What a woman really wants... is a man.

[Checkmate12]

Since Ive been on SS, a few things have been consistently pounded into my brain. Number 1 is BE A MAN. Not the classic macho-tough guy, just a man. Take the womans thoughts/feelings into consideration but when it comes down to it you must take the lead and show her that you are in control. When you lose the woman's respect, you lose the woman.

I took this girl Ive been pursuing an LTR with for the past month or two out to a favorite hiking spot of mine. It was a huge success. Not only did this date highlight my fun, adventurous side, it provided ample opportunity to exercise some alpha qualities in subtle ways. I had drawn up a crude little map of the wildlife refuge we were on and took us to various places throughout the day. Throughout the entire trek up this mountain I made sure to be in front. A seemingly insignificant detail, yet it showed that I was the leader and I was taking us where we needed to go. When we had to climb, I offered her my hand and pulled her up or helped her get down from boulders, etc. When we came to spots where the going was tough I surveyed the scene briefly and was decisive about what path we should take next. The whole way up we kept the conversation fun and joked around quite a bit.

During our hike she half-jokingly told me to "shut up." Alright. We had been teasing each other so no big deal. About 30 min later she said it again. This time I stopped in my tracks, turned around and half-jokingly said "If you tell me to shut up one more time..." The look on her face was priceless. It was a "wow, I cant believe he just called me on that" kind of look. "Ahh, im sorry im sorry" she said. Later on in the day she caught herself halfway through saying it, stopped and apologized. haha This wasn't a big ordeal at all but I felt that it was a very subtle way, even in a playful atmosphere to keep the respect alive.

At the end of the day she commented on how she loved how much of a leader I was and how I always had a plan for us when we went out. She even straight up said "I want my voice to be heard but I also need a man who can lead me and you have consistently shown that you are fully capable of that."

All in all, I just wanted to share this little success story with you guys. The basic principles of this site are on point. Everyone who contributes here, give yourself a little pat on the back!

 

[floydb25]

Not the classic macho-tough guy, just a man. Take the womans thoughts/feelings into consideration but when it comes down to it you must take the lead and show her that you are in control.

Yes... Contrary to popular belief, women don't respond as favorably to testosterone-driven, "big", macho, tough guys. Y'know, the *******s who can't get **** for women - due to lacking in looks and personality - and act like retarded, alcoholic, ape-like bullies instead. Most of these guys end up with one woman - usually resulting in marriage and divorce. They're "protective" and "masculine", but not very attractive, or funny, easy-going, charming, etc. Nor are they original, clever / witty, thoughtful, or entertaining.

IME, the skinny (yet athletic), pretty, laid back (yet socially adept), charming, funny, ****y guys get the most women. They DO listen, are out-going, interesting, and "cool", and can relate to most anyone well. Chicks love 'em; they can relate to them in many ways, and they dress to impress. And they're "hot". Most people are so average and bland and boring - it's not even funny. They don't know how to dress, their social skills are mediocre, they have no humor (or sense of it), and all they can do is talk **** about everyone else.

At the same time, some of us in the latter category fail(ed) because of a lack of assertiveness or leadership skills, no backbone, etc. Definitely gotta man up if you want respect from ANYONE. Especially if you're not of a strong, masculine build... can't be a shy, weak, pushover, or you'll get trounced and disrespected by everyone. Don't act like a sissy girl, or you'll get treated like one.

And it's not that hard of a balance to find. You don't have to go all-out (and will probably get bullied, by attracting even more *******s if you do)... just stand up for yourself, be a little more assertive, learn to lead, speak up, have sufficient boundaries, do NOT allow people to disrespect you (lest you get bullied, as you already aren't a "tough guy" or physical threat)... chicks dig the sweetness, humor, down-to-earthness, and emotional compatiblity of personality- driven guys. That's a HUGE plus. Just don't be insecure or afraid. You don't even have to be THAT assertive or "strong", but definitely act like a man - and be exciting and sexual, too.

Douche bags, buff apes, and *******s aren't as successful as everyone thinks... not even for short-term affairs. Even down here, I see a lot of out-going, socially adept pretty boys with very attractive women. Just as it was up north, and probably everywhere else.

 

[DonGorgon]

lol no.. modern women want many men so that she can get all she wants and need with out commitment and being controlled ...females a living now the way that men used to live in the 80s and 90s...