What can't I get a girlfriend?

[Industry]

This is a serious question... I have many friends who are all in LTRs and it seems like their relationships absolutely suck. I always hear complaints, fights, etc. etc. And some of these guys aren't even worthy of the girls they are dating.

I'm a successful 25 y/o who lives on his own in Newport Beach. I own an Import/Export company and have a very good life without a girlfriend. I'm in flight school, I love to scuba dive, I play piano and guitar, I know how to cook, I travel at will, I drive a nice car, I'm a handsome man, I'm funny and I have a trust fund I've barely touched (no one knows I have it though). But for some reason I can't get a good g/f to save my life. Sometimes I think that maybe there isn't enough drama or enough things to fix with me for a girl to want to date me?

It seems as if girls like dating the tortured guys... the alcoholics, the ones who ignore them, the ones who need all the help in the world. But the "good catch's" get mulled over because of their lack of this.

What the hell am I doing wrong? Should I develop a drug habit so a HB has something to worry/fix with me? Haha. I'm kidding. I just don't know what else there is to do.

 

[Jizz]

Coz you smell of poo!

 

[Slam_Jam]

How many girls do you talk to/hit on in a week?

 

[Industry]

Originally posted by Slam_Jam
How many girls do you talk to/hit on in a week?

I could do more... but 2 or 3 a week. I'm definately extroverted and can talk to anyone about anytying... even if I just met them.

I think I need to work om my self-image a bit. I have this idea of who I want to be and there are a few pieces missing still. I think if I got those than I'd be more comfortable in my skin and able to get whoever I wanted.... but its funny. These guys with women don't have jack sh1t and they get what they want.

 

[Mr. Unique]

Did you read the bible?

Read it.

http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/

 

[Egoist]

basically you need to realize that your money/success/etc is absolutely meaningless unless you want to buy prostitutes.


work on being our own man first, a real man, and go from there.

never use your money, success, etc to get women. it should only be the icing on the cake that they are not going to get unless they are really special.

remember, you are the prize, but only because you are a real fvcking man, not a typical successful sissy that thinks a shiny new car will get him a loyal girl.

 

[Bourne]

Keep upping your game. Talk more, get out more and don't use your money or status to get girls.

But I'm sure you know this.

Read the bible.

 

[Slam_Jam]

Maybe your attitude is the problem...from the advice I've read I've learned that money and having things doesn't equal p*ssy magnet. There's so much more to getting women...like how you talk to them and most important having confidence in yourself. Maybe you should start telling yourself that you deserve a women because of the person you are and not because of the material things you own. Besides, would you really want a LTR with someone who just wants you because you have lots of stuff? Don't you want more than that?

 

[DonJuanMonk]

Shut up "Nice guy"(Industry)

The theme song for this "ORIGINAL" rant is some random Linkin Park or Emo song.

 

[Jamo]

well

The fact that you are successful shows that you are a REAL man. Of course you should not use your status to get the girls, but the mere fatc of just achieving that is all that should matter for yourself. Just that there are only empty headed bimbos out there who are tortured themselves.


Women have have no clue on what they pass up on when they date that drug addled jerk who can't wipe his own ass....they realize it later..but then it is too late for those stupid hoes...the good guys are gone.

 

[Tazman]

Hmmm, I don't see how a young, handsome, successful (entrepreneur), extroverted guy who hits on women 2-3x a week can't get a girl. It just doesn't make sense. Is there something you're not telling us?

 

[JackPrescott]

Originally posted by Industry
This is a serious question... I have many friends who are all in LTRs and it seems like their relationships absolutely suck. I always hear complaints, fights, etc. etc. And some of these guys aren't even worthy of the girls they are dating.

I'm a successful 25 y/o who lives on his own in Newport Beach. I own an Import/Export company and have a very good life without a girlfriend. I'm in flight school, I love to scuba dive, I play piano and guitar, I know how to cook, I travel at will, I drive a nice car, I'm a handsome man, I'm funny and I have a trust fund I've barely touched (no one knows I have it though). But for some reason I can't get a good g/f to save my life. Sometimes I think that maybe there isn't enough drama or enough things to fix with me for a girl to want to date me?

It seems as if girls like dating the tortured guys... the alcoholics, the ones who ignore them, the ones who need all the help in the world. But the "good catch's" get mulled over because of their lack of this.

What the hell am I doing wrong? Should I develop a drug habit so a HB has something to worry/fix with me? Haha. I'm kidding. I just don't know what else there is to do.

You have the bases down, beyond solid. You are a self made man, and a businessman. But you need to understand the female mind.

1. Women smell desperation a mile away, like a deer smelling a cougar. NEVER appear/act desperate. Act in front of women, as if you could care less about them. Act as if your scuba diving, and your business affairs come first in life. LIVE your life, dont worry about the women.

2. "Jerk" Attitude. No, you dont have to be a complete a$$hole (Reserve this for a true Attention Wh0re, more on that later) but you do have to be a bit on the edge. Let all women know you are a fun guy, but not one to be trifled with. Act this way with other males(Competition) as well, be a great friend, or a horrible enemy. DO NOT let yourself get walked all over by any/all women. Dont worry about calling them, once you get the number. Dont beat around the bush about wanting them, and letting them know this, subliminally, or directly, depending on the woman/situation. Tease them, taunt them, the ****y and funny stuff really works, Flirt away, with the ones you want, and if they flirt back, wonderful, but do recognize the differences between a lame a$$ Attention Wh0re flirting, and a real woman flirting.

3. "Bad Boy" stuff. Have any tatts? What do you drive? If you are deathly afraid of tattoos, and ride a moped (Brand name "Faggio") and are going after tattooed ladies who frequent lounges and bars, well, you might have a little problem. Then again, I have witnessed the baddest bad boy bikers leaving a bar alone, while a clean cut Businessman in a Brooks Brothers suit leaves with a hottie in a miniskirt. You dont have to be a tattooed freak with 85% coverage and the cover of "Tattoo Flash" to score women, but a little edge certainly cant hurt. A bit of a sense of danger, if a tough guy f**ks with you in the bar, are you going to back down, and tell him, "Man I dont want any trouble" or are you going to introduce him to a left hook/uppercut hybrid known as "the smash" like Razor Ruddock used to throw, and score a kayo? Women sense this about a man, and for some reason are attracted to it. Bad boys let women know that they are after a piece of a$$. Women sense this about a man as well. Why not be a successful businessman, with a bit of an edge, a tough guy in the Brooks Brothers Suit? With a tatt on your upper arm, that you can show her later, in bed. She might be really intrigued by that.

4. You are a successful businessman? Hey, the purchase of a Rolex, or a Porsche probably wont hurt your chances of having great conversation pieces, we only go around once, if you got it, flaunt it, baby.

5. And finally, self confidence, the kind you have in a business sense, take it with you to the taverns, bars, and nightclubs. And remember, nothing intrigues women, like seeing you involved romantically/sexually with another women.

 

[JackPrescott]

Oh, and one more thing. Hit the gym, and watch your diet. Brad Pitt abs certainly wont hurt your chances.

 

[So Many Ways]

Originally posted by Tazman
Hmmm, I don't see how a young, handsome, successful (entrepreneur), extroverted guy who hits on women 2-3x a week can't get a girl. It just doesn't make sense. Is there something you're not telling us?

It doesn't make sense to me either. Women in Orange County flock to rich guys like flies on sh*t. Something isn't adding up at all.

You (the OP) need to give us more details.

 

[TooColdUlrick]

Originally posted by Industry
I own an Import/Export company and have a very good life without a girlfriend.

you answered your own question, didn't you? there's no law that says you have to have a girlfriend.

 

[golfguy]

Guys above has a valid point, but to answer your question.

Why can't you get a g/f? because you're thinking about it. Don't think about "Maybe this girl will be my g/f" when you're talking to women. Someone mentioned that women smell desparation a mile away.

I once realized that women who were attracted to me were the one's I wasn't going out of my way to pursue or try to impress. So what did I do? Took that attitude on with EVERY girl.

You'll find that when you lest expect it or try, you'll get a g/f. And with money that you have (I'm assuming a fair chunk of change) why would you settle for any random and have her take half of that in 5 years time??

Enjoy being single, start acting like a man, and you'll find one worth keeping eventually.

 

[Alicorn]

Originally posted by Industry
I'm a successful 25 y/o who lives on his own in Newport Beach. I own an Import/Export company and have a very good life without a girlfriend. I'm in flight school, I love to scuba dive, I play piano and guitar, I know how to cook, I travel at will, I drive a nice car, I'm a handsome man, I'm funny and I have a trust fund I've barely touched (no one knows I have it though). But for some reason I can't get a good g/f to save my life. Sometimes I think that maybe there isn't enough drama or enough things to fix with me for a girl to want to date me?

If you are all you say you are then it's possible that you are intimidating the hell out of women.

Most people have fragile little egos and are frightened by someone who is "better" than them.

You'll probably have to look for women who are not only hot but also successful as yourself. Otherwise they may feel like they don't "deserve" you.

:wave:

 

[MightyMate]

Maybe Your life is boring. Maybe You need fome friends and hobbies. ANd remember.. You wont find woman under xmas tree.

 

[wheelin&dealin]

Originally posted by Industry
Why can't I get a girlfriend?

The answer to your question is remarkably simple.



You don't ask out enough women



Putting all of your possible personal flaws aside.. if you ask out enough women, you will eventually have a girlfriend.

I don't care if you're the ugliest person around. If you ask out 100 women I'm sure you'll get atleast a few girls who will be interested in you. It's really just a numbers game.

 

[MightyMate]

If You ask with simple 'Do You wanna have sex?' about 40 woman, You should have sex a few times each day.