What did i do wrong?

[kingkong98]

theres this girl that i used to flirt with once in a while but i always had other stuff going on so i never really persued it. i havent talken to her in a while but i had a legit question to ask her today so i texted her. she busted my chops a little bit for disappearing for the past couple of months and was she being pretty flirtty so then i sent her a text saying "lets grab a bite to eat next week and catch up on things"...she never wrote back...so what do i do now? should i just call her in a few days and try to set something up or just forget about it?

 

[killahpl]

Christ women are unbelievable sometimes... :cuss:

Really, would it have hurt her to text back 'sorry, not interested' or something?

Please, do yourself a favor and just drop it. Really, behavior like that is unacceptable.

In fact, if you feel so inclined, just text her, 'you know, I always thought it was kinda rude not to give somebody the courtesy of a reply, whatever that reply may be, but I guess I must be crazy.'

 

[kingsam]

next her
girls flirt for fun its not always that their interested (eg guys only flirst when interested)
dont worry
if you see her next time bust on her C+F - dont expect anything tho

 

[Ease]

Crazy female behaviour.

Probably has a guy and was looking for a gay bff.

You were too badass, gj.

 

[schttrj]

IGNORE...
if you want to pursue still, go for it in a strong way. don't be swayed. turn the game!
if not, just leave it at this. accept the fact that some girls are really psychotic. you cannot change that.

 

[Kailex]

theres this girl that i used to flirt with once in a while but i always had other stuff going on so i never really persued it. i havent talken to her in a while but i had a legit question to ask her today so i texted her. she busted my chops a little bit for disappearing for the past couple of months and was she being pretty flirtty so then i sent her a text saying "lets grab a bite to eat next week and catch up on things"...she never wrote back...so what do i do now? should i just call her in a few days and try to set something up or just forget about it?

She got you back.

That's all there is to it.

You did it to her and now she got to do it to you and she regained control of that frame and now, you're wondering whether to call her or not?

Isn't there a reason you didn't pursue it in the first place?
I guess I'm just not understanding the situation clearly... but you went from texting her (NOT CALLING HER!?) to ask her a legit question and then use the same medium to ask her out?

If you really, REALLY don't care about this girl, MAYBE you can give her a call in a few days, but I will almost guarantee that she will NOT pick up the phone and she will NOT call back.

All she probably wanted to do was flirt a little via text and not actually set up a date or anything.

Trust me, if she doesn't respond to you, she's doing YOU a FAVOR with this "dismissal". Women would rather ignore you or say things like: "Maybe"... than to just say "NO" or "NOT interested" altogether. It's not in their programming to turn down a guy in a non-subtle manner when it comes to being asked out... hences all the flakes in this world.

 

[Commandante]

What did I do wrong?

That´s an easy one.

STOP

THE

FVCKIN´

TEXTING

NOW

!

In POOK's inimitable words, Rejection is better than Regret.

Emails, IMs and TXTs - I should also add lengthy phone conversations to this list as well, but really any technology that seemingly increases comunication serves as a buffer (for both genders) the more it limits interpersonal communication. In the AFC case, the rationalization is that it keeps him in constant contact with his sex interest (which in and of itself is a mistake), but only serves as a buffer against her rejection. The latent peception being that it's easier to read a rejection (or hear one) than to potentially be rejected in person.

read the full post here

 

[=VAGO=]

^^^Strongly agree! Wtf, are u 12? Texting should only be used like hot sauce on a taco; sparingly. For god's sake quit being so damn predictable and needy!

 

[Rampage1]

Strongly disagree. nothing wrong with texting. I used it to get my current gf as a means of communication and still communicate via txt most days. Thats not to say you shouldn't use phone game and try to see them in person, but girls love to text. If I never texted my gf back it would start a fight :kick:

 

[nismo-4]

Consider this a loss.

This girl found out she had you running to her. Since she's the prize in this case, you're not attractive in her eyes.

Stop texting. Stop being predictable. Spin more plates. It's for your own good. And listen to pastor Kailex too! Rep for him!

 

[Commandante]

Strongly disagree. nothing wrong with texting.

If and only if you bang her every night at least since weeks.

but girls love to text.

Yeah, but let it be their problem, not ours. They also like wearing strings. Do you see where this is heading to?

 

[Rampage1]

I see where this is heading too but you are quite simply wrong. I am the one with the hot gf and I can tell for sure that there is nothign wrong with texting as long as you see her often enough and dont use it as your only means of coummunication. I see my gf about 3-4 times a week, and call her 1-2 times a week at night for a chat. Then she texts me most days asking how I am etc. and I reply accordingly. So STFU