What Did I Do Wrong This Time?

Brak86

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As some of you may know, I went out on my first date last weekend. The date went awesome.Still, i made sure not to call her for a week.

Anyways, last night I went to a party, knowing that she'd be there. I thought I could definately hook up with her. Instead, she hooked up with another guy for the night. I couldn't understand why she would go out on a date with me (she seemed really into me, too) and then hook up with another guy? Im pretty sure i didnt act desperate (i hadnt called her in a week), and I wasnt afraid to hit on her at the party etc. But she suddenly didnt want me.

I tried to not think about it by hooking up with 5other girls (we were all drunk). But it didnt really help. But one thing pissed me off the most. The girl i wanted came up to me and said this:

Her: "o my god brak i really want to set you up with some girrlss"

She was just saying this so that i wouldnt try to hook up with her. To this i got pretty pissed. I didnt know whether i should just act nice towards her for trying to reject me nicely, or to get mad. I chose to get angry and i told her that i didnt need help and told her to go away. I talked to her later that night about random ****, but i never apologized. But all in all, i felt a bit unfulfilled that night.

One part of me wants to say "who gives a **** about one girl" but another part of me says that im trying to deny my emotions and that its ok to be upset about it as long as i go forward in life. But this site seems to preach indifference towards your emotions. I really try to tell myself to ignore her but i just cant seem to do it. I'm confused.
 

Damian

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I think you forgot to take center of attention. Using storytelling, jokes, or tricks, you should have gotten the groups attention. By using DHV's you could have raised your status in the group to increase your attractiveness. This way, you wouldn't "lose your girl", so to speak. Try working on some routiines that demonstrate higher social value and grab the attention of others while keeping a fun atmosphere.

As for the girl coming and telling you she wanted to set you up, I'd take that as a definite IOI. My stategy? I'd neg her and look for a reaction. If it's what I wanted, then I'd start a nice C&F routine with some healthy kino then go from there.

-Damian
 

letmeshowyou

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it could be that she lost interest in that week u didn't talk to her...

who made that wack azz rule anyway?

listen, forget her - she's gone... start fresh

find a new date...

this is what I do about the "calling" thing...

...If I'm on a date where I meet a girl somewhere (thats how I usually do it)...when the date is over - I tell them, "call me when you get home, so I know you made it home safely"... that gets them comfortable with calling ME. Then there is usual small-talk about how we had a good time... then I tell them to call me whenever they have time... and thats that.

get a girl comfortable with calling you...



...and as for the rest... Damian pretty much said it all
 
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