phil2015
Senior Don Juan
Hey guys,
Im writing to please get your advice of an iverview regarding a recent relationship I was in for 8 months.
Firstly, after reading Corey Waynes book and adopting many of the principles and masculine behaviours described, I attracted a girl from work with very little effort. She worked in a different department, not far from mine and we hit it off right away. Within the first few minutes of talking with her properly I got her number and then arranged a date for that weekend. On the date she was laughing, touching me and was literally all over me. So far so bloody good!
We began dating and very quickly it was obvious she had some insecurity and personal issues from her childhood and previous boyfriends. Over the last 8 months I tried my best to guide her through these problems, assuring her I loved her and would console her whenever necessary. Yet the issue is, she seemed to have an overwhelming urge to **** things up and expect me to fix it.
This involved trying to start arguments over nothing, such as a female sales assistant greeting me when I entered a shop or accidentally taking my phone into the toilet.
To start with I ignored and walked away from the arguments as I like to have a drama free life. Yet over time the issues wore me down and I became mentally exhausted with what was happening. I became tired of doing my best, trying to treat her right and be supportive whilst having my efforts thrown back in my face. I was fed up with having to fix something that could have been effortless and fun. She also used to telll me she was attracted to other guys at work to get a reaction from me. I said the same back about a girl I worked with and she went nuclear. She had me delete all the platonic female friends from social media. She even attacked me once physically and I had to call the police as she was threatening to hurt herself with a knife. The whole situation was causing me to pull my hair out, get me to boiling point with frustration yet I still had love for her.
She broke up with me on first of March, then after a week of no contact, she rang me and we decided to give it a second chance on the grounds that she sought councelling. However her issues were the same and last tuesay gone, she exploded at me after I asked if she had organised any therapy sessions yet. She demanded that I get out of her house and so I did and went to work. Later that day we were speaking on the phone and she said "If I think any of this is her fault, we're over and I should never speak to get again" To her surprise I blocked her number, removed her from social media and then dumped her over the phone. She repeatedly rang back surprised I had suddenly grown a pair of bollocks.
I have not spoke to her since
My is that my brain is telling me I made the right choice, but my emotions are telling her I love her regardless and I ****ed this up......
I'm feeling guilty about everything, like I could have done more but I got tired of trying to fix everything.
Your thoughts on this would be much appreciated,
Phil
Im writing to please get your advice of an iverview regarding a recent relationship I was in for 8 months.
Firstly, after reading Corey Waynes book and adopting many of the principles and masculine behaviours described, I attracted a girl from work with very little effort. She worked in a different department, not far from mine and we hit it off right away. Within the first few minutes of talking with her properly I got her number and then arranged a date for that weekend. On the date she was laughing, touching me and was literally all over me. So far so bloody good!
We began dating and very quickly it was obvious she had some insecurity and personal issues from her childhood and previous boyfriends. Over the last 8 months I tried my best to guide her through these problems, assuring her I loved her and would console her whenever necessary. Yet the issue is, she seemed to have an overwhelming urge to **** things up and expect me to fix it.
This involved trying to start arguments over nothing, such as a female sales assistant greeting me when I entered a shop or accidentally taking my phone into the toilet.
To start with I ignored and walked away from the arguments as I like to have a drama free life. Yet over time the issues wore me down and I became mentally exhausted with what was happening. I became tired of doing my best, trying to treat her right and be supportive whilst having my efforts thrown back in my face. I was fed up with having to fix something that could have been effortless and fun. She also used to telll me she was attracted to other guys at work to get a reaction from me. I said the same back about a girl I worked with and she went nuclear. She had me delete all the platonic female friends from social media. She even attacked me once physically and I had to call the police as she was threatening to hurt herself with a knife. The whole situation was causing me to pull my hair out, get me to boiling point with frustration yet I still had love for her.
She broke up with me on first of March, then after a week of no contact, she rang me and we decided to give it a second chance on the grounds that she sought councelling. However her issues were the same and last tuesay gone, she exploded at me after I asked if she had organised any therapy sessions yet. She demanded that I get out of her house and so I did and went to work. Later that day we were speaking on the phone and she said "If I think any of this is her fault, we're over and I should never speak to get again" To her surprise I blocked her number, removed her from social media and then dumped her over the phone. She repeatedly rang back surprised I had suddenly grown a pair of bollocks.
I have not spoke to her since
My is that my brain is telling me I made the right choice, but my emotions are telling her I love her regardless and I ****ed this up......
I'm feeling guilty about everything, like I could have done more but I got tired of trying to fix everything.
Your thoughts on this would be much appreciated,
Phil
