What are we?

[Murk]

Ok so I've been seeing this girl for a few weeks, we have only actually met 4 times, I lost a couple of phones and been pretty busy so we couldn't get into a rhythm of dating.

I was really tired Saturday so I prolonged our date and she ended up just driving to my house where we drank wine, watched Anchorman 2 (such a sh1t movie) and banged. She's on the pill now since the last time we banged so that is a positive.

Anyway we wake up Sunday morning - I suggest we go get some food and she asks if I want to do something with her today, I'm caught a bit off guard but really have no other plans anyway so I say ok.

We get food, go to a local bar for some drinks then chill in the park. Everything is good, we go to a pub opposite my house, drink, then she is too drunk to drive home (I told her to stop drinking and go home). She stays over again and leaves at 6:30am this morning to go to home to go to work.

She asked last night "what are we?" and "I want to know if this is more than just sex". I said look it's early days lets just see what happens. She also said she enjoyed spending the day with me, and this morning "I love having sex with you".

No she's a really hot girl that I went to school with - 3 years younger than me, but this neediness and lack of social life outside of me is off putting. I don't even really want to bang her any more, the sex is good, I just feel mega turned off now. She's not care free and fun enough, too serious and nice.

Should I just cut her off now and ride it out (literally) for a bit more? I cancelled a date on Saturday for her and kind of wishing I didn't.

 

[spred]

Lol man, I would kill to be in your shoes right now.

Depends on what are you looking for, but you can control where this is going, easily.

Regarding the cancelled date, tell her you want to take it slow for a while, enjoy her company, etc.

 

[CMNILS87]

So the game for you now is over? She’s asking what you guys are after a month? She’s gotta be super young. I’d ride it out, if she really wants exclusivity she’ll hang in there and give you more than sex. She should be helping clean, doing laundry, cooking and such. She needs to show if she could actually be a decent gf not just a hole to plug.

My current gf hung in there for 8 months pestering me about exclusivity.

I think you’re over thinking this whole thing. You make another date, you tell her that the whole what are we thing freaked you out and you want to slow it down. Have 1 date night a week and another hangout session. She can’t get exclusive from you but more dating so she’ll chase and chase and chase

 

[Murk]

Lol man, I would kill to be in your shoes right now.

Depends on what are you looking for, but you can control where this is going, easily.

Regarding the cancelled date, tell her you want to take it slow for a while, enjoy her company, etc.

The cancelled date is a hot 37 year old blonde who is an easy bang, but fun, 20 tattoos, bit of a loose canon. Already arranged drinks on Thursday.

So the game for you now is over? She’s asking what you guys are after a month? She’s gotta be super young. I’d ride it out, if she really wants exclusivity she’ll hang in there and give you more than sex. She should be helping clean, doing laundry, cooking and such. She needs to show if she could actually be a decent gf not just a hole to plug.

My current gf hung in there for 8 months pestering me about exclusivity.

I think you’re over thinking this whole thing. You make another date, you tell her that the whole what are we thing freaked you out and you want to slow it down. Have 1 date night a week and another hangout session. She can’t get exclusive from you but more dating so she’ll chase and chase and chase

She is 26, not super young but only had 2 bf's. She's already offered to help me cook and clean, she's a really nice girl, but I don't want nice, I want a little push back, I feel I can roll her over. It's her lethargic way of speaking too, like life has sucked her dry. I think she bonded to me because her mum has cancer (mine died 2 years ago from it) so she sees me as someone who understands her. I can't really go through the whole someone dying of cancer thing again as well which is why this can't work.

This is one of those situations where abundance mentality pays off and the IDGAF idea turns you into an opportunist.

In situations like these I have no problem with being open about my intentions. I often tell women things can be whatever they want it to be...so long as I'm feeling it all in the same way as they are.

At that point, if they want the LTR and I don't, I'll tell them I'm not feeling that but also don't want to end it. If she storms off, fine. Abundance. I move on.

If she goes with my flow, cool. FWB Opportunity.

If I feel the LTR possibility, that's where it'll go.

Regardless of the outcome, I don't have to juggle lies, play games and be deceptive to buy more time.

Stick or move.

Ok ok, she wants to meet tomorrow, I'll tell her I'm not ready for a LTR and try to FWB her. She did drop in semi casual convo that if I'm seeing other people she'll do the same (she won't, doesn't have the social nous or ability despite being hot).

My problem is that I'm not even desiring sex from her despite her being pretty. It's weird, I think the novelty of banging the younger sister of a girl that was in my class for 7 years has worn off.

 

[CMNILS87]

This is one of those situations where abundance mentality pays off and the IDGAF idea turns you into an opportunist.

In situations like these I have no problem with being open about my intentions. I often tell women things can be whatever they want it to be...so long as I'm feeling it all in the same way as they are.

At that point, if they want the LTR and I don't, I'll tell them I'm not feeling that but also don't want to end it. If she storms off, fine. Abundance. I move on.

If she goes with my flow, cool. FWB Opportunity.

If I feel the LTR possibility, that's where it'll go.

Regardless of the outcome, I don't have to juggle lies, play games and be deceptive to buy more time.

Stick or move.

After a month of dating ?

 

[marmel75]

Ok so I've been seeing this girl for a few weeks, we have only actually met 4 times, I lost a couple of phones and been pretty busy so we couldn't get into a rhythm of dating.

I was really tired Saturday so I prolonged our date and she ended up just driving to my house where we drank wine, watched Anchorman 2 (such a sh1t movie) and banged. She's on the pill now since the last time we banged so that is a positive.

Anyway we wake up Sunday morning - I suggest we go get some food and she asks if I want to do something with her today, I'm caught a bit off guard but really have no other plans anyway so I say ok.

We get food, go to a local bar for some drinks then chill in the park. Everything is good, we go to a pub opposite my house, drink, then she is too drunk to drive home (I told her to stop drinking and go home). She stays over again and leaves at 6:30am this morning to go to home to go to work.

She asked last night "what are we?" and "I want to know if this is more than just sex". I said look it's early days lets just see what happens. She also said she enjoyed spending the day with me, and this morning "I love having sex with you".

No she's a really hot girl that I went to school with - 3 years younger than me, but this neediness and lack of social life outside of me is off putting. I don't even really want to bang her any more, the sex is good, I just feel mega turned off now. She's not care free and fun enough, too serious and nice.

Should I just cut her off now and ride it out (literally) for a bit more? I cancelled a date on Saturday for her and kind of wishing I didn't.

I dont know what is up with some guys.

Girl doesnt have sex...next her.

Girl has sex but doesn't act the way you want her too afterwards...next her

Girl shows too much interest...next her

Girl shows not enough interest...next her

Its like guys have no concept of how a woman normally acts after sex. This is kinda normal behavior for women...its typically a much bigger deal for a woman to have sex and they get attached more easily. How do you not know this by now OP?

Are you living in a fantasy world where you are going to find a woman who acts 100% the way you want and gives you a bl0wjob every morning and sex every night while cooking, cleaning and doing your laundry too?

I think too many guys here are looking for the male version of the Disney Princess Fairy Tale...that doesnt exist, stop looking for it.

 

[Spaz]

If she's nice, I'll stick with her 1st, explore her more then just pubs/drink/night life, she might spring something really fun in other places.

Try the beach, fun fairs, hiking, cycling etc. Bring her outdoors and see how she reacts to different situations, she might surprise you there and you'd have a keeper.

 

[Murk]

I dont know what is up with some guys.

Girl doesnt have sex...next her.

Girl has sex but doesn't act the way you want her too afterwards...next her

Girl shows too much interest...next her

Girl shows not enough interest...next her

Its like guys have no concept of how a woman normally acts after sex. This is kinda normal behavior for women...its typically a much bigger deal for a woman to have sex and they get attached more easily. How do you not know this by now OP?

Are you living in a fantasy world where you are going to find a woman who acts 100% the way you want and gives you a bl0wjob every morning and sex every night while cooking, cleaning and doing your laundry too?

I think too many guys here are looking for the male version of the Disney Princess Fairy Tale...that doesnt exist, stop looking for it.

Girls don't all act the same, this is my point.

If you weren't in a marriage dedicating most of your time to one woman (bravo my dude) you may realise what they're like these days.