heard about these rumours and it's too bad this had to happen. Perhaps I'll see ya around/LJBF." That's my way b/c I don't even wanna imagine what happens next with those stupid rumours.


So, from here what I suggest is push n pull but without actually intending on pulling her. When you see her again, do "what i'd do" and kino her or whatever and make a joke about the situation about how 'it's over' per say. Then leave her and find another chick. Simple as that.

 

[Nighthawk]

Could you give an example of being overboard?

Writing some long-ass response to her drama.

Did she notice you 'molesting' her at the time? Then it was nothing.

Tell her you thought she was cool and were happy you and had a good time so you told your friends, just as she no doubt does to her gfs. If that freaks her out, and she wants to make some big drama out of it, fine lets never speak again.

Though you will probably ignore this good advice, beg for forgiveness and lose her respect for good.

 

[SIDEBOARD]

No actually I will follow your advices.

Now I tried to talk to her last Monday first I texted her to ask permission if we can talk in private, she didn't reply, she didn't pop up for our arts club either(which I thought that would be my chance to explain my side and go), so I can only think of one thing, She probably doesn't trust me and will not believe my side, so the solution is, either to ignore her as most of you said or to find another chick as more of you said.(I'm thinking of getting my Korean bus mate, but I can't find any possible topic openers and neg's for her, although I can kino her)

So Problem solved Thanks Guys!