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merm8n

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So Im crazy for this chick, and Im kind of afraid of that. Im not really sure how to progress in the relationship because Im new to this for one, and two Im new to her. Amazing muñeca. anyways LEt me count the ways, Im mean reasons Im unconfident on = (

She's a student that goes to the same school as me. She works for the music department where I see here most everyday. She is very friendly to everyone because its her professional work environment plus she's naturally friendly with everyone in she meets there.

So friendly that I can't tell if shes just being friendly to me like all the rest, or if theres something there. Weve gone out once after a Astronomy club meeting which ended up spending the entire day with me form 12pm to almost 9pm in the city. We've also met together at a couple club meetings,

We have really fum conversation, Its usually very humorous to me and she makes me laugh a lot A lot of times its how cute she is. I also always bring up how cute I think she looks and the cute they are, the things she does. Like she wore flowers in her hair yet she did it so innocently,
I asked her for of one of the two and she gave me the more purple so she says .She lives at home and has very protective family so Im thinking she doesn't have a lot of social experience except her naturally sweet charm, shes only had ltr with one other in which i don't think anything happened, she also catholic which I think is very nice.

Im so crushed over her cuteness that I bring it up with her alot, And I think she likes hearing how cute she is. The next day after the 8hr. night in the city, I stopped by her work office at school the following monday and was feeling very wonderful being around her as She took a break from work and ate her lunch me while I read to her from a story of the 1000 Arabian Nights. She sat right next to me while i read , touching in at seat and a generally touching air to the environment outside on a brick bench in the wonderfully private back entrance of the school. She laughs a lot with me. A lot of times I pretend Im I catch myself laughing that I don't answer about whats so funny which is probably bothering her even thought she is beginning to reliize her cuteness. I see her as a new soul that is very intelligent.
yet very naive.

So how can I raise the action level, I can't believe I just wrote that but im in need , with my last two potential girlfriends I never got physical, only had greet kino commuciation with but I never really felt sure enough to take it further. I saw dach of these women for what lasted a semester before they both moved away.

Is she interested, Or should I lay cool for a while, so many guys pining for her in the music building. She walked me to my car during work where she risked getting in trouble.

I could go on but Im probably just so excited I can't think and probably missing something that stare me blind in the face.

Is there anybody out there?

merm8n
 

Wiesman44

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You've spent all that time together and nothings happened so far ? And why are you constantly telling her how cute she is ? A compliment here and there is nice, but don't overdo it.


In terms of her IL, who knows ? All your telling us is your conversations with her. You need to read body language, and the non-verbal signs of IL.

You also have one-itis, which is not good. Do not make this chick the center of your life
 

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We have spent a lot of time together yet lot it is at school, or in our club. I know I think oneitus is what I have but not so true Im interested in getting together with a girl from my other class.

And I do overdo the compliments yet I do it in a way where Im kind of teasing her about how unware she is to being so cute and innocent, kind of waking her up to herself.

Im not playing this too bad really, I purposly avoid her at times and do my work, while I know she wonders why I don't say hi sometimes like all the other guys.

Body language, one time I saw her just about to take her work's mail somewhere and we got tied up with some other loser trying to talk to us both. So I decided to walk with her there. The other guys just chating it up while Im playing it cool not really pay attention to either of them. She's trying to be polite to the other guy by answering his questions really fast but trying to get back to me with different questions like what class I have next and other stuff, then I pull a great move, I just leave them both say goodbye, as she walks along with the loser to the mail room, leaving her hanging.

Other body language, she smiles alot when she sees me. I see her passing in the halls so much its common for her to say hello, I never do. One time she said my name, passes by and then turns around with a big smile in which I just now pretend to notice and give her a lingering hellllowww, I don't know it seemed to make her smile more....

where am I going with this, I don't know but I have made it apparent that I have my own life, and that Im not desperate for her, which im not.


thanks for the reply.

anyone else share their thoughts?
 

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That says nothing about her IL. You're just ignoring her. Thats not going to build attraction. When you pass by her in the hall, don't ignore her or say something retarded like helloooooow. Smile, and say hi or nod your head. Or tease her about her 'big smile'. The worst is to ignore her. Now I take it you're purpose of all this avoiding / ignoring is for her to want you even more. But you have to build some sort of IL before you can do that.

You say you tease her about being cute b/c she's unaware of it ? Bullsh#t. She's well aware of how hot she is. If she's unaware, she has self-esteem / confidence issues and u should avoid her. Don't keep telling her how pretty she is. Every chump AFC does that.

You obviously don't understand what I meant by body language and IL. Do you notice her turning her body toward you when you talk ? Does she touch her hair while talking ? Does she look in your eyes ? There's many body language hints that show she's interested.

1) read the dj bible
2) stop calling her cute. Its pathetic and its gonna turn her off. When your about to f*ck her, you can tell her how pretty she is then. Until that point, you've overused that word and all complements for the time being.
 

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Disappear for a little bit and check her response. That should be a great indication of her interest level in you.....
 

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You guys are brutal but its well appreciated.

I definately had a different day with all this swimming around my head while my mind was also coming back to home from a trip from my body.

So I would have liked to avoid her but, its impossible I always see her and she sees me. So we talked about our date tomorrow if I can even call it that. Tomorrow after she gets off from work we're going to San Francisco to buy bread and to hang out in the park for a couple hours. I can't wait.

So IL and body language, I always thought I was well tuned into those areas but now I realise that I may be able to observe it well but Im not very good at sending and recieving it. When she talks to me, she does look me in the eye. When we talk and theres others around we put everyone on hold. Yet when she looks into my eyes, I don't quite feel together with her, what I was writing about before, about how she smiles so much, that I thought I was able to make her laugh... I no longer think is completely true or always the case.

Now Im beginning to think she smiles while looking into meonly because she giving up hope that Im actually there. Maybe she can't see my point of view, she touches her hair sometimes like all girls do, but shes left me, she doesn't hang on to my as much, yet more than a lot still. Maybe now is good time to just let her go for a little while. I feel like Ive grown a lot yet I keep waking up in this young body.

Im actually not really attracted as much as I was, shes beautiful and cute and all but, she doesn't share the same feelings as me. Never the less I vision her someone awesome to know....

Would appreciate some more suggestions, ribbings, or other jarrings tonight.

miles
 
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