Lol you have a right to take it personally, it doesn't mean you're insecure-- it's how you react to it that defines how secure you are. Everyone takes rejection personally -- it's how you handle rejection that separates low and high value men.
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She’ll prob flake on you again. Your mistake was even reading her messages AOC making excuses for her to justify why she rejected you multiple times in the past.
When she rejected you, she was hopeful things would progress with Chad (in secret), but Chad dusted and left her feeling all sad n lonely. You were probably her emotional tampon, and she’s just come back to use you as a shoulder to cry on.
When you go on your “date”, expect her to start pouring her heart out to you (again). Of course, you’ll probably fall for this trap, and be her white knight... then expect the old chestnut, ‘You’re such a lovely guy. Can we just be friends? I’m not ready yet’.
Clue: when a girl is really into a guy, she’ll move mountains to be with him — not reject him multiple times. A girl ever does this, you never let her back in. Your availability makes you look like a desperate simp who will tolerate being the back up option — anytime, any place.
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The OP knows this, but chooses to ignore it because of his scarcity mindset.
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Second place is first loser.
She was with Chad and was upset she got blown off by him, even though she blew Chad in the bathroom stall.
Now she's running back to you because you didn't hard next her. You were the safe option. Now she needs to make it up to you. Pepperoni pizza with some cream soda and she better be sucking your dik and swallowing a cup of your cüm.
You know she wouldn't reject Dwayne Johnson or Lebron James or Elon Musk multiple times, nor would she try to use them as an emotional tampon. She would fly over mountains and reroute rivers to see any guy she's really interested in.
She was with Chad and was upset she got blown off by him, even though she blew Chad in the bathroom stall.
Now she's running back to you because you didn't hard next her. You were the safe option. Now she needs to make it up to you. Pepperoni pizza with some cream soda and she better be sucking your dik and swallowing a cup of your cüm.
You know she wouldn't reject Dwayne Johnson or Lebron James or Elon Musk multiple times, nor would she try to use them as an emotional tampon. She would fly over mountains and reroute rivers to see any guy she's really interested in.
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What he really needs to do is call the date off and ghost her. Or just ghost her without explanation. She had no qualms rejecting and humiliating him multiple times, so a dose of her own medicine is in order. But as you pointed out, scarcity mindset will cause him to simp harder than ever.
This will not end well unless OP finds the balls to freeze her out completely, but I see him turning all Gollum for... ‘My precioussss!!!’
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If there is a date, set it up in a 5 star restaurant then have her looking for you there. Make her drive around, then flake on her. Google those restaurants in your area.
Or you can tell her you're gonna take her shopping for some Gucci or Louis Vuitton or Michael Kors or Fendi (pick your favorite, there's an Escada store in Atlanta). Tell her you're there, then you went to eat at the food court, then you left with a new sexy babe you just met. It helps if you take a pic with her and send it to the flakey bïtch.
Otherwise, like I said, she better bring a pepperoni pizza with double pepperoni, cheese, and sauce. And no dinner date, no drinks either until she blows you and swallows a cup of your cüm.
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Oh my bad g, RIP
Lol, I was never her emotional tampon. We just knew each other and saw each other once in a while on campus.
She has not cried on my shoulder, thanks for the tip.
If she ever flakes, it's over
I don't think this is scarcity mindset. I asked her out, she didn't say yes and said maybe some other time.
She hits me up after a few months and I ask her again cos I still find her attractive. How's that wrong?
That's more like the principle of 3 strikes popular on sosuave
PS: I was never her emotional tampon or friend like the poster you quoted said. She was just someone I knew and saw quite often.
I know. When she said no, I went with another girl
Was I supposed to hard next her for no reason, she wasn't disrespectful at all. She didn't give a reason for her no
Yeah, we'll see how the date goes
She didn't reject multiple times, it was only once and I was never an emotional tampon.
Where then does the 3 strikes principle apply?
I'm working on myself daily but at this point, isn't it delusional to compare oneself to Musk, Dwayne and others
Where's the multiple rejection coming from, it was just once. I don't see myself simping here at all
I don't see any reason to ghost her actually.
All the girls you've been with all said yes the very first time?
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You said: ‘WTF! How many times am I supposed to ask her out?‘
That pretty much tells me you’ve asked multiple times, and now at the end of your tether.
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OP,
I will take your side in this and disagree with almost everyone in this thread. I don’t know why so many DJs get so hung up on a girl saying they can’t make it work once and thinking that this means it’s all over unless they just want to come over and fu*k them in their apartments.
You can always “circle back” to women (so long it wasn’t a complete bridge burning). This is why we always recommend not burning that bridge and taking any soft rejection with ease. I have banged women who reach back out before - and not just once. There is no reason to completely cut ties or take such a hard line on them if they reach back out.
I will take your side in this and disagree with almost everyone in this thread. I don’t know why so many DJs get so hung up on a girl saying they can’t make it work once and thinking that this means it’s all over unless they just want to come over and fu*k them in their apartments.
You can always “circle back” to women (so long it wasn’t a complete bridge burning). This is why we always recommend not burning that bridge and taking any soft rejection with ease. I have banged women who reach back out before - and not just once. There is no reason to completely cut ties or take such a hard line on them if they reach back out.
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Dude, I've read this and my only advice would be to be careful. If she seems flaky again, move on. I'd forget about her and in case she initiates contact AND you're still single/interested, sure, go out. But from my experience, it will only result in wasted time.
I would not advise you to troll her and send her on a date alone for mean reasons. You can really hurt her by setting a date and completely forgetting about it, but how is that helpful? Are you not better off doing something else for yourself or others?
I would not advise you to troll her and send her on a date alone for mean reasons. You can really hurt her by setting a date and completely forgetting about it, but how is that helpful? Are you not better off doing something else for yourself or others?
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No, I think you got it all wrong. When I first asked her, she was like "I know this is the first time you're asking me out before rejecting me". It was the moment she said that that I started thinking within myself, "how many times I'm supposed to ask"
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Regardless, she rejected you and left it 4 months before contacting you again. That should be a hard next. Like I said, your ever ready availability communicates desperation. But hey, your choice, I just wouldn’t go back to a girl who was confused about her feelings. Attraction is either totally mutual or it isn’t. If not, expect problems to arise if this even gets to relationship stage.