NERVOUS WRECK
Dude, i used to be just like you.
A hot girl would sit no closer then 3ft away from me and i would start sweating, get into a closed body position, start talking slowly, and looking at the ground.
Who knows why?
I know why
I was thinking! (doh!)
Now, dont get me wrong, thinking is great! Except when you start thinking about things which arent real. Or in other words... when you start to imagine, and create a fantasy.
Oh but arent those things supposed to be good?
Nope, they are horrible ways to screw yourself.
Lets be reasonably for a second. If a hot babe sits next to you, what does your mind jump to?
If you are like me, then you are probably like "what should I do, how should I act, what should I say."
In other words, you are thinking about what the future would be like if you did this, or said that. You are trying to predict things which might not even happen.
STOP THAT!
Look at the present. Focus on the Now. Feel your ass sitting in the hard chair, feel your toes in your shoes, feel the air going into your nose, down your throat, into your lungs, imagine it going into your blood stream, imagine it traveling all across your body.
Feel how you feel. DO NOT THINK. only interpret sensual imput. Then notice the girl, But notice her not with your mind, but with your sense of sight.
Do not think "Oh blah blah blah."
Have a reaction. A natural physiological reaction. Tap into your animal mind.
"I see, I want" Is the feeling, focus on that. Do not think about how you will achieve it, only focus on the feeling.
Now, wipe of those sweaty palms, feel the air pressing all around your body, breathe it in, love it.
Feel good, feel how great it is to have all these senses. Now dont think, dont analyze, just act.
Do what you FEEL like doing, not what you think you should. If you feel like grabbing her ass, dont think a second about it. If you lok at her and feel like smiling, dont think a second about it.
If you look at her and feel like taking a nap, then dont think a second about it.
JUST DO IT. no thinking involved. No "what about *me*, should *me* do this, or that?"
Only the prehistoric brain giving you subconcious commands to move you arm, touch her, telling you to enjoy the feeling, telling you to express it with a smile.
NOT THINKING ABOUT WHAT *SHOULD* HAPPEN. only doing what does.
Yes that sounds very weird and confusing, and the more you try to analyse it the weirder its going to get. Just accept it, and go out and try it.