what do I do about this girl?

El Duderino

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so theres this girl I've known for about a year, we had a couple of classes together and just made conversation about nothing in particular, she's been pretty open toward me and I like her personality...I even remember her giving me a couple of compliments, but that was back when she wasn't single...currently we are on friendly terms but more as close aquaintances than friends because I never see her outside school

earlier this year she told me her boyfriend dumped her but at the time I was interested in someone else and didn't make much of it...back in september she offered to give me a ride home out of nowhere, and really insisted upon it because I was declining out of politeness, but I gave in and as we were talking in the car it was made clear that she was still frustrated about her bf...again, this was a while ago so I didn't really care back then

now I'm more interested...I see her in the hallway every day and have class with her but try not to do more than just smile and say hi as I pass by her...

earlier this week I decided to take action and after seeing her in the hall, I pulled her aside and asked what she's doing friday...she said she's going to a party with her friends and asked why...I told her I'm taking her out (note how I didn't ask her if she wants to go out, I just said "I'm taking you out" and smiled)...she smiled too and was like "aww you wanna take me out?" or something along those lines...she said she can't friday and all weekend cause she has work and said "I'll see you monday, sorry"...I just smirked in mock heartbreak and was like "ok I see how it is, bye"

now I don't know what to do...I like this girl and I'd say she's my top priority out of all the girls I'm interested in...does she already see me as too much of a friend for anything to happen? what should I do?
 

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"Awww..."

If that's what it was like, she sounded like she was talking to a little kid. "That's cute, but go get a cookie or something, little guy."

Next her, dude. From what I'm seeing, she has little to no interest in you, since she didn't say "How about next weekend?" or anything like that. If she likes you at all, it's as a friend. Forget about her.

Oh, and another thing. Why did you sit there and listen to her ***** about her boyfriend? Stop being an emotional tampon.
 

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There was no counter offer, so it doesn't seem like she's interested.

Saying "I'm taking you out" is a confident thing to say, but you shouldn't say that right after she's told you she's going to a party with friends. Next time say "When are you free? I'm taking you out", this way she can't really say "well I'm busy Friday, and on the weekend, forever". You'll get a more direct yes or no answer.
 

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the only reason I listened about her bf is cause at the time I really didn't care about getting with her...

anyway how should I act toward her now?
 

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You could try Ganji games? But that would require a previous interest level...so...I say forget about her. If you want to be her friend, go for it. But I don't see anything more than that happening for you, dude.
 

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ok so if I next her, am I supposed to just ignore her completely?

a while ago I had a bunch of stuff on my mind and didn't talk to her that much for a couple of weeks, then when I started up again she noticed the difference and asked why I was like that
 

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If you next her, that's it, it's over. It's giving up and moving on.
 
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