what are the people of your country like?

[shadowfox]

I'll briefly share with you my take on what my country is like (Great Britain). Basically I'm told from my grandparents generation in the 50s, people were close and friendly and outgoing. If a stranger was walking in the street in your local town you would say "good morning." You were on friendly terms with your neighbours and there was a sense of community. I can see that this was probably true as most older people agree with this notion and they are generally more friendly and post-war built a sense of identity and community spirit.

However, nowadays it feels like a very tense country. There is no community where I live. People do not talk on the trains. There is a silence only broken by the talk between famillys and friends and not between strangers. Iam at university and basically there are very few genuine OUTGOING people. I have met loads of people but they are only talkative when DRUNK. There is a drinking culture (i.e. get hammered of your face so you dont remember what you've done, not drink just to relax.) People look at the floor and rarely try to make friendly eye contact. MOST people have very little social skills. Im not saying no one is outgoing as there are some very friendly people but they are few and far between. There is little empathy between people and it is a harsh country with everyone out for themselves. Friends will and do screw you over.

People may disagree with this or some parts of this and I'am open to debate.

So I ask: What is your country like? My country is depressing me and I want out. Are there any genuine, truely friendly countries out there anymore?

 

[horaholic]

For the most part, I dont think it's a matter of countries, as much as the city you're in. The more populated the city, the less friendliness there seems to be. Go to a small, town, and people say hi, or wave to strangers driving, etc. Older people are friendlier also, cuz they grew up that way. Our generations wasnt raised that way as much. It makes aproach anxiety even worse, when were used to distrusting strangers. I know it is better for your game, to get in the habit of being friendlier to strangers.

It sucks, cuz if we were friendlier, the world would run a lot smoother.

 

[Farmboy]

For the most part, I dont think it's a matter of countries, as much as the city you're in. The more populated the city, the less friendliness there seems to be. Go to a small, town, and people say hi, or wave to strangers driving, etc.

This reminds me of an old documentary I saw as a freshman in college called "Ratopolis". I tried to find some info on the web on it, but all I could find was some crap in French. Anyway, from what I remember, these social scientists wanted to create a replica of a city using rats as a test model. They built this giant rat cage and gave them unlimited food and water (just like a city: limited space but unlimited resources). At first the rats were fine, but as their population grew their social structure began to collapse. The beta males started killing alphas, mothers began to abandon or kill their pups, and their maiting rituals broke down into something akin to rape. Pretty soon the rats all got sick and died. The take-home lesson was that the "social decay" that people lament may actually be caused by the high density living conditions found in cities, and if we don't do something about overpopulation we'll all end up barrelling towards a Soylent Green-esque dystopia in the near future.
(Gets off soapbox)

But in response to the OP's question, I live in the mid-Atlantic reigon of the US in a rural community and work in a city. I've never been outside the US, so I can't really compare and contrast, but I see the same kind of guarded behaviour you mentioned here too. It is probably a western culture thing...we're all terrified of each other.

 

[theunflushables]

I'll briefly share with you my take on what my country is like (Great Britain). Basically I'm told from my grandparents generation in the 50s, people were close and friendly and outgoing. If a stranger was walking in the street in your local town you would say "good morning." You were on friendly terms with your neighbours and there was a sense of community. I can see that this was probably true as most older people agree with this notion and they are generally more friendly and post-war built a sense of identity and community spirit.

However, nowadays it feels like a very tense country. There is no community where I live. People do not talk on the trains. There is a silence only broken by the talk between famillys and friends and not between strangers. Iam at university and basically there are very few genuine OUTGOING people. I have met loads of people but they are only talkative when DRUNK. There is a drinking culture (i.e. get hammered of your face so you dont remember what you've done, not drink just to relax.) People look at the floor and rarely try to make friendly eye contact. MOST people have very little social skills. Im not saying no one is outgoing as there are some very friendly people but they are few and far between. There is little empathy between people and it is a harsh country with everyone out for themselves. Friends will and do screw you over.

People may disagree with this or some parts of this and I'am open to debate.

So I ask: What is your country like? My country is depressing me and I want out. Are there any genuine, truely friendly countries out there anymore?

But you have Doctor Who, Top Gear, London, Fish n Chips, The Beatles, The Rolling Stones, great beer, Stone Henge, Simon Pegg, West Ham United, etc., etc. Tell you what, I'll trade places with you. Come to America and you can have Paris Hilton, Britney Spears, and Tom Cruise.

 

[EA Gold]

hello fox, ol chap

I would have say it was that way in the 50's and common in almost all the countries.

You see when your constantly monitored by a camera anywhere you go, you will begin to not trust people. The TV projects so called "whats accepted" in your culture and influences many people.


You should visit the Philippines, very genuine and very friendly.

 

[CapedCrusader08]

"This reminds me of an old documentary I saw as a freshman in college called "Ratopolis". I tried to find some info on the web on it, but all I could find was some crap in French. Anyway, from what I remember, these social scientists wanted to create a replica of a city using rats as a test model. They built this giant rat cage and gave them unlimited food and water (just like a city: limited space but unlimited resources). At first the rats were fine, but as their population grew their social structure began to collapse. The beta males started killing alphas, mothers began to abandon or kill their pups, and their maiting rituals broke down into something akin to rape. Pretty soon the rats all got sick and died. The take-home lesson was that the "social decay" that people lament may actually be caused by the high density living conditions found in cities, and if we don't do something about overpopulation we'll all end up barrelling towards a Soylent Green-esque dystopia in the near future.
(Gets off soapbox)

But in response to the OP's question, I live in the mid-Atlantic reigon of the US in a rural community and work in a city. I've never been outside the US, so I can't really compare and contrast, but I see the same kind of guarded behaviour you mentioned here too. It is probably a western culture thing...we're all terrified of each other."


"For the most part, I dont think it's a matter of countries, as much as the city you're in. The more populated the city, the less friendliness there seems to be. Go to a small, town, and people say hi, or wave to strangers driving, etc. Older people are friendlier also, cuz they grew up that way. Our generations wasnt raised that way as much. It makes aproach anxiety even worse, when were used to distrusting strangers. I know it is better for your game, to get in the habit of being friendlier to strangers."

So what,this is a city thing? Maybe that's why I have long disliked where I lived. The people/environment. I mean,the comparison's of city life vs country life,is that like cliqueiness on a huge scale? That's what it sounds like. Hustle and Bustle of the Big city. I mean, I guess you could somehow relate taxi driver to all of this....

 

[horaholic]

Hey Caped, learn how use the little quote balloon in the reply box. Hint: it looks like a quote balloon from comics.
Then you're quotes look like this:

So what,this is a city thing? Maybe that's why I have long disliked where I lived. The people/environment. I mean,the comparison's of city life vs country life,is that like cliqueiness on a huge scale? That's what it sounds like. Hustle and Bustle of the Big city. I mean, I guess you could somehow relate taxi driver to all of this....

Its not JUST a big city thing, though. I grew up in a small town (10,000 people tourist trap) and I was miserable, due to boredom and lack of options in the female department. people were definitely friendlier there, though. There were also a lot of small town redneck dyckheads too. Im living in the 'biggest little city' right now, and it is a somewhat of a balance between city, and smaller town (400,000 people or so). People are no friendlier to strangers here, than a big city though. Im not diggin the 11% unemployment rate here right now though!

 

[CapedCrusader08]

It's funny,today,I went and saw watchmen,by myself of course,and it was in town Boston. I have lived here my whole life,and have realized how unhappy I am with alot of it. I cannot,for the life of me,relate to this idea of "modern urban trends/living/etc". I just can't. Alot of it is superficial b.s that I have no care for.

As I was walking around afterwards,anything to avoid coming right back home,where I am now no less, I just walked around,thinking to myself,smoking,cigars, and going through one of my anxiety/misery spells,and just observing the people. The hardest part is always seeing couples and/or freinds together,and you feel so alone. It's a little of jealousy,insecurity,frustration. I mean,when you see someone with a girl,laying her head in there lap,making out,you yearn for that. You yearn for that connection,love,whatever.

 

[Julian]

It's funny,today,I went and saw watchmen,by myself of course,and it was in town Boston. I have lived here my whole life,and have realized how unhappy I am with alot of it. I cannot,for the life of me,relate to this idea of "modern urban trends/living/etc". I just can't. Alot of it is superficial b.s that I have no care for.

As I was walking around afterwards,anything to avoid coming right back home,where I am now no less, I just walked around,thinking to myself,smoking,cigars, and going through one of my anxiety/misery spells,and just observing the people. The hardest part is always seeing couples and/or freinds together,and you feel so alone. It's a little of jealousy,insecurity,frustration. I mean,when you see someone with a girl,laying her head in there lap,making out,you yearn for that. You yearn for that connection,love,whatever.

Man you are really need to not be so down on yourself. You seem unhappy being alone. I understand your feelings but you need to step out of that mindset and step into the flow of life. You went out by yourself, but it seems as if you did it grudgingly. Do so with enthusiasm bro, have the mindset of thinking of doing things by yourself as your own adventures and solo missions. I think that ****s pimp as fukk personally.

You need to learn to build your life by yourself. Walkin around with the blues and smokin a cigar isnt life shattering, im sure you could have met a girl or made a friend somewhere along the way that day.


As to the original thread yeah I believe your environment def. can dictate your attitude. I notice changes in the way people are from region to region. Honestly though where Im at most people are friendly enough and willing to help and be courteous with complete strangers...even in the downtown metro. Might be a midwest thing or minnesota nice fukk if i know.

As far as generally friendly countries i duno maybe greenland or maybe norway, no wait norway has norwegian black metal...scratch them...how about luxembourg! Yeah they are probably friendly, never heard a bad thing about em.

 

[Softimager21]

I am from Slovakia, so I can describe slovakian girls.

SLOVAKIAN GIRLS

My country is well known for most amount of wh0res in the world. Slovakia is very poor country. If British or any other forigners come here to visit Slovakia, our chicks try to marry them as soon as possible. Most of slovakian girls are money chasing wh0res. Generally we men have to work 3 jobs just to satisfy our cheating wives.

In general people here will stab your back for 1 euro. There are still many households without electricity in Slovakia ! .. The funny part is: they will show you beautiful pictures of slovakia such as Mountains, Caves ect. BUT they will not show you REAL slovakia as it is. In my country there are at least 8 fights per night outside every club. There are local gangs usually of 20 people with guns well known as Mafia. Everybody in SLovakia is afraid that something terrible will happen to them every single second. People here live in a fear.

Any single american chick who wants to marry me? :wave:

 

[ChrizZ]

Well, I've lived both in Germany and in the US.

My experience in Germany (ca. 80,000 people town)

When I took the bus to school everyone was like a zombie. Absolutely no talking on the bus. Everyone was afraid to talk to strangers and just looked out of the window. Except for turkish guys since all of them are naturally outgoing for some reason.

All women drink and smoke. They don't do any other drugs however. As I said women are extremely shy to strangers and refuse to even have a conversation with anyone that is not in their social circle. The guys dress very feminine and grow mullets and color them and wear sunglasses during the winter when it's cold and dark outside to look cool. Everyone is basically wearing the same clothes which are clothes you find on MTV music videos.

Everyone basically acts and does the same things which is work a 9-5 job at wal mart and then party at night.

My experience in the US (Midwest population 6,000)

Small town. Everyone is friendly. Everyone knows everything about everyone. Conservative. When it comes to girls it's a pure popularity contest. Very clique. You are friends with everyone and it's very easy to screw up because news travels fast.

My experience in California:

Everyone does drugs. Girls don't even look at you unless you have money or a six pack are covered in tattoos. Very superficial. Everyone tries to impress everyone. The guys here are very easy to talk to. It seems like everyone is struggling to get chicks so most settle for ugly fat chicks. Everyone thinks they are going to be super stars someday, but all they ever do is drugs and party and then work a 9-5 job for minimum wage. Most kids are super spoiled because they have rich parents. Women think they are Paris Hilton and 99% of them run around on the phone saying "Are you serial??? Yeah, he's SOO HOT!" etc...

 

[LowPlainsDrifter]

I dimly remember a story that went something like this:
A drifter walks into town one night, looking for a place to stay.
Both weary and wary, he asks a local about the sort of people that lived there.
"What have you heard?" the person replies
"A bunch of gamblers, drunkard and cheats" the drifter says in return.
"Well, that's exactly what you'll find here" the local offers tersely.

The next day, another drifter walks into town and happens upon the same informative local, and poses the same question.
"What sort of people you got here?" He asks.
"Well, what have you heard about our town?"
The stranger replies, "You've got mostly decent, righteous, church-going folk."
The greeter cracks a smile, points to an inn with vacancies, and says, "well, that's exactly what you'll find here."

 

[Smack]

I'll briefly share with you my take on what my country is like (Great Britain). Basically I'm told from my grandparents generation in the 50s, people were close and friendly and outgoing. If a stranger was walking in the street in your local town you would say "good morning." You were on friendly terms with your neighbours and there was a sense of community. I can see that this was probably true as most older people agree with this notion and they are generally more friendly and post-war built a sense of identity and community spirit.

However, nowadays it feels like a very tense country. There is no community where I live. People do not talk on the trains. There is a silence only broken by the talk between famillys and friends and not between strangers. Iam at university and basically there are very few genuine OUTGOING people. I have met loads of people but they are only talkative when DRUNK. There is a drinking culture (i.e. get hammered of your face so you dont remember what you've done, not drink just to relax.) People look at the floor and rarely try to make friendly eye contact. MOST people have very little social skills. Im not saying no one is outgoing as there are some very friendly people but they are few and far between. There is little empathy between people and it is a harsh country with everyone out for themselves. Friends will and do screw you over.

People may disagree with this or some parts of this and I'am open to debate.

So I ask: What is your country like? My country is depressing me and I want out. Are there any genuine, truely friendly countries out there anymore?

I agree with everything you say about Britain. Drinking culture covers the fact that no one talks to anyone any more. People think you're a creep and anti-social if you attempt to make conversation with randoms. If you want to get laid casually, get drunk in a club. Don't even bother with cold approaches.

 

[Nygard]

My town is called Medellin. in Colombia. It's famous for being some years ago the murder capital of the world, with OVER 3500 people killed in a single year by druglords, hitmen, common muggers and whatever had guns and bullets.
Right now, we're on some deep trouble because the problems of the past might be coming back to haunt us again.
The people in the city come in several flavours. You got the cool people, that are friendly, they talk to everybody, they are hard-workign and intelligent. They have to problem doing anything from the **** they have seen in their life.
Then you have the scared people. Those are the kind of people that freak out from noises in the street. They only meet people through their friends. you cant aproach them, they freak out. They're terrified from all the stuff happening in the city.
Then you also have the intolerant kind. those are the guys and gals that will call somebody to help him-her beat you down or shoot you because you dont agree with him.

i wish the nightclubs and bars had more of the cool kind

 

[speed dawg]

I am from Slovakia, so I can describe slovakian girls.

SLOVAKIAN GIRLS

My country is well known for most amount of wh0res in the world. Slovakia is very poor country. If British or any other forigners come here to visit Slovakia, our chicks try to marry them as soon as possible. Most of slovakian girls are money chasing wh0res. Generally we men have to work 3 jobs just to satisfy our cheating wives.

In general people here will stab your back for 1 euro. There are still many households without electricity in Slovakia ! .. The funny part is: they will show you beautiful pictures of slovakia such as Mountains, Caves ect. BUT they will not show you REAL slovakia as it is. In my country there are at least 8 fights per night outside every club. There are local gangs usually of 20 people with guns well known as Mafia. Everybody in SLovakia is afraid that something terrible will happen to them every single second. People here live in a fear.

Any single american chick who wants to marry me? :wave:

And it's amazing how many Americans, MY OWN COUNTRYMEN, complain about their current standing. It sickens me. I love the U.S., and would lay down my life for it. But this terrible terrible sense of entitlement drives me crazy, and it's fueled by the LIBERALS, WHO ARE SEEN AS THE "CARING" ONES TO OTHER PEOPLE AROUND THE GLOBE!!! It's really insane and I feel strongly about this topic.

Come on over Softimager, you don't have to live like that. And you can easily make a living here. Don't let the doom and gloom over the economy on the TV fool you, it's bullsh1t, and it's our consequences for so many idiots living beyond their means for decades. A hard worker will always prosper in America.

 

[speed dawg]

My town is called Medellin. in Colombia. It's famous for being some years ago the murder capital of the world, with OVER 3500 people killed in a single year by druglords, hitmen, common muggers and whatever had guns and bullets.
Right now, we're on some deep trouble because the problems of the past might be coming back to haunt us again.
The people in the city come in several flavours. You got the cool people, that are friendly, they talk to everybody, they are hard-workign and intelligent. They have to problem doing anything from the **** they have seen in their life.
Then you have the scared people. Those are the kind of people that freak out from noises in the street. They only meet people through their friends. you cant aproach them, they freak out. They're terrified from all the stuff happening in the city.
Then you also have the intolerant kind. those are the guys and gals that will call somebody to help him-her beat you down or shoot you because you dont agree with him.

i wish the nightclubs and bars had more of the cool kind

Medellin was very tough back when Escobar was in power. I couldn't imagine living like that.

 

[Softimager21]

And it's amazing how many Americans, MY OWN COUNTRYMEN, complain about their current standing. It sickens me. I love the U.S., and would lay down my life for it. But this terrible terrible sense of entitlement drives me crazy, and it's fueled by the LIBERALS, WHO ARE SEEN AS THE "CARING" ONES TO OTHER PEOPLE AROUND THE GLOBE!!! It's really insane and I feel strongly about this topic.

Come on over Softimager, you don't have to live like that. And you can easily make a living here. Don't let the doom and gloom over the economy on the TV fool you, it's bullsh1t, and it's our consequences for so many idiots living beyond their means for decades. A hard worker will always prosper in America.

My friend, there is this little problem called VISA . If I have visa to the US, I would leave Slovakia immediately. I like USA very much, I like US people as well. I met a few americans and they were so cool and carefree. I have T-Shirt with american flag and american flag tattoo as well. Many times I get in the troubles and people tried to beat me up for that. Well.. I wasn't so lucky to be born as an american . Most of people I know hate americans. If I hear some sh1t about america that somebody in slovakia is talking about, I always stand up for america.

If you are in SLovakia at Hospital, you have to give a gift to the doctor in order to be cured. Otherwise you'll end up dying and they don't even care.

I spent about 2 years in Great Britain and I realised that most of british people don't like americans, so I made my decision not to live in that sh1thole no more.

People in my country are b1tching about america all the time. But interesting thing is they watch American movies, listening to american music and they are surrounded by american things, ipods... ect Shame on them

God I hate my country

Sorry for my grammar