What are Your Opinions on Getting Married to Single Moms?

[Jitterbug]

A line from Thank You For Smoking (love that movie):

Upon receiving a condescending advice from his ex-wife's boyfriend on how to spend time with and raise his son:

"I'm his father. You're the guy fvcking his mum."

You bet the kid sees it that way too.

So why would you want to marry his mum?

 

[Down Low]

My opinion? The very idea makes me want to vomit.

 

[Mike32ct]

A line from Thank You For Smoking (love that movie):

Upon receiving a condescending advice from his ex-wife's boyfriend on how to spend time with and raise his son:

"I'm his father. You're the guy fvcking his mum."

You bet the kid sees it that way too.

So why would you want to marry his mum?

Yep. The kid will never respect you. You will always be an outsider F-ing his mom.

Also, I know a guy who...

1. Was married and had a kid.
2. His wife stopping putting out and cheated on him for years.
3. She divorces him.
4. He re-marries a single mom with two kids.
5. Now his own (blood) daughter stays with his new family part time on days he has her.
6. His own daughter got her drivers license.
7. He makes six figures and wants to buy his daughter a car.
8. His new wifey (the single mom) won't let him because he has to spend money on all THREE daughters (two aren't his by blood) equally.
9. He caves in and can't spend money on his own daughter.

 

[Burroughs]

8. His new wifey (the single mom) won't let him because he has to spend money on all THREE daughters (two aren't his by blood) equally.
9. He caves in and can't spend money on his own daughter.

Seriously mike this is why I call 90% of men in 2012 puzzfied faggots....

Women will always look after themselves and their children first....

Men are simply there to function as a 'wage slave' to further the woman's lifestyle.

Men simply do not...or cannot grasp this...

What is it about most men that they cannot live their own lives with clarity and freedom without a mortgage, medal of honor, or other slavishly binding contract to define his life.

 

[Demodulate]

What are Your Opinions on Getting Married to Single Moms?


no f-ing way...

 

[The Duke]

So what exactly is a single mom by definition? Is it a woman who got married, had a baby, was a good housewife, then divorced her husband because he cheated on her?

Or is it a girl that got knocked up when she was 20, raised her kid herself, the "dad" ran off, mom stepped up and worked hard, dated very few guys, never married?

I would bet that half of you come from divorced parents and most of you that do were raised by a single mom?? And you can sit here and condemn them and throw them all in the same category? Was your own mother that pathetic that you think all are?

I'm not for or against single moms. There are good and bad. But I question how someone can throw all single mom's in the trash knowing that several were raised by them?

 

[sarcastic sam]

oh no marrying single mothers is the best decision you can possibly make.

I mean after all, single unattached women aren't enough of a problem why not marry a girl who comes with a whole new set of problems that belong to the last guy she was fvcking!

 

[Alvafe]

So what exactly is a single mom by definition? Is it a woman who got married, had a baby, was a good housewife, then divorced her husband because he cheated on her?

Or is it a girl that got knocked up when she was 20, raised her kid herself, the "dad" ran off, mom stepped up and worked hard, dated very few guys, never married?

I would bet that half of you come from divorced parents and most of you that do were raised by a single mom?? And you can sit here and condemn them and throw them all in the same category? Was your own mother that pathetic that you think all are?

I'm not for or against single moms. There are good and bad. But I question how someone can throw all single mom's in the trash knowing that several were raised by them?

I simple say is any woman with a child,
one thing my dad says always is my mom is a mom, after I was born he didn't have a wife anymore

simple put if she have kid the kid will come first never will be you, also note any cost you have will also be with that kid, don't matter if the kids dad give something, anything legal he have to give to her (if she was even married) will never pass your hands, and most of time she will spend on useless things and never for the kids(since she have you now its your bill to pay).

I have my share of problems and emocional scars, and i'm here trying to figure out how to solve it and most of things I have to do is not something I would like to do, also what I lack like always is passion for something, anything, but one thing I never will do is spend my time and money on a woman who make several mistakes and that mistakes will never go away,

and of course I will never pay and spend time with a child is not realated with my blood, my cousins child are already annoying enough, and that is just for sometimes over family reunions, now imagine you have that all day but without the blood (and even that means little).

I know some guys here says she could have changed and is a good person and all that, but since you are supose to be the prize why get a second hand thing when you can get something new.

 

[( . )( . )]

You all already ARE married to a single mother, every one of them. Who else is forking out the coin to the gubment and keeping her alfa seed sproglet fed?

I would bet that half of you come from divorced parents and most of you that do were raised by a single mom?? And you can sit here and condemn them and throw them all in the same category? Was your own mother that pathetic that you think all are?

Yeah goodluck getting that played out shaming technique to stick now, we listened to that bollocks for 4 decades now look at the sh!t fight we are in. Single mother spawn filling up our prisons with the lions share of murderers, druggies rapists and thugs in general, and your still here imploring the masses to have mercy and take one of these civilization destroyers under our wing instead of shaming it? Wake up and smell the baby sh!t mate.

Btw I was "raised" (I'll use that term loosely) by a civilization destroyer myself but I'm a grown man now and have managed to keep feeeelings seperate from logic, it's quite a talent.

 

[Greasy Pig]

I would add, that if you are 40+ and find yourself single, most of the market available to you to date will be single mothers. Kids may be grown, but nevertheless....

And if you ARE , say 45 and find a 45ish woman that has never been married (and the usual subsequent kids) you have to ask yourself WHY.

This is what I've found as I approach 40. I live in a sparsely populated area with few truly eligible women. There are enough young cvm junkies around but they are all trying to get railed by young bad boys. My PUA game is pretty good but I found that the younger most desirable chicks in their mid-20s wouldn't give me the time of day and I was left with fvcking older chicks with baggage or chicks approaching 30 (The Wall) and desperate to get wifed up.
So in this sparsely populated region with few premium women (mid-20s, single, never married, no kids, good looks and mostly mature personalities), I found most of the women I was meeting had kids.
I swore I would never date a single mum, but then I got with my current GF (a friend from 18 years ago) who is divorced from an unsuitable man and with two kids.
After keeping her as a plate for four months, I realised she ticked every one of my boxes except the "no kids, never married" ones.
So I thought "fvck it", she makes me happy and we're compatible, so why not?

I don't blame guys for being anti-single mums because I was firmly in that camp not so long ago. But I've realised that a woman having kids isn't an instant strikeout anymore.
Good thread.

 

[MatureDJ]

This is what I've found as I approach 40. I live in a sparsely populated area with few truly eligible women. There are enough young cvm junkies around but they are all trying to get railed by young bad boys. My PUA game is pretty good but I found that the younger most desirable chicks in their mid-20s wouldn't give me the time of day and I was left with fvcking older chicks with baggage or chicks approaching 30 (The Wall) and desperate to get wifed up.
So in this sparsely populated region with few premium women (mid-20s, single, never married, no kids, good looks and mostly mature personalities), I found most of the women I was meeting had kids.
I swore I would never date a single mum, but then I got with my current GF (a friend from 18 years ago) who is divorced from an unsuitable man and with two kids.
After keeping her as a plate for four months, I realised she ticked every one of my boxes except the "no kids, never married" ones.
So I thought "fvck it", she makes me happy and we're compatible, so why not?

I don't blame guys for being anti-single mums because I was firmly in that camp not so long ago. But I've realised that a woman having kids isn't an instant strikeout anymore.
Good thread.

You have proven that some men can be happy as a beta provisioner. I myself would rather pay for it than sign up for that role, but that's just me.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Frank,
Well you will have a long time to regret it if things go wrong...In the past I have enjoyed the favours of several single Mummies,bless their little cotton socks...Kids at School,A cheap Chinese take away,sunlight streaming through the chinks in the curtains...Oh what joy,but it only lasts for so long...The novelty of someone being so grateful for Svex,a few dollars to pay the Bills,a hand to fix things around the house...It's wonderful,but inevitably as Christmas Day Follows Christmas Eve,the pressure comes on to Man up and show commitment...That's when I bail out...
The biggest problem with this situation is not Mummsie,No she will be Sugar drizzled with Honey....It's the kids!...The little bathbuns will have been overindulged and will deeply resent your presence...The divisive tricks they get up to will amaze you...Normally grabbing a jug handle and giving a smart cuff across the head...sorts them out,but you can't do that to someone elses kid...and so there will be trouble...
Advice from a fool,she will make a perfect Plate,just keep her on side and see what else you can find...If she choses to end the relationship,this will often be a strategem and she will come back,at worst it's just another popsicle finished!

 

[Warrior74]

The same as marrying single women with no children. Not. Interested.

 

[corrector]

Greetings to everyone. Well, a very good friend of mine who's almost like an older brother is about to get married to a single Mom. My family wasn't too hot about it but seeing that the love he had for her was so strong, they decided to finally accept it. I've dated at least two single Moms before and while I'm not attempting to generalize, I've noticed that the tendency is for them to want to get the guy hooked into a serious relationship with them as soon as possible, so that he would consider them for marriage. I personally have never felt comfortable with the idea of raising another man's offspring and having the father of the child get involved in my life...situations which quite often have a tendency to lead to conflicts and jealousies particularly in terms of the father of the child when he realizes his ex seems to have found someone she's happy with.


I was just curious as to what are your opinions on the subject of getting married to women who already have children.

As long as she hasn't been married before (i.e. divorced) then you will not be committing adultery if you marry her. If you are not committing adultery with your future wife then I don't see what the problem is.

 

[Down Low]

I would add, that if you are 40+ and find yourself single, most of the market available to you to date will be single mothers.

I no longer have any interest in women over 23, with kids, ever married, etc. None of the market available to me to date will be single mothers.

Once burned, twice shy.

 

[Fatal Jay]

I dated one single mother,never again

The kid ruined it for me at times,and I felt uncomfortable buying her kid **** trying to get in good graces with the mother, I started tricking myself in planning to be a father

But I will never put myself in a position to raise another man child

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Wow...what a dilemma!


Which reminds me: I recently asked a guy pondering this same subject a few questions of my own about his views on this-----just to see if he was capable of thinking outside the box:


Here's what I asked him:


1. So if you hook up with a chick with NO kids and YOU get her pregnant (thereby magically TRANSFORMING her into a "single mommy"), what do you do then? Do you kick her to the curb because she must have somehow "tricked" you into getting her pregnant (even though it might have been YOUR idea that time not to even TRY to "rubber up")?


2. Do you just say to her: "Oh, now that it's ME that's gotten you pregnant, it's different. Because you're MY very own single mommy, you're now the exception to my "say no to single mommies" rule-----because you're so GREAT!"


3. Or, do you give her a "time-released" kick to the curb by simply saying to her: "Hey, I thought you were great BEFORE I knocked your skank @ss up, but now that you're gonna be a "single mommy"----I'm afraid I'll be REQUIRED to stop hooking up with you as soon as that baby is born."


I'll spare you the answer he gave me because it was too nonsensical to repeat and it defied all recognizable elements traditional logic-----but it WAS funny though.

I just thought I'd list these questions here as more food for thought...


Carry on.



V.U.

 

[Greasy Pig]

You have proven that some men can be happy as a beta provisioner. I myself would rather pay for it than sign up for that role, but that's just me.

Pretty harsh generalisation there, champ. I've seen her kids twice in six months, she has a job and her own home, she insists on paying her own way when we go away or out for dinner, if she does let me pay she pays the next time and won't take no for an answer.
I have a fair indication of what a 'beta provisioner' is, and I'm pretty damn sure I don't fall in to that category, even by default of whatever definition you'd like to place on the term.

 

[sodbuster]

Depends on YOUR desires. I married one[kid was 15...3 years out and she was gone][we agreed that her expenses weren't mine] BUT I wanted sons and she was a good brood mare[good genetic potential]. My son's are both 6'2", 230[19 yr old] and 195[16 year old], athletic[one is on the varsity soccer team, the other qualified for state shot put when he was a senior]. BOTH have IQ's in the 140's.

SOME here would say that what I did was beta,but it was a coldly calculated move on my part. Unfortunately, I wasn't able to eliminate her b1tchyness[WHY she was divorced the first time?]and we divorced after 14 years

 

[glass half full]

Single women w/kids= trouble. Unfortunately, it can be hard to find one over 21 w/o kids. But single moms usually come with an attitude, a bad one. they keep it hid from you for a while,
but look out for the KO punch!