What defines a "MAN"?

[Buddha_Mind]

This is something I am curious about -- how do you, personally, define this?

What is a MAN?

We're not all wearing cowboy hats or branding steer like they did back in the day..many men today live entirely in urban environments wearing fashionable clothing..so what characteristics define a man -- and by that I mean, to make the gina tingle? I'm curious how people here will define this term.

 

[jafyk]

Um have you by chance read the book of Pook in the DJ Bible on this site? I think that should answer your question. It's hard to say because there are different kinds of men and there's not only one thing they can do to get a woman excited.
A man: is a being who is able to take care of his responsibilities and what is entrusted into his care and by his way of being is able to attract and command respect from women as well as his fellow men. There that's my definition.

 

[squirrels]

Does a "tingly gina" define a man?

That attitude is what is wrong with 21st-century men. If men could just be cool being men instead of worrying so much what was going on with "ginas", maybe women would be a little less prudish and uptight about sex in Western society.

 

[KarmaSutra]

My philosophy on being a "man" is this: To accomplish your next set of goals. These goals will ultimately allow you the requisite knowledge and experience to mentor to other men in need.

Nothing in my life has spurred as much growth and personal improvement than mentoring to other men.

Being a "man" has nothing to do with pvssy or "game".

 

[KarmaSutra]

Does a "tingly gina" define a man?

That attitude is what is wrong with 21st-century men. If men could just be cool being men instead of worrying so much what was going on with "ginas", maybe women would be a little less prudish and uptight about sex in Western society.

I hear you loud and clear Brother.

This is what the Axe Generation has been reduced to.

 

[jafyk]

Does a "tingly gina" define a man?

That attitude is what is wrong with 21st-century men. If men could just be cool being men instead of worrying so much what was going on with "ginas", maybe women would be a little less prudish and uptight about sex in Western society.

Ha ha busted, "tingly gina" so much gina obsession in these rooms. Yea, and what the poster above me said as well.

 

[Buddha_Mind]

I agree with you guys. Okay, maybe "gina tingly" wasn't the best of phrases. There is definitely more to being a man than turning on women -- in fact, emphasizing only on this is missing whole other aspects of life.

I'd say being a real man is really becoming the person whom you wish to be -- actualizing the life you are after and taking responsibilities and meeting them -- being present in times of difficulty and strife and not abandoning those around us. Working with our weaknesses to be stronger (mentally and physically) and to provide to what is around us. That's what I'm after -- that's what I'm working to actualize.

Respect is huge. Respect of oneself and their own life. Working to create and improve things around themselves. To be a positive role model for others.

 

[FairShake]

Respect is huge. Respect of oneself and their own life. Working to create and improve things around themselves. To be a positive role model for others.

Pretty much. And the pvssy comes with it. Or not.

Some of the most solid high-performing dudes I know never get laid. They are still real men.

 

[zekko]

Being a "man" has nothing to do with pvssy or "game".

On the other hand, a "man" will naturally attract the "woman".
The masculine naturally attracts the feminine.

If you aren't attracting women, are you really on the right track for being a man? Maybe, since sometimes as you work toward your goals (being more of a man, a better man), the women may not come until you've accomplished them. In that situation, you haven't reached the fullness of your manhood yet - it's like still being in the crysalis stage. I do think becoming a real man often takes some time. It's one reason women tend to go for guys older than they are.

 

[Jitterbug]

If

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or, being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream - and not make dreams your master;
If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with triumph and disaster
And treat those two imposters just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with wornout tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breath a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on";

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings - nor lose the common touch;
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run -
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man my son!

 

[jt4aa]

On the whole, I find definitions are irrelevant to my sense of well being.

 

[Buddha_Mind]

jt4aa -- yes, okay, definitions can be limiting, but this is a thought experiment. People today say there is a shortage of "real men" and what exactly they mean by this and what is their definition is my concern here -- and mostly bred out of curiosity and a discussion with my lady about "man" or "woman", ect, ect. Any university has a handful of classes at least on sex and gender, ect, ect -- these are loose terms and we all know there are fuzzy lines (especially when dealing with homosexuality...there are more "effeminate men, more masculine men, ect"...in some ways trying to define anything into some form of absolute is risky business...nothing can really be held so simply between two fingers...but there is nothing wrong with thought exploration and reflection..these are the tools to great things..


Jitterbug -- righteous poetry -- sounds absolutely beautiful and I love it. Themes of great strength, resolve, perseverance, leadership, respect, honor, courage -- these are characteristics most would say "real men" possess. In some ways, our worlds of cubicle-living and limited mobility make it hard to be the hatchet swinging warrior that native societies may have had, or the furrowed browed explorer from western worlds moving through the thicket fearlessly...

In some ways our society has sort of turned us all into drones..but that does not mean real leadership cannot be expressed (even if it is in the setting of an office) -- or even more so, in the setting of a relationship or in a family or in times of crisis (people sick, hurt, ect).

This is good stuff to think about. I appreciate the replies.

 

[Buddha_Mind]

PS --

Fairshake -- I would say that yes focusing on pvssy is a self-destructive act in some ways..it can become a consuming sort of force..the victory is not in getting laid, isn't that a DJ tenant? There are tons of great and amazing men focusing on their own self-progression and place women to the side as they pursue their goals -- this is not inherently a bad thing in any way, and let's be honest sex is cheap and probably one of the most basic biological acts beyond eating and sh|ting -- it isn't designed to be too complex -- and if it was, we all wouldn't be here. There is definitely more to life than just getting laid (although everyone believes this is an enjoyable thing)..but let's be honest too -- it can be consuming, obsessive, and in some ways distracting...I enjoy a good fvck don't get me wrong, but I also have the feeling that my body being loaded with testosterone is a little unrealistic at times...just like I enjoy sugar and fat too (cookies or sweets, ect) -- but I can't just be pounding that sh.it all of the time for risk of imbalance. Everything has its ebbs and flows and useful and healthy habit...

Sex is probably really like anything else -- should be used in the right ways. In the context of a relationship, to enjoy one another and bring one another closer. In the context of constantly focusing on getting laid, it could be a distraction and an improper way of reducing our perspectives about women, ect.

A famous jazz musician, aged 70+ once said, "There's more to life than eating and sleeping and fvcking.." And there is truth to this. In some ways a man too is patient and understanding [maybe characterized in our world as being the qualities of a woman] -- lots of people have destroyed really good things because of their lack of those two qualities...there is something to be said about being steady and true, focusing on the end goal, and trying to make the very best decisions in the moments as they arise for a desirable outcome.