Men catch feelings more than we often think men catch feelings.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
The only time you should catch feelings is if she swallows your load, then post-nut clarity will set in
I do think there's a difference between catching feelings over scarcity vs catching feelings because she is that girl. I've caught feelings for women even when I wasn't in scarcity because it was just that girl lol.
how did you know the difference between this and oneitis?
Bang as many girls as it takes to understand that none are special, and there will only be a few that are worthy of commitment. Some guys might go thru 10 girls, others will have to go thru 30 girls to learn.
Scarcity Oneitis- Basically a FOMO lonliness type oneitis where you are more obsessed with having sex or something lined up then actually liking the person. This usually happens with novices-intermediate level guys, but it can sneak up on you during a vulnerable period of your life. You will forget this girl like a McDouble meal you had after a night of drinking.
If you’re banging only one chick, you are going to develop feelings. I’d say it’s almost unavoidable if she’s the only one (unless she is legit well below your standards) and if you want to avoid it you should hold off until you have a rotation of at least 2 in the fold.
You really nailed it! Now would you describe what a healthy relationship feels like?
