What about when the break-up is your fault??

[drake]

What do you think about that? I mean I broke up with this girl cause I felt that she was putting me to far down the list of priorities. Well, the first 5 months I dated her.....I never made her a priority, I never went to her house, I never got flowers and sh$t, never really treated her like an LTR. I just thought this would be another girl that come and goes and that I would put minimal effort and still maintain my lifestyle. Well, that bit me in the ass!! She turned into an LTR (8months) and I still treated her like she wasnt. So I broke up with her, when really I should have probably been a better Bf and we would not have gotten the roles to reverse!! I would like to try and date her again, but be the guy I should be in an LTR. Then see what happens.
Any Ideas.
Try to get her back (cause she is good girl)???
Or move on!! She has given it HER all, but I have not given it MY all. Too late to save?? Not worth it???
She told me she don't trust me enough not to hurt her to tak me back right now. "needs her space I believe she said"
I just half assed it with a girl that should have gotten the LTR me (so to speak)!!
Any help??

 

[WaterTiger]

If she says "I need space" this means "outer space". She'd actually like to strap your butt to a rocket ship & send you to Neptune.

It's impossible to get her back. She'll never trust you again & would make you jump through 10,000 hoops to "prove" yourself to her. Don't put yourself through it, just mark it down to a romantic screw-up.

You know what you did wrong. Learn from your errors. (This DOES NOT mean to shower the next girl with gifts, flowers and AFC-ness. But when you find another "keeper"? Don;t make her wait so long to know she's better than the other girls.

 

[drake]

Ouch!!! I remember after dating her for a couple months and I asked for some space. All I really wanted was her outta my hair for a week so I could think about some sh$t. Outer space is pretty far away. Especially for our first break up.
WHo knows!

 

[Paid Laid & Made]

*Shotgun Blast* ... Yeah, you better move on. **** happens and you learn. 8 months and she did not kick your ass to the curb is amazing to me. Don't worry you have probably ruined her for rest of male kind.

 

[drake]

Well, I hope I did ruin her for all man kind. Except me. This is just a crazy situation because I have booty calls calling me and I don't want them. I want to try and be with someone and make something work. Like fall in love you know. Im sure im going to get reemed for using that word. The dating seen is getting old, and I feel like I found something good and I let it go because of my own insecurities. She proved her love over and over to me, and then I dumped her because I was afraid to love back. I just think something could be done on my part. That's all.

 

[drixsa]

drake a guy by the name of Anti-Dump once said that you should treat every girl the same for the first two months.

i think you might find some depth in that

u also might want to do a search on him

listened you have experienced

this girl is done with but you have learned

 

[drake]

This girls IL was at 90% for 5 months. That is well past anti-dumps 2 month mark that her refers to. She did not break up with me, I broke up with her. But I should have did the "wait 3 days thing" and thought about it some more because I would not be here right now. I feel like I had this girl "locked-in" and should have stop playing the hard to get sh(t and start saying yes a little more. But I didn't. I feel like I owe her the "good" part of me. That stupid little player man inside of me kept jabbing in my ear and made me push away a good girl. You guys say Dj's dont come crawling back. But Dj's make mistakes, and my mistakes might have costed me. Girls are all over the place, yes. I have no problems meeting them. But shouldn't some more effort be given by me to try and keep a great girl?? Great girls don't grow on trees. AVERAGE girls do.
Drake.

 

[jbbrain]

You went overboard on the techniques, not because you embodied them and were a true man, but because you were insecure. (which is ok)

The techniques u see outlined here are not really what they seem to be. Theyre better interpreted as products of being a man.

Work on becoming a man. Once you have the right mindset theres hardly anything you can do to make her disrespect you.

It's about achieving a blance, and that balance is achieved when youre a self respecting, happy person.