What a AFC Mistake!!

[Gremlin]

Okay here is goes. Meet a girl 2 weeks ago through my mother. Its my mothers friends daugther. Arranged to go to a pub with mothers so i can make her feel comfortable and make her ***** shield drop. Success. Scored. Managed to get back to her house for some snogging and had my hand in her bra ( big mistake ). I said i would call her and arrange something. She was surpossed to come on mine on saturday and watch rugby with her mom but her mom cancelled. I sent her a txt on thursday asking her if she was coming ( Another mistake ). I got no reply nothing. ( 1st clue )

I decieded to leave it and on sunday went to the pub with my mother and her mom. Her mother said she would find out what was going on. I found out on tuesday from her mom that she liked me. Decieded to leave a message on her voice mail. She got back to me later that day by txt. so this is where i decieded to see if she liked me. this is how the txting went :-

Her : Sorry just got your message can't phone you cause at work but can txt. Working late tonight. What u been up 2
Me : Just work and paintball. What u doing this weekend?
Her : Girlie night out and u?
Me : Out with paintball mates. What u doing on sunday?
Her : Recovering ha ha
Me : Come round to mine on sunday, we can watch a movie and grab something to eat
Her : i don't think i can b bothered coz i no i'll b tired ( major clue )
Now i wanted to see how much **** she could dish out
Me : Okay i'll come to yours and bring the movies.
Her : thats nice but i jusy wanna b by myself & b lazy, mabye next weekend thou ( BULL **** )
Okay this is where i could care a **** and decieded **** it
Me : Just be frank with me do u like me yes or no answer. Because from your answer u seem to be dodging seeing me.
Her : im sorry its just ive got 2 much going on rite now. Mabye we could meet up in the future.

Okay I haven't txted her back but looks like she didn't like me. I should have just forgot about it when i never recieved a answer back. But i have learnt from my mistakes. Now i am asking you what should i reply back with or should i leave it. I want her to know that i can see thought all her lie. Here is some info for the newbie DJ's in spotting a lady doesn't like You

Her : i don't think i can b bothered coz i no i'll b tired ( If a women really liked u she wouldn't turn you down like that, she would wanna be with u )

Just my thoughts what u guys think??

Cheers

PS: Any comments a critism ( Think that's how u spell it ) welcome.

 

[Life-Trainee]

Is that a big thing in UK to bring your mother along to a pub?

 

[m4a1]

Just my thoughts what u guys think??

I think you've got a lot to learn.

 

[Gremlin]

M4a1 everyone has to start somewhere. i wish i had found this site when it frist started would have saved me alot of hassle. But as u said i got alot to learn and u are right.

 

[ryanvalmont]

Originally posted by Life-Trainee
Is that a big thing in UK to bring your mother along to a pub?

Ummmm i don't know how to answer that one,of course it's not normal.

NOBODY goes to the pub over in the UK with there mum,unless it's a special occasion i guess.

 

[Desdinova]

Her : i don't think i can b bothered coz i no i'll b tired ( major clue )

Here's where you should've either called her on her 5hit, or ditched her. I would have told her "Okay, enjoy cuddling with your pillow. Goodbye"

Goodbye is a powerful word when you use it on a woman. It makes them feel as if they've missed out on something.

Don't bother responding. Move on.

 

[ego]

": Just be frank with me do u like me yes or no answer. "


Never ask a woman/girl if she like you or not. It makes you sound desperate.


But don't feel bad for this man, everybody makes mistakes. Remember that the things that doesn't kill you only makes you stronger.

Simply Ignore here.

 

[diablo]

Well, here's what I think. Your bringing both her and your mothers along with you was a bad move, whether it was to a pub or to a cafe. You put her under pressure - she didn't know you from the guy she sat next to on the tube last week, and was expected by her mother to sit down and make conversation... indeed, she was likely expected to do more than just make conversation. It's one thing to be introduced to someone, it's quite another to have your mother tell you about what a great person someone is, how maybe you have something in common, and then go along with you on your date with him! Indeed, you in effect (and literally) brought your mom and her mom on your first date! Now, this might be just me but I would have rather it gone something more like: Your mom and her mom say that perhaps you should get to know each other. Since you're 24, and she's likely around the same age, you both agree to meet sometime for whatever activity it is you choose to do. There's no moms looking at you evaluating every word you say, and there's not nearly as much tension...

Now, on to another thing I noticed - the part where you "put my hand in her bra". You're 24. Not 14. "Feeling a girl up" is fine for when you're in the grasps of puberty, but it's quite a different thing when you're that old. I'm 21, and I can't remember the last time I've put my hand in a girls bra... Instead, I help her take it off. If she's willing to let you touch her breasts, she'll let you do it without clothing covering them. Perhaps others here have a different opinion, and disagree with mine, but I've found that by eliminating the "oooo i touched a girls boob!", it actually gets me into her pants that much quicker.

Now, on to the last part - your txt message. You say that you found out that she liked you from her mom. Now, are you sure that she liked you, and it wasn't her mom that liked you? Oftentimes mothers will absolutely adore a guy, thinking that he's just perfect for their daughter... who has quite the opposite opionion of the potential suitor (and at your age, and the circumstances of your mothers both trying to hook you up, thats what this is!) The girls actions seem to be in direct contradiction to her mothers words... and I always believe actions over what people say, any day. I digress - your txt: I wouldn't have called her out like that at the end. It puts too much pressure on her, and makes you appear needy and/or insecure... instead, it's my belief that you should have just ended it there and ignored her. If her mom is correct, and she does like you, then she would have re-initiated contact. If she's telling the truth about needing a day to recover after a Saturday night out drinking (and I often need a day of just laying around, not seeing or talking to anyone before I begin to feel human again...) then she would have gotten back in touch with you.

However, that's just my .02

 

[Gremlin]

Diablo

She said she wanted to meet me. Her mom and my mother left shortly after we meet and we stayed in the bar for alot longer and kept eye contact and did some kino on her.

About the bra part your right i just thought that that might have been the cause. I am 25 now and she is 18 so mabye she see's thing differentlly.

You right i should have left it and seen if she did get back to me. Oh well i've learnt from my mistake and thanks guy for your comments. Now its time to move on and Call NEXT!!