being outgoing/flirty is a matter of degrees. if you feel threatened then it's a red flag FOR YOU. I gotta tell you , I love it when the woman in my life outcharms a service person like a waiter or waitress, and we get outstanding customer service. I don't mind it when she acts flirty with my 80 year old father complimenting a photo of him, telling him he looks SOOO handsome...So often insecure men mistake charm and engaging behavior to be "Acting Flirty". I probably do the same to some degree and we understand each other.
The ultimate in social proof is to be with the person everyone else at the party wishes they could be with, and I'm taking her home....
@will123 in your case you need to approach her with your personal confidence that you can attract quality women and there are more where she came from. Let her ACTIONS eliminate her from contention , rather than ruling her out based on assumptions. the easiest way to do that is by meeting more women and thinking about what you enjoy about each of them, and allocating your time accordingly. Hey you can have orbiters too you know...
