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What actually defines a "cougar"?

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It's obviously subjective but I'd generally say the woman has to be over 30 and the man has to be under 30, with at least a 10 year age gap.
 

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I would say maybe 15-20 years older and she is in a provider role.
 

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A woman in her mid 40s or older that actively look for young guys in their 20s to have as "boy toys" and actively use them for sex.
 

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So if I am reading this right, it doesn't really mean 10+ year age difference as much as it means that the guy has to be in his 20s.
And the woman has to be mid 40s or older and actively on the prowl for those young guys and basically escalates with them and gives her pvssy up quickly and easily. Think ONS from a young guy she took home from the bar.
 

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And the woman has to be mid 40s or older and actively on the prowl for those young guys and basically escalates with them and gives her pvssy up quickly and easily. Think ONS from a young guy she took home from the bar.
I feel that the 20s thing is a bit dicey since tons of early thirties guys can easily pass for twenties and plus, late twenties and early thirties are kind of the same for me. IMO, either let it be 21 and younger for a guy or else not much to differentiate other than drinking and being allowed into bars. Then again, I don't write these rules haha.
 

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I feel that the 20s thing is a bit dicey since tons of early thirties guys can easily pass for twenties and plus, late twenties and early thirties are kind of the same for me. IMO, either let it be 21 and younger for a guy or else not much to differentiate other than drinking and being allowed into bars. Then again, I don't write these rules haha.
I'm under the assumption she screens for age and asks them. 98% of guys are not going to lie about that if asked directly.
 

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Interesting, I have seen a lot of 26 year old dudes who look 35+ due to premature balding and 35 year old dudes who look like in their 20s.
Usually cougars have friends who are also cougars and it kind of becomes a competition between them. Who can fvck the youngest guy when they are out. How do I know this?

I had a friend whose Mom was a cougar
 

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Usually cougars have friends who are also cougars and it kind of becomes a competition between them. Who can fvck the youngest guy when they are out. How do I know this?

I had a friend whose Mom was a cougar
I see. From my observations, it differs on quality too. It seems like more of the uglier cougars try to play up more to the porn memes of old woman chasing college kid. The better looking ones just want the hottest piece of whatever they can get their hands on, to them, 10 years younger is young. Then again, I don't think people ever specify when they say cougars chase young guys and it seems like "young" is super subjective in American society.
 

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Cougar = still sexy, attractive, and active young grandma currently sexually chasing guys before she completely dries up …
 

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So if I am reading this right, it doesn't really mean 10+ year age difference as much as it means that the guy has to be in his 20s.
If the guy is 18-19 that would be even more cougar.

Whereas the woman has to be old enough to qualify as an older woman. (A 29 year old woman dating a 20 year old man is probably not going to be considered a cougar)

I don't even know if cougars are a real thing outside of porn. Although I do have a friend who claims to have banged a Japanese woman in her 30s off of Tinder when he was 18.
 

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A cougar is definitely an older woman who has sex with younger men. I agree with the 10+ year age gap. It is usually men under 35, and mostly under 30. I've known a 45 year old woman who was having sex with a 32 year old man, that counts as a cougar to me.
 

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In my mind a Cougar is a childless woman who is older than you. If she is not childless but she is hot, she would be a MILF, regardless of her age.
 

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If she is not childless but she is hot, she would be a MILF, regardless of her age.
I agree. An attractive 25 year old woman with a child is a MILF. When most people think of MILFs, it is women over 30 though.

I remember being 21 and in a bar doing an approach on a woman who turned out to be 23 and she already had a kid. She was a MILF because I approached her and I go for attractive women. I was surprised because this was a college bar. It was rare for non-college women to be at this bar. I was a college senior at the time. She wasn't a college student at the "Hot Girl U" that I attended.
 

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Interesting, I have seen a lot of 26 year old dudes who look 35+ due to premature balding and 35 year old dudes who look like in their 20s.
You are worried about qualifying for a cougar? What happened to your SMV?
 

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I'm not being racist but for a long time I assumed a cougar to be an attractive , older white woman with dirty blonde hair and big t1ts , usually in her early to mid 40's
Usually married and looking to screw around
 
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