what are your favourite topics to talk about with girls?

[sangheilios]

I've always kind of questioned how guys easily connect with women when most of them have no real interests lol.

I mean, my interests are mostly working out, outdoor recreation, investing/finance, history, science, political science, economics, etc. I guarantee most women would classify me as "boring" and therefore would have absolutely nothing to talk about with me lol. A woman is not going to want to have a conversation about the workout I did or the place I went hiking or about investing strategies or discuss history or science lol.

I think guys that seem to do well with women are able to connect with their emotions by spinning some b.s narrative or creating a fantasy in their heads lol. It's something I've seen a lot with men that seem to do well with women and it makes me laugh because there isn't **** backing it up, these women are just falling for phoneys at the end of the day. These guys aren't really talking about these women with anything, they just do a good job of selling themselves with the idea that they have status, can provide a fun and interesting life, etc.

Most women don't have any real hobbies or interests outside of social media, television, partying, etc.

 

[sangheilios]

I don’t like talking to women at all outside of my job. They have nothing interesting or relevant to talk about.

I think this is a relatively normal thing for men to experience. Women and men really aren't meant to be close to one another outside of marriage or familial relationships for instance. Women outside of these categories are either potential romantic partners or nothing else. The concept of male-female friendships is very weird and not natural, it also often leads to a lot of issues when/if the man develops feelings for the woman. Outside of work, I just don't see why a man should feel a reason to go OUT of his way to socialize with women that he has no real interest in.

I know a young(ish) man that works as a nurse and what he described gave me a lot of insight. To sum it up, he basically said that even at work women tend to be incredibly catty and always complain, gossip, etc. This is normal female behavior for sure, but something that is NOT a good thing for a man to engage in. You really shouldn't have anything in common with women is what I'm getting at, their interests and the way they look at the world are completely different.

 

[SW15]

A woman is not going to want to have a conversation about the workout I did or the place I went hiking

Fit women will be into this. These are women you want to have sex with.

A woman is not going to want to have a conversation.....about investing strategies or discuss history or science lol.

It is going to be more difficult to find a woman who wants to converse about these topics.

I think guys that seem to do well with women are able to connect with their emotions by spinning some b.s narrative or creating a fantasy in their heads lol. It's something I've seen a lot with men that seem to do well with women and it makes me laugh because there isn't **** backing it up, these women are just falling for phoneys at the end of the day. These guys aren't really talking about these women with anything, they just do a good job of selling themselves with the idea that they have status, can provide a fun and interesting life, etc.

Most women don't have any real hobbies or interests outside of social media, television, partying, etc.

If you connect to a woman's emotions well, then you will succeed with seduction. Selling a woman on a fantasy is a great idea.

 

[Stanley]

Don't get formulaic with this, it will come off as 'staged' and won't flow. You want to be authentic and know how to get people (not just girls) to be receptive and warm to you. An invaluable life skill to possess.

The way you speak with someone has to do with the context of the exchange. If we are friends? having conversation comes naturally. If I approached them or vice versa? just see what sticks since you don't know them and have nothing to lose. If you are standing in line and small talk those around you then maybe make an observation or mention something relevant to the situation at hand. Asking questions is normally a good way to get the other person talking.

By in large you should talk about whatever you want to... equally so, you should listen to the other person all the same. If the person isn't reciprocative and engaging with you then change topics or abort. Be aware though that you might also be a poor conversationalist in general and need to work on social skills. (A good book on that would be Dale Carnegie's How to win Friends and Influence People)

You don't have to be an extrovert to be good at communicating with others. The more you do it and reflect, the better you can get. At 19 you're just entering the adult world and learning how to deal with it socially. You're going to stumble until you get your sea legs, but keep at it.

Talking To Girls

DON'T be sweet. LISTEN to her and add in your thoughts. Don't try to FIX her problems, UNDERSTAND them.

bookofpook.com

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I think guys that seem to do well with women are able to connect with their emotions by spinning some b.s narrative or creating a fantasy in their heads lol.

You don't need to put a negative spin on this.

Yes, men who do well with women connect with their emotions.

There are a variety of ways to attract women. One of them is the ability to make women excited / aroused, which is something we all like to do. Some men have charm and wit, and they attract women who enjoy charming witty men.

There is no point in being negative about the charming witty man's ability, as you are not in competition. You attract different women and those women match who you are.

 

[Ricky]

Yeah, I overheard this male and female co-worker talk about the lady's purse during an elevator ride. Another curry-chad guy was "waiting" for her outside the building and her attention went on him and she's like "thank you for waiting for me"....wonder how that other guy felt. He acted all excited about her purse and talking about that for her to likely forget about him and totally sound excited about that other guy who was taller and looked better than him to her, lol! You normally can't have a high-caliber discussion unless you are talking to a high-caliber girl, but then again, those types are probably already taken.

what the hell is a curry chad?

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I disagree. It's pure red-pill. I just overheard a convo on a subject matter between two people that I couldn't have the slightest bit of interest about.

The first issue is that, I could not match the same energy or interest in that guy that she was talking to in the elevator about that subject. If that is how gals and guys interact then I'm at a loss with that type of social dynamic. Secondly, if she is showing interest with another guy (ie apart from the guy talking to her) like that, then I don't know how I would be that invested in that interaction.

The end point is the same issue as any other points, having a "successful" convo, especially where you are sucking up to her to try and get some rapport-points does not lead to attraction. It's just friendzone if you are not her physical type. If you are her physical t ype then she'll probably make it very easy to talk with her or she's lead the convo.

That’s Black.

 

[corrector]

what the hell is a curry chad?

Within the incel definitions (ie incel wiki, etc... or wherever) it is a term to denote an Indian/Paki type of Chad. The subject girl in the elevator was also an Indian (or of that similar background) herself. The other guy talking to her was a Black guy, possibly a Tyrone-light, but shorter than the other guy.

 

[corrector]

That’s Black.

Do you actually have an argument to support that view?

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Do you actually have an argument to support that view?

she likes the Chad Curry for his looks. Not the guy who purse-simped for her

 

[Pro Gamer]

I think one answer is in your post. Women like to talk about other girls. Often to complain about them, lol. And it gets them engaged emotionally. That's probably PUAs like that opener "Who cheats more, men or women?".

probably the best advice given here

 

[corrector]

she likes the Chad Curry for his looks. Not the guy who purse-simped for her

You mean her dancing monkey. Dancing monkey is a very popular PUA term and it's used in a disparaging way. However, I assure you that it is still redpill concept.

You of all people should know this. You are not a dancing monkey.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

You mean her dancing monkey. Dancing monkey is a very popular PUA term and it's used in a disparaging way. However, I assure you that it is still redpill concept.

You of all people should know this. You are not a dancing monkey.

I’m not familiar with DM. Sounds bad though.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Women understand emotion a lot better than men so I quite like chatting about traumas / experiences / fears / desires

If you speak with enough authority most women are happy to just sit and listen and pitch in where they can

I was in the gym with a 22year old baddie a couple of weeks ago , I was just saying whatever I felt like across a range of subjects there was a few occasions where she tried challenging me but I would just laugh at her and push her or grab her booty

We were together for about 2 hours so I knew she was quite happy being with me

 

[Mike32ct]

I’m not familiar with DM. Sounds bad though.

Today DM is pretty much called jestermaxxing.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

I have observed something with my experiences with male buddies. I have observed that we become "free" and start having a lot of rapport with a male buddy when we start talking about girls,sex etc with them. I have talked to unknown guys for literally a minute and started having rapport with him when i talked about girls with him.

I wonder what kind of topic do you talk about with girls in order to have the same effect? have you observed any such topic in your experiences with women?

Can you make me a good sandwich? (Is one of my fav topics)

 

[NealIRC]

Today DM is pretty much called jestermaxxing.

What about women dming men?

 

[Mike32ct]

What about women dming men?

I didn’t mean direct message.

Was talking about dancing monkey above.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Conversations just happen and flow. As an example. Work sent me on an overnight to a small town this week. I had dinner at a nice restaurant. It was midweek and rainy, so not busy. As I was relaxing with a dessert wine. one of the staff came by. She & I talked for about 20 minutes or so. About food, travel, what to do in this area, her job, where she lived. Her previous jobs. Drinks…

 

[corrector]

Conversations just happen and flow. As an example. Work sent me on an overnight to a small town this week. I had dinner at a nice restaurant. It was midweek and rainy, so not busy. As I was relaxing with a dessert wine. one of the staff came by. She & I talked for about 20 minutes or so. About food, travel, what to do in this area, her job, where she lived. Her previous jobs. Drinks…

What type of women did you interact with? One can argue that people in small towns are naturally more friendly in the USA.