Not necessarily. Just because a girl doesn't find you attractive initially, it doesn't mean that her opinion can't change. It's also human nature to be attracted to what we can't have. So if the goodlooking guy acts AFC, his chances with the girl become non-existent. If the not-so-goodlooking guy plays it cool, the girl might take a liking to him.
What can good-looks do that a personality can not?
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The fun thing about life for me is that I can actually suceed in studying about the influences and the people surroundings. It's easy at first and then it becomes harder as the self-questioning goes further.
From what I learned, It all depends on the woman. Plus, you need to be the wanting with the styles and attitude. You do need some looks but looks isn't the only way. Even though some women might say that looks matter to them, it won't.
From what I learned, It all depends on the woman. Plus, you need to be the wanting with the styles and attitude. You do need some looks but looks isn't the only way. Even though some women might say that looks matter to them, it won't.
MysteryWoman
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It comes down to a simple truth about looks.
If you never get in the door, it doesn't matter how great of a person u are.
ANd it's obvious most people here have never been to a club or are too young to go to one.
That is where Many twenty somethings hang and wind up hooking up with hot chics.
In a good club, u can't hear yourself, let alone somebody else. So showing off ur personality aint ever gonna work. they can't hear it.
WHile u can improve and become a better person, if u never get in the door, aint gonna matter how great of a person u are.
and the theory that, "WOMEN DONT GO BY LOOKS, sometimes they dont even like the way u look at first and then one day they do."
Thats great if your still in high school or college or live in a town with about 500 people. Yeah anything is possible because u see that person every day.
But in most of the real world, you aint gonna get a second SHOT at seeing that chic you liked. So your first impression is basically the last impression. Either your gonna talk to her or your gonna be chicken and either she's gonna like you or she's not. Its plain and simple.
As u get older some things change, but there is a reason why many OLDER MEN and OLDER WOMEN these days are dating younger people. Its about youth, it's about beauty and it's about looks.
There are other reasons, but what it comes down to is a simple fact. YOu can improve yourself to the millionith degree, but if you dont even get in the door with that chic, you aint got a shot to let ur personality shine.
If you never get in the door, it doesn't matter how great of a person u are.
ANd it's obvious most people here have never been to a club or are too young to go to one.
That is where Many twenty somethings hang and wind up hooking up with hot chics.
In a good club, u can't hear yourself, let alone somebody else. So showing off ur personality aint ever gonna work. they can't hear it.
WHile u can improve and become a better person, if u never get in the door, aint gonna matter how great of a person u are.
and the theory that, "WOMEN DONT GO BY LOOKS, sometimes they dont even like the way u look at first and then one day they do."
Thats great if your still in high school or college or live in a town with about 500 people. Yeah anything is possible because u see that person every day.
But in most of the real world, you aint gonna get a second SHOT at seeing that chic you liked. So your first impression is basically the last impression. Either your gonna talk to her or your gonna be chicken and either she's gonna like you or she's not. Its plain and simple.
As u get older some things change, but there is a reason why many OLDER MEN and OLDER WOMEN these days are dating younger people. Its about youth, it's about beauty and it's about looks.
There are other reasons, but what it comes down to is a simple fact. YOu can improve yourself to the millionith degree, but if you dont even get in the door with that chic, you aint got a shot to let ur personality shine.
Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.
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**** if I looked like those guys I'd pimp myself too.
iqqi
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it is your own fault because you remain invisible. if you don't want to be invisible, make yourself seen. it can be that simple.
and instead of being all pissy about being invisible, take advantage. now you can observe your prey. the observer is most of the time much more interesting than the star of the show. but it wont help anyone if all of your observations are pissy. stop being a pissant.
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and unless this is the kind of girl you are heartbroken over not giving you a chance, then you should be glad you are not subjected to this attention and flattery. if it is that shallow, then it will just drown you if you wanted something with a little more depth. the prettiest traps work the best. don't fall for it.
Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.
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iqqi
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this is really pretty simple guys and dolls.
some women, you can interest them with your looks. soem women you can HAVE any way you want them, because of your LOOKS.
and probaly so can anyone else, with looks better than yours. right, MW?
but hey! there is light, if you are willing to see it. some women are not impressed with looks. some of them may be susceptable to good looks, but that is not what will keep them INTERESTED. it is all about interests.
why are you worried about the girls who only looks matter to? why not the girls who are interested in something a little more substantial or interesting? the girl who is interested in medicine, or history, or spanish architecture, or even YOU. when i say you, i mean you. not your looks, or interests, or habits, or even personality, but the whole collective piece.
why worry about these people who are so shallow and materialistic?
besides, you are what you eat.
MysteryWoman
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Actually all I am really doing is fighting against the gender stereotype that is so black and white.
Men are more looks orientated than Women, but if everyone digs deeper they will realise that you can't make a general stereotype.
I'm not worried about anything, I think I am entiled to freedom of speech on this forum like anyone else (even if they don't like or agree with what I am saying). Have I made that clear for you now Iqqi?
Men are more looks orientated than Women, but if everyone digs deeper they will realise that you can't make a general stereotype.
I'm not worried about anything, I think I am entiled to freedom of speech on this forum like anyone else (even if they don't like or agree with what I am saying). Have I made that clear for you now Iqqi?
It is true that men look for good-looks in women, however in my experience during the years I have noticed that a few guys would date this girl who (in some people's opinion) isn't that good-looking. Though people say that she's dated alot of guys and (I think) dated a few guys at once.
MysteryWoman
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A few guys? I have see a lot of guys do this!
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No actually it can't.
Women are horrible judges of character and they judge you just by looking. Let me lay this plain: people are always saying on here how women want Alpha Males; well sorry but that’s bull****.
If a woman walks into a bar and sees a regular looking guy and a football player, she will most likely go for the football player (all other things being equal) – at least according to the Alpha Male theory she will. The AM theorists will argue that she wants the football player because he displays the traits of an alpha and can provide and protect her, etc. etc. Of course learning to play football has nothing to do with actually being able to protect her in a physical confrontation. Sure, the football player may look all manly but that “normal” looking guy could be a U.S. Army Ranger.
I have a friend who is a WestPoint grad and Army Ranger, but you wouldn’t know it by looking at him. He looks just like any average guy on the street. You could put Mr. football stud up against my friend, or against a cop or anyone with combat training / experience and the stud will be sh!t kicked six ways from Sunday.
I’m not ignored because I want to be, but because women are horrible judges of character. They don’t want a real alpha, they want pomp and pretence, they want pageantry and ceremony. The jock-stud is the pretender to the alpha throne, if women really wanted alphas then the Delta Force, Rangers, SAS and others like them would have harems following them around. Instead women follow around loser ass drug dealers and no-future jock-studs.
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Do not be too easy. If you are too easy to get, she will not want you. If you are too easy to keep, she will lose interest in you. If you are too easy to control, she will not respect you.
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TyTe`EyEs
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This has to be the longest thread ever.
Never try to read a woman's mind. It is a scary place. Ignore her confusing signals and mixed messages. Assume she is interested in you and act accordingly.
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