We're all fake people

[Fender]

That's probaly the main problem , many people here try to simulate a real man instead of being one.

All that AFC and Dj thing is BULL****.
All this ''fake'' Don Juans try to creating nothing but a wall around them , which hides their weaknesses , their insecuritys , because they are afraid that people might not see them as something they want to be , a DJ.
Your GF will discover them ,deal with it and **** it , you don't have to be the perfect Dj who follows all the rules , that's nothing but a fantasy and the rules after they helped you to get her , come back to hunt you.

Instead of building a new personality around the old one , why not ****ing face WHO YOU ARE and what your weaknesses are.
When you tell yourself 1000 you're the man , then you lie to yourself and you know it deep down , but if you actually faced , ACCEPTED who you are , who you were and who you want to be , then your inner voice will strenghted you instead of weaken.

Seriosly , forget this site , everything you learned here , just forget it.
All you need to know is your goal in life and enjoy it , instead of wasting time trying to become someone you aren't.

I don't know how to became a man with true confidence , because when you have it , you just don't care about it anymore and forget it.

Because it's just that unimportant for you , while for someone who is fake , ths is everything.

Amen. I wouldn't say forget EVERYTHING you learnt here. There ARE bits n' pieces of gold in here. But the noise to signal ratio is certainly very high.

Lurker, you've missed the entire point of the post. I'm not saying its a conscious CHOICE to revert back to an AFC. It just "Happens." If you've never had this happen to you, its probably because you either have no insecurities, or because you've never been deep in love before.

And fake it till you make it is imho, the worst thing you can do. It'll get you girls, sure. But in terms of personal satisfaction and growth, its a monster.

 

[MVPlaya]

This post is blind, most of you don't understand what the hell DJ'ing is:

its a seduction act.

Thats all. When I walk into a room I don't give a **** what some random girl thinks about cologne on my left and right wrist, dating a guy who still talks to his ex, whether two girls have the same color shampoo, what color Elvis' hair is, or how the ladder leans against her cube. All of this is pretentious bull**** we use to get laid. Thats it. And you know what, for some of us it works and its enjoyable.

But a relationship is not a pickup game. You guys refer to love, affection, and interdependancy as being AFC, I see that as being who you are, and who you have to be. God I would ****ing puke or kill myself if my entire life had to be an act from birth to death so that I could present a false image and base my self-worth on how other people interpret my DJ'ism. This site teaches you some errors that you notice about yourself and eliminate, but it does not make you cold or immune to attraction to women (and if it did, I'm not sure what the point of visiting this site would be, asides from misogyny).

You might say we're being fake with all our DJ games and peacocked clothing, but I have to say I'm glad. I'd be seriously depressed if these were our real selves. DJ'ing taught me some simple concepts on self-worth in a relationship, self-restraint, making women chase you, and building social networks outside of dating, but no ****ing Bible is ever going to tell me how to love someone and why never to admit love or affection, thats neither healthy nor satisfying, those of you who follow DJ'ism to that degree have much bigger problems than the "AFC reverts."

 

[MrS]

A lot of people here are fake, or put their DJ suit on when approaching 0or going out, but few are truly enlightened.
I am.
Athankyou.