What are women worth to YOU?

[slipstreamer83]

Originally posted by strong like bull
Sage, im not even sure that love exists. can you explain it? could anyone?

in what ways does an LTR, whether in love or not, benefit you over multiple relationships? unless of course, you have some desire to move in, share your finances, become bonded in another person, etc.

im not trying to be a smartass; i seriously need this broken down for me because i cant see the urgency of LTR/love.

also, regardless of my desires, i have never cheated in any exclusive relationship. i end the relationship before i break my word. infidelity is unacceptable; both ways.

I can´t explain you very well what could love bring into my life. Maybe I would like someone to care about me and I´d like to care about someone; sane infatuation, perhaps? I don´t know. If you don´t see it, don´t force yourself man. If you have to feel "love" you wil feel it. But make sure it´s with someone who´s really going to care.

As I see it, having $4 million would be great and it´d make me feel happy, but if I had $3 million I would also be happy. If I had love & sex I would be happy, but if I had sex only I would be happy too.

 

[SageOFAllenAge]

This is love.

"A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance." - courtesy dictionary.com

You might not feel it because you're detached from the girls you get into relationships with at some level.

Its cool, that you dont cheat.

 

[comic_relief]

not worth anything

my self-improvement and passions are more important toward me instead of women.

Player and JBbrain. I suggest you two stop the upcoming flame wars. This happened before with Fantizmu. Player you got a PM from our friendly moderators on flaming. This is a good thread that I don't want to go to the crappers because of your pathetic flaming that has been gone over before.

 

[disciple]

A woman starts out with a 1 on a scale of 1-10 with me. Any value or feeling of value that she wants she must EARN from me after she's proven herself over a period of time. Also, as soon as she does something I don't like, she immediately loses points with me and I openly show my disapproval and displeasure and withdraw my time, attention, etc. until she starts to "act right" again. That's how I train my b*tches and then they respect you.

 

[MrBond_Age]

What are women worth to me? Thats a very good question indeed.

Since I had my share of ****-buddies in the last 2 years one would assume that I enjoy being with these girls and that I somehow love what Im doing.Its not working that way.

A lot of **** happened to me in the past few years too and I lost a big chunk of myself. I was once a sensitive child that did everything to help out others and I am now a cold hearted man that will only help you to either gain something or boost his ego. I still consider I am better off today that I was when I was a kid though, mind you. I was naive and too kind for my own good. People were bad to me even though I always did my best to help. Thats how I learned I was weak because of my feelings torward others.

Many times I was about to have sex with a girl and she asked me if I loved her and I had to say no because I really coudnt give a crap about her. Many times they began to cry and swear at me for "misleading them" while in fact I did nothing. They prolly though I was just being "misterious" while in fact my heart stayed ice-cold all the time.

In conslusion: All living beings beside myself are worthless to me.

 

[SageOFAllenAge]

Jump aboard the apathy bandwagon.

 

[strong like bull]

thanks for the input guys.

MrBond_Age, i can definately relate to you. i seem to be at my best when i look out for numbero uno. i take care of family and close friends, but stay ice cold to anyone who isnt benefitting me. the result? i have girls who i really dont care about, doing favors and buying things for me i guess to "win me over." i joke around and flirt back to them and stroke eachothers ego and sexual appettite.

and thats great, but every time, as soon as i open up and let them into my heart, things change. for the worse. they start to take me for granted. they expect more than they deserve. they try to pull bull**** on me. they stop doing favors for me.

i remember one day, on the verge of a breakup with a gf who i cared about, i looked to my step father for advice. he is matured and experienced. hes a black man (im white) who grew up the hard way; fought through racism, the street wars of chicago, and all of lifes other troubles. his attitude towards women and life is very similar to Player_Supreme's.

i explained my situation to him, and his advice was about as follows.

"slb, youre a very honest and open young man. you speak your mind without hesitation. you tell people what you think, without worry of how theyll take it. because its your truth and thats what matters to you. and thats a good way to be. but its also your downfall. its your weakness. you wear your heart on your sleeves; and people take advantage of that. women especially. as you grow older and mature, as a man, youll learn to keep your emotions on the inside. only when someone has truly earned your trust, do you slowly expose yourself to them.

otherwise, youll experience the downfall of the strong, independent man like many others have. guys who go from living powerful roles for themselves, to living for women or others. living to push THEIR dreams and provide THEIR happiness, rather than your own"


could truer words be spoken?

im still filtering that afc/symp blood out of my veins. ive got the urge to open up and share, expose myself too soon. but ive learned a couple lessons the hard way, and im beginning to see how things might really be.

-SLB